UMary Allen
Ukuxhalaba kwizinja kuhlala kungumxholo ongathandekiyo kakhulu. Izinto ezininzi ezingenabungozi ngokugqibeleleyo kuthi zinokoyikisa kwaye zoyike inja ngomzuzwana.
Uninzi lwexhalaNoko ke, unezizathu ezivakalayo. Yiba ukuba isilwanyana siye saba namava amabi kwixesha elidlulileyo okanye ngokulula sidibanisa imeko esongela inja nomntu othile.
Ngoko kunokwenzeka ukuba umhlobo othandekayo onemilenze emine ngokukhawuleza uyaxhuzula ngokuxhalaba xa ufuna ukumbamba okanye ungafuni ukufakwa kwintambo.
Inja ngokukhawuleza yoyika umnakekeli wayo. Eli liphupha elibi kuye nawuphi na umnini wenja. Kodwa yintoni onokuyenza ukuze ususe olu loyiko kwisilwanyana?
Ixhala elifika ngesiquphe
Konke kwenzeka ngesiquphe. Inja yayingumntu nje othanda ukuhlala naye. Kwiiyure ezimbalwa kamva, uya kudada ukuba ufuna ukumbamba.
Inja iyala ukuchukunyiswa, yenqaba ukufakwa kwi-leash, kwaye ibuyele umva xa uhamba ukuya kuyo.
Ngenxa yoko, isilwanyana sinokude sikhonkothe ngokuxhalabileyo, siqalise ukugquma, kwaye mhlawumbi side sikubethe.
Emva koko unengxaki enkulu. Eyakho inja iyakoyika. Ngoku kufuneka usabele koku ngokukhawuleza okukhulu. Okokuqala nokuphambili, kubalulekile ukufumana unobangela ngenxa yoloyiko olungenangqiqo.
Ukuxhalaba kuqhelekile ngokupheleleyo kwizinja
Uloyiko yindlela eqhelekileyo yokuziphatha kwezilwanyana ukuzikhusela. Nangona kunjalo, uloyiko oluninzi lunzima kakhulu ukuba siluqonde okanye ayinakuqondwa kukonke.
Amava abuhlungu omnye ahlala anele ukuba abahlobo bethu abanemilenze emine babonakalise uloyiko. Umzekelo, isiqhushumbisi esikhulu soNyaka Omtsha leyo iqhuma ecaleni kwenja yakho.
Siyazi kumgaqo womvuzo ukuba izinja zinokunxulumanisa imeko ngento entle. Nangona kunjalo, oku kusebenza kunye nemibono engalunganga. Omnye ke uthetha ngekhonkco elingalunganga.
Inja yakho inokuziva ifuna intlungu ngelixa uyiphulula okanye uyibambe. Ngoku udibanisa le ntlungu nawe.
Isilwanyana asiyazi ukuba intlungu ayinanto yakwenza nawe. Noko ke, indlela asabela ngayo kukoyika wena, kwanaxa iintlungu sele ziphelile.
Cinga ngako kwaye ucinge emva kwimeko ukuba oku kunokubangela uloyiko. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, lawula intlungu ngokuthatha isilwanyana kwi-vet.
Yiphephe imeko ebangela ixhala
Usebenzisa umgaqo ofanayo, ngoku unokuqwalasela iimeko ezahlukahlukeneyo inokuba yayisoyikisa ngenxa yenja kutshanje. Awuyi kuhlala uphumelela, kuba imvakalelo yokuba inja inokuba ngumntu kakhulu.
Uloyiko olunjalo lunjalo uloyiko olufundwayo. Ilungile loo nto kuba yonke into efundiweyo inokuphinda ifundwe.
Ngoku kubalulekile ukuphepha iimeko ezibangela uloyiko kwinja. Hlala usondele kuye ngokuzolileyo kangangoko kunokwenzeka.
Ndilubuyisela njani uloyiko lwenja yam?
Musa ukusondela ngqo kwinja yakho, mvumele eze kuwe. Musa ukurhweba isilwanyana.
Nje ukuba eze kuwe ngokuthanda kwakhe, ungaphosa a baphathe ukumnika ukuqiniswa okuqinisekileyo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ungaze uyinyanzele inja ukuba ibe kufutshane nawe.
Zama ukutshintsha isiseko amasiko. Enye yezi inokuba ukufaka intambo. Thatha nje enye intambo ukuze uhambe. Kwakhona, musa ukufaka intambo kwinja njengoko ubuya kwenza. Musa ukunxiba impahla yakho yenja yesiqhelo, zama into eyahlukileyo.
Nje ukuba uqhubele phambili, soloko unika uqinisekiso olulungileyo olukhawulezileyo. Nangona kunjalo, ezi ngcebiso zokuqala zicetyiswa kuphela ukuba uloyiko alukabi nzulu.
Kwimeko nayiphi na into, kusacetyiswa ukuba ufumane uncedo olongezelelweyo kumqeqeshi wezinja.
Fumana uncedo
Ukuba inja iye yakoyika ixesha elide, oku sele kusungulwe. Apha kulapho kuba nzima kakhulu ukusebenza.
Kwimeko enjalo, kufuneka ubuze umqeqeshi wezinja onamava ukufumana iingcebiso. Uyakwazi ukuxhasa unyango ngobungcali. Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uya kufumanisa unxibelelwano obungakhange ucinge ngalo. So andizuzama mna ixesha elide.
Ukuba inja iyamoyika umnakekeli wayo, oku kunokuphela kabuhlungu. Kufuneka usoloko usabele ngokukhawuleza kangangoko ukuba inja yakho ibonisa uloyiko.
Umbuzo obuzwa rhoqo
Kutheni inja yam indoyika ngokukhawuleza?
Ukuba inja yakho ngequbuliso ibonakalisa ukukoyika, oku akulophawu lulungileyo kwaye inyathelo elingxamisekileyo liyafuneka! Isinye kwisithathu soonobangela bokukhathazeka ngequbuliso sinoonobangela bezonyango. Iintlungu ezibuhlungu kunye nombono okanye ukungeva kakuhle zezona zizathu zixhaphakileyo.
Ndilukhupha njani uloyiko kwinja exhalabileyo?
Ukuhlafuna ixesha elide kufanelekile kule meko kuba inja yakho exhalabileyo ihlala ixesha elide "kwimo yokuphumla". Ukudlala kwindawo ekufutshane nako kunokuzolisa umhlobo wakho onemilenze emine. Kungcono ukusebenzisa into yokudlala osele uqhelene nayo. Nantoni na entsha inokucaphukisa ngakumbi.
Kutheni inja yam ngokukhawuleza kangaka?
Izinja ezingazange zidibane nabantu ngexesha lesigaba sokuprinta zihlala zigxuma ngokungaqhelekanga kwaye zisabela ngokukhawuleza kwingxolo yemihla ngemihla (ingxolo evela kwisitalato, iincoko ezivakalayo, umsebenzi wokwakha). Ukwahlula umama wenja kwangoko kakhulu kunokuba neziphumo ezibulalayo.
Ndingenza njani ukuze inja yam ingoyiki abantu?
Thetha nenja yakho ngokukhuthazayo kwaye uyiqinisekise kwaye uyivuze ngokuyiphatha xa isondela kumntu ongamaziyo. Thatha ixesha lakho kwaye wenze lo msebenzi kuphela imizuzu embalwa ngexesha. Inja yakho ibeka isantya ngelixa uyikhuthaza nje.
Ndiyomeleza njani inja engakhuselekanga?
Izinja ezinokungazithembi kunye noloyiko ziyathanda ukuzikhusela ngokuskena okusingqongileyo. Ingakumbi xa bekrokrela into eboyikisayo. Ukuba unyanzelisa ukuba inja yakho ijonge kuwe endaweni yehlabathi, uyayikhanyela ithuba lokuzikhusela.
Kutheni inja yam indijikela nje?
Kutheni inja yakho ibonisa le ndlela yokuziphatha? Ngokuziphatha kokuzikhusela kunye nokuphepha, inja ifuna ukuqinisekisa ukuba ihlala ingenabungozi emzimbeni. Njengathi bantu, abahlobo bethu abanemilenze emine bafuna ukuziva bekhululekile kwaye bekhuselekile. Bayayiphepha into engabafanelanga.
Isigaba soloyiko sihlala ixesha elingakanani kwizinja?
Ngexesha lokufikisa, izinja zinokudlula kwixesha elongezelelweyo lokuxhalaba, ngalinye lihlala malunga neeveki ezi-3, ngelo xesha inja iyoyika ngokulula kwaye ikwazi ukukhumbula amava angathandekiyo.
Iziphatha njani inja xa isoyika?
Inja yakho ngokukhawuleza itsala umsila wayo, iyangcangcazela kwaye ayifuni ukubaleka. Ukusabela okunjalo kuloyiko lunokwenzeka kwizinja kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo. Ukoyika abantu, izandi, izinto, okanye ezinye izinja aziyonto imbi.