UMary Allen
Ukukhulisa iikati ngempumelelo akusoloko kulula, kodwa kusesona siseko silungileyo sokuhlalisana okuhambelanayo kunye noxinzelelo. Imithetho embalwa ebalulekileyo inokukunceda ukuba wenze ukukhuliswa kube nentsingiselo kunye nobuhlobo bekati kangangoko kunokwenzeka.
Ukuba ufuna ukuqeqesha ikati yakho, kufuneka uqale ubeke imithetho apho onke amalungu osapho aya kuyilandela ukususela ngoku ukuya phambili. Musa ukubuza kakhulu ikati yakho. Nangona kufuneka athobele imithetho, udinga indawo eyaneleyo kunye namathuba okuphumla kwaye axakeke.
An lwasezindlwini Ikati enommandla omncinci oqulathe kuphela imimandla engafanelekanga ayisayi kuphinda ibambelele kuyo nayiphi na imigaqo ngenxa yonxunguphalo. Yiba nobulungisa kwaye uqwalasele inkululeko yekati yakho xa ubeka imithetho.
Ukukhulisa iikati ngempumelelo: Ukuhambelana kunye nomonde
Nje ukuba umisele imigaqo, kubalulekile ukuba ikati yakho iziqhelanise nayo kwasekuqaleni, ngaphandle kokukhetha. Yiba ungaguquguquki! Ikati engavumelekanga ukuba itsibe etafileni yasekhitshini mayingaze ivunyelwe, nokuba isekhaya yodwa.
Kwimeko yokuthandabuza, oku kuthetha ukuba kufuneka uvale umnyango wekhitshi ngeli xesha. Ikati ikhumbula yonke into kwaye ayiqondi ukuba kutheni ngamanye amaxesha krwempa iphepha lodonga kwaye ngamanye amaxesha akunjalo. Ke ngalo lonke ixesha ubamba ikati yakho esenzweni, yithi "Hayi!" ngaphandle kakhulu. kwaye uzibeke. Eyona nto ilungileyo kukumnika enye indlela enomtsalane ngakumbi.
Indumiso vs Yohlwaya
Ukoyikisa ikati ayiyondlela ilungileyo yoqeqesho. Konke okungaphezulu unokufezekisa kunye naye ngendumiso. Ukuba ikati yakho ikrwempa iphepha lokunamathisela odongeni, yifumanele indawo entle, eyomeleleyo yokukrwela apho inokuthi ilole iinzipho zayo ngokokuthanda kwayo. Ngalo lonke ixesha eyisebenzisa, mdumise ngelizwi elithambileyo, isilwanyana sasekhaya, okanye umthobe.
Iya kuqonda ngokukhawuleza ukuba ukukrwela iphepha lodonga akubalulekanga kangako kunokukrwempa kwindawo echongiweyo. Yinto enye ne ibhokisi yenkunkuma: ukuba ikati yakho ayisebenzisi, yithi "Hayi!" uze uzibeke kwindawo ekhethiweyo. Apho, badumise njengesiqhelo.
Uncedo kuQeqesho lwekati
Ukuba ufuna ukuxhasa yakho uqeqesho ikati ngesixhobo, uninzi lwazo lunentsingiselo egqibeleleyo. Oku kuquka imiyalelo yomlomo engaguqukiyo enokuthi ikati iqonde (“Hayi!”), umpu we-squirt, ingxolo enkulu (ukubetha izandla), iziphumo kunye ikati ukomelezwa okulungileyo.
Iikati akufuneki zibethwe, zingxoliswe, okanye zivalelwe. Ukuziphatha okunjalo akunakuchaphazela kuphela ukuziphatha kwekati yendlu yakho kodwa kunye nobudlelwane bakhe kunye nokuthembela kuwe. Ungafezekisa kakhulu ngeekati ngokuzola, umonde, ukungaguquguquki, kunye nobulungisa.