Ukujongana nezinja eziSensitive kakhulu

Kanye njengokuba kungekho nyaniso enye kuphela, akukho ukuqonda enye kuphela. Ezinye izinja zibuthathaka okanye zoyika kunezinye. Omnye uthetha ngovakalelo oluphezulu. Ngaba kukuthuthumbisa okanye sisipho? Uzelwe okanye ufunyenwe?

Indoda exubeneyo enguShushu ibuya umva kuyo yonke inkukuma ebumnyameni kwaye iba ndlongondlongo xa ibona imitshayelo kunye neambrela. UShushu wenza iqhina lakhe, utsho umgcini uTatjana S. * waseZurich Unterland. “Ndandinaye kwasebuntwaneni, akukho kwanto eyenzeka kuye.” Udla ngokucinga ukuba inja eyinkunzi ayifanele iziphathe ngolo hlobo. Emva koko kwakhona uyamsizela. Ngaba uShushu yi-mimosa?

I-Mimosa ligama elibi. Iphuma kwintyatyambo ekhazimla ngeetoni eziviolet okanye ezityheli. Isityalo esibuthathaka kakhulu kwaye esithambileyo, nangona kunjalo, sisonga amagqabi aso ngokuchukumisa nje kancinane okanye impepho yequbuliso kwaye sihlala kule ndawo yokukhusela isiqingatha seyure ngaphambi kokuba sivule kwakhona. Ngoko ke, abantu abanovelwano kakhulu, abantu kunye nezilwanyana bathiywa ngegama le mimosa.

Kufuneka Adlule Kuloo Nto – Akunjalo?

Uvakalelo oluphezulu luyabonakala kwiimeko ezininzi kwaye kaninzi luchaphazela zonke iimvakalelo. Yiba kukukotshwa kwewotshi, ebonwa njengento ecaphukisayo, ivumba lerhuluwa ngoMhla woNyaka oMtsha, okanye umbane oqaqambe kakhulu. Izinja ezininzi zisoloko zinovelwano kakhulu xa ziphathwa, azifuni kuchukunyiswa ngabantu abangabaziyo, okanye zilale kumgangatho onzima kwi-café.

Kwelinye icala, abantu abanovelwano kakhulu banovelwano kakhulu, babona ezona mvakalelo zintle kunye nokungcangcazela, kwaye bangaze bazivumele ukuba bakhohliswe ngabalingane babo. Ugqirha wezilwanyana uBela F. Wolf uthi kwincwadi yakhe ethi “Ngaba inja yakho inobuntununtunu kakhulu?” “Abantu nezilwanyana ezizalwa onobuthathaka abanazo isihluzo kwinkqubo yabo yemithambo-luvo ebenza bakwazi ukwahlula izinto ezibalulekileyo kwizinto ezingabalulekanga.” Ngamanye amagama, awukwazi ukuvala nje ingxolo ecaphukisayo yangasemva okanye ivumba elibi, uhlala ujongene nabo. Ifana ne-injini yemoto esisigxina ngokusisigxina. Kwaye ekubeni zonke ezi zivuseleli kufuneka ziqwalaselwe kuqala, kunokubakho ukwanda kokukhululwa kweehomoni zoxinzelelo.

Uvakalelo oluphezulu asiyonto intsha. Kwafundwa kwinkulungwane edlulileyo yi-physiologist yaseRashiya u-Ivan Petrovich Pavlov. U-Pavlov, owaziwa kakhulu ngokufumanisa kwakhe i-classical conditioning (eyamzuzisela iBhaso likaNobel), wafumanisa ukuba ukuba novelwano kubangela ukuba usabele ngendlela eyahlukileyo kwiimeko ezithile kunokuba ulindeleke ukuba wenze. Yaye izilwanyana zisabela ngokwethuku. Bahlehla, barhoxe, okanye bacaphuke. Ekubeni abaninizo ngokuqhelekileyo bengayiqondi indlela abasabela ngayo, bayazikhalimela izinja zabo okanye bazinyanzele ukuba zivume. Ngokutsho kwesaci: "Kufuneka adlule kuyo!" Ekuhambeni kwexesha, iziphumo ziyingozi kwaye zikhokelela kwizigulo zomzimba okanye zengqondo. Kwaye ngokungafaniyo nabantu, abanokufumana unyango, izinja zihlala zishiywe kwizixhobo zazo.

Isikhumbuzo samava aNtuthukileyo

Ke ufumanisa njani ukuba inja yakho inovelwano kakhulu? Ukuba wenza uphando oluncinci, uya kudibana nenani lemibuzo enenjongo yokunika ulwazi. Ingcuka ikwanovavanyo olulungeleyo kwincwadi yakhe kwaye ibuza imibuzo efana nethi "Ingaba inja yakho iyaziva iintlungu?", "Ngaba inja yakho isabela kakhulu xa ixinezelekile kwindawo apho kukho isiphithiphithi kunye nengxolo?", "Uba novalo kwaye uxinezeleke kakhulu abantu abaliqela bathetha naye ngaxeshanye yaye akakwazi ukuyiphepha loo meko?” kwaye "Ngaba inja yakho ifunyenwe inesifo sokungadli ukutya okuthile?" Ukuba unokuphendula ewe kwisiqingatha semibuzo yakhe engama-34, inja inokuba novakalelo kakhulu.

Le nto idla ngokuzalwa, nto leyo engenzi kube lula ukuyiqonda. Kulula ngakumbi nge-hypersensitivity efunyenweyo ebangelwa ngamava abuhlungu ukuba inja ikhunjuzwa ngokungazi okanye ngokungazi kwiimeko ezithile. Apha unokusebenza kuyo - ubuncinci ukuba imbangela iyaziwa. Ebantwini, oku kudla ngokubizwa ngokuba yi-post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), ukusabela okulibaziseka kwengqondo kwisiganeko esicinezelayo esikhatshwa ziimpawu ezifana nokucaphuka, ukuphaphama, kunye nokutsiba.

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Kwi-Wolf, amava abuhlungu anokukhokelela ekudakaleni kwezinja okanye kuhlaselo lwe-leash oluhlala ludibana. Wolf uqinisekile ukuba i-PTSD inika ingcaciso phantse yonke into eyenza izinja zibe ndlongondlongo. Kodwa yiloo nto kanye abaninzi ekuthiwa zizikolo zezinja kunye nabaqeqeshi abangayiqondiyo. Imeko ekhokelela ekuphathweni kakubi. Ngokomzekelo, ucaphula into ebizwa ngokuba yialpha throw, apho inja iphoswa emqolo ize ibanjwe de ivume. “Ukujijisana nesilwanyana ngaphandle kwesizathu nokusoyikisa ukuba sife asiyompatho yenkohlakalo kuphela kwizilwanyana, koko ukwaphula ukuthenjwa komniniyo,” utsho ugqirha wezilwanyana. Ayikokukhaba, iinqindi, okanye ukuzithoba kusisisombululo, kodwa ngokuchaseneyo. Ngapha koko, inja eyonzakeleyo sele ifumene ugonyamelo olwaneleyo.

Kuyanceda ukuba unexesha lokuphumla kubomi bemihla ngemihla, akanyanzelekanga ukuba anyamezele naziphi na iimeko ezicinezelayo, kwaye abe nenkqubo yesiqhelo yemihla ngemihla. NgokukaWolf, nangona kunjalo, ukuba ufuna ngokwenene ukuyiphilisa, eyona nto uyidingayo kuqala luthando olungenasiphelo, uvelwano kunye nobuchule.