UMary Allen
Yini enhle ngaphezu kokuhlanganyela impilo nenja? - Kunjalo: ukwabelana ngayo nezinja ezimbili noma ngaphezulu! Nokho, ukugcina izinja eziningi ngesikhathi esifanayo kusho umsebenzi owengeziwe nokuhlela. Ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukucacisa izinto ezimbalwa kusengaphambili ukuze kungabikho lutho oluma endleleni yokuphila ekhululekile ndawonye.
Iluphi Uzalo Okufanele lube?
Ungase ufise ukuthi inja yakho yesibili bekuwuhlobo oluhlukile kunenja yakho yokuqala. Bese kuphakama umbuzo wokuthi kufanele kube yini. Ukukhethwa kwezinhlobo zezinja kukhulu, izici zohlobo ezijwayelekile zihluke kakhulu, futhi izinhlobo ezixubile zinhle impela: Ngakho-ke wonakele ukuze uzikhethele.
Kungcono ukuzijwayeza umngane wakho onemilenze emine: yiziphi izici zabo? Ingabe ukhuthele, uzimisele ukudlala? Vula kubantu ongabazi noma kunalokho unamahloni? Uma usucabangisise ngenja yakho yokuqala, uzokwazi kangcono ukwahlulela okufunayo enjeni yesibili. Mhlawumbe ufuna ukuba ahehe “owokuqala” aphume endaweni yakhe, abe yisibonelo esizimele nesiqinile endaweni ethile. Noma kufanele ngokuyinhloko abe umngane wokudlala nomngane. Uma ungathanda ukuba matasa emidlalweni yezinja noma ube nomngane wokuzingela, umbuzo wohlobo cishe ulula kancane, njengoba usuvele unezinhlobo ezikhethekile engqondweni ezifanele ngokukhethekile umsebenzi ofanele.
Cabanga ngokucophelela ngokukhethwa kwenja yakho yesibili futhi futhi unqume ngezithakazelo zenja yakho yokuqala, ukuze ingagxili ngokuphelele esimweni esisha, kodwa futhi ingenza okuthile nomngane wayo omusha. Lokhu kungena kungaba lula uma izinja ezimbili zingahlukene kakhulu, kodwa zinezidingo ezifanayo. Uma kungenjalo, ingashesha ukuyiqeda inja ehamba ngokukhululeka futhi enesifiso esincane sokuzivocavoca, isibonelo, uma kungazelelwe kufanele ihambisane ne-husky efuna ukujikeleza amakhilomitha amaningana nsuku zonke.
Owesilisa noma owesifazane?
Omunye umbuzo othakazelisayo uphakama uma kuziwa ebulilini bokukhula. Ngokuvamile kuyiqiniso ukuthi inja yesilisa nensikazi bayazwana. Kodwa qaphela: uma zombili izinja ziqinile, kufanele ucabange ngokucophelela ukuthi ukuhlala ndawonye ngesikhathi sokushisa kufanele kulawulwe kanjani! Phela akusikhona ukuthi izinja zesilisa zinenkinga yodwa kunezinja zesifazane. “Ubungane besilisa” obukhulu bungakhula phakathi kwabesilisa ababili! Iyiphi inja ehamba kahle nenye futhi engumuntu oyedwa. Ngakho-ke kungcono ukubheka inja yakho yokuqala ukuthola ukuthi ithanda futhi ikuphi. Yiziphi izinja azwana nazo ngokukhethekile? Futhi yiziphi ezingase zibangele ukungqubuzana? Kunengqondo kakhulu uma inja yakho yesibili ihambisana kahle nenja yakho yokuqala. Lokhu kwandisa amathuba okuthi “ifulethi okwabelwana ngalo” lithuthuke libe yisibopho sangempela.
Kubalulekile ukuthi unike izinja zakho isikhathi. Ungalindeli ukuthi bazoba kubhasikidi ndawonye ngemva kwesonto noma baxhumane lapho belele. Ngisho noma inja yakho ngayinye idinga isikhala sayo ezinsukwini zakuqala futhi icishe ingamnaki omunye umngane onemilenze emine, lokho akusho ukuthi ngeke bajwayelene kakhulu emasontweni ambalwa noma ngonyaka. Uma nje lungekho ubudlova obunamandla obungabalimaza, konke sekujwayelekile okwamanje. Ukungaboni ngaso linye okuncane kungase kube khona futhi akusona isizathu sokukhathazeka. Nokho, uma ungaqiniseki, funa iseluleko somqeqeshi wezinja onedumela elihle, onolwazi ukuze uhlole kangcono isimo.
Kufanele Ube Kanjani Umehluko Weminyaka?
Ingabe kufanele kube umdlwane noma inja endala? Lona cishe umbuzo othakazelisa kakhulu! Uma inja yakho yokuqala isivele isikhulile ngeminyaka, umdlwane noma inja encane ingamkhungathekisa, kodwa mhlawumbe futhi iyihlanganise kancane. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma esekhulile, angase azizwe “ekhishwa esihlalweni sobukhosi” yinja elingana nobudala noma ethe ukukhula kancane. Omunye umbuzo okufanele unqunywe ngamunye kusuka enja kuye kwenja, nakuba kunconywa ngempela ukusebenza nenja yokuqala ezindaweni ezinkulu zokwakha ngaphambi kokuthi kwengezwe eyesibili. Uma eyokuqala iphuma obishini futhi zingasekho izinkinga emfundweni nasekuphileni kwansuku zonke, akukho okuma endleleni yomzuzwana.
Okunye okungaba wukuthatha imidlwane emibili kudoti owodwa. Umcabango omuhle lowo, kodwa uzodinga umsebenzi omkhulu nokubekezela. Ngemuva kwakho konke, ubhekene nenselele yokuletha izinja ezimbili ngokusebenzisa i-puppyhood kanye nokuqeqeshwa okuyisisekelo ngesikhathi esifanayo, ukuze ube "nama-pubertalists" amabili aqinile ekhaya ngemuva kwesikhathi. Ingabe uzimisele noma uyakwazi ukuqongelela amandla adingekayo, isikhathi, nokubekezela? Ngeshwa, ama-littermate amabili awasho ingxenye yomsebenzi, kodwa ngokuvamile kabili umsebenzi.
Uma kukhona ithuba lokuthi zombili izinja zazane ngaphambi kwesikhathi, leli thuba kufanele nakanjani lisetshenziswe. Uma bobabili behlangana izikhathi ezimbalwa futhi mhlawumbe bahambe ndawonye nge-ash, ikusasa elihambayo lenja "entsha" lingakhululeka kakhulu. Nikeza izinja zakho isikhala esanele sokujwayela isimo esisha. Ekuqaleni, gcina ibanga elithile lapho bobabili behlangana okokuqala ngqa futhi wehlise lapho uqaphela ukuthi bobabili bakhululeke kakhulu. Endlini, zombili izinja kufanele zibe nendawo yokuhlehla ukuze zikwazi ukugwemana noma nini. Ngale ndlela, isimo esishubile esingase sishube ngenxa yokuthi inja ayikwazi ukuphuma kuyo futhi izizwa icindezelekile ayiveli ngisho nokuvuka. Kufanele futhi ukunake lokhu lapho uncelisa futhi udale isikhala esanele phakathi kwezinja ezimbili ukuze ulaka lokudla lungabi yinkinga.
Ungathola ulwazi olwengeziwe ngesihloko "sobunikazi bezinja eziningi" kanye nemibandela okufanele icatshangelwe lapho ukhetha inja yesibili lapha. Uma ubheka abangane bakho abanemilenze emine futhi unaka lezi zinto, ukuhlala ndawonye namalungu omndeni wakho kuyoba kuhle kakhulu. Sikufisela isikhathi esihle nesikhululekile "sokukhula ndawonye"!