UMary Allen
Uma inja ngokuzumayo iziphatha ngendlela exakile, iziqhelelanisa nawe, izifihla futhi ihoxise, lokhu kungaba nezimbangela ezihlukahlukene.
Izizathu ezivamile zokushintsha okungazelelwe kohlamvu ezinjeni ubuhlungu, ukwesaba, ukucindezeleka noma ukungakhululeki okuvamile.
Kodwa ubona kanjani ukuthi kungani inja ihoxa futhi udokotela wezilwane kufanele abizwe nini?
Ingabe ukhathazekile ngenja yakho? Siyaqonda!
Kungakho sifuna ukukusiza kulesi sihloko futhi sichaze ukuthi yiziphi izizathu ezingaba ukuthi inja yakho ihoxe.
Kafushane: Kungani inja yami ihoxa futhi icasha?
Uma inja yakho ihoxa kungazelelwe, kungaba nezizathu ezingokomzimba nezingokwengqondo ngemuva kwayo. Uvalo olwandulela uNcibijane ludala ukuthi izinja zingene ngaphansi kukasofa ukuze zivikeleke. Kodwa ukucindezeleka, ubuhlungu, nezimo ezintsha nakho kungabangela izinguquko ekuziphatheni kwenja yakho.
Izinja ziziphatha kanjani uma zingaphathekile kahle?
Izinja zingompetha ekufihleni ubuhlungu. Lokhu kugxilile emvelweni yabo, ngoba labo abangekho empilweni ephelele banamathuba amabi okusinda esimweni esiphuthumayo.
Ngeshwa, izinja eziningi aziboni ukugula kuze kube sekwephuzile kakhulu.
Yiqiniso, izimpawu ezibonisa ukuthi inja yakho ayiphilile zingahluka kakhulu. Kuya ngokuthi yini emhluphayo futhi mhlawumbe nokuthi uneminyaka emingaki.
Uma inja yakho endala ihoxisa kakhulu, lokhu kungaba nezizathu ezihlukile kunalapho umdlwane wakho ocwinayo uyenza.
Ukuhoxa, ukufuna ukuthula, ukunganaki, ukukhathala, ukuphefumula okushintshile kanye/noma ukushaya kwenhliziyo, ukuhefuzela okukhulu kanye/noma amathe, amehlo aguqubele, ulwelwesi lwamafinyila oluphaphathekile, isifo sohudo, imfiva…
Zonke lezi zimpawu nezinye eziningi zingaba izimpawu zokuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle ngenja yakho.
Uma inja yakho idle isiyelo esinoshevu, izoba nezimpawu ezihlukile kunalapho idolo layo libuhlungu. Ngakho-ke futhi ngenxa yokuthi zonke izinja zethu zizimele, lo mbuzo awukwazi ukuphendulwa ngokujwayelekile.
Izizathu ezingenzeka zokuthi kungani inja yakho ihoxa
Njengoba kushiwo ngaphambili, kungaba nezizathu eziningi zokuthi kungani inja yakho ivele ibe kude noma iziphathe ngendlela ehlukile kunokujwayelekile.
Lokhu kungaba isibonelo:
1. Ukushisa kwenja noma abesilisa abajabulile
Haha, ukushisa. Isikhathi esijabulisayo kuwo wonke umuntu ohilelekile. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yinja yakho ngokwayo ekushiseni noma unenja yesilisa ekhalayo ehlezi ekhaya, ukushisa kuyabahlanyisa bonke!
Ngakho-ke akumangalisi ukuthi ukushisa kwenjakazi kungase kuhambisane nokushintsha kobuntu kungazelelwe. Lokhu kujwayelekile ngokuphelele futhi kuzodamba njengoba umjikelezo wakho uqhubeka.
2. Ukuthutha noma umlaza omusha womndeni
Ingabe unayo encane ezwelayo ekhaya?
Khona-ke kungase kudingeke ajwayele izimo ezintsha kuqala.
Ukuthutha, ukubambisana okusha noma ingane endlini ingakhipha izinja ezithile endleleni yazo. Abanye abanankinga noshintsho.
Uma ungakwazi ukukhipha ngokuphepha ukuthi ukuziphatha kwenja yakho kubangelwa ubuhlungu, kufanele umane umnike isikhathi esidingayo.
Abantu abadala bezinja abasakudingi ukuzijabulisa nokwenza usuku lonke. Njengoba bekhula, bathanda ukukhululeka futhi balale ngokwanele.
Lapho inja yakho endala ihoxiswa, kungenzeka ukuthi ifuna ukusala yodwa.
Iningi labanikazi bezinja lingakwazi ukusho lapho isikhathi sesilungile, kodwa yebo, izinja zizothatha umhlalaphansi ngaphambi nje kokuba zife.
Ngiyathokoza ukwazi:
Kodwa-ke, kungenzeka futhi ukuthi ukugula noma izinhlungu kuyimbangela yako, noma inja yakho yokuqala ithatha umhlalaphansi ngoba eyesibili isingenile. Ziningi ezinye izizathu ezingenza inja yakho izole kunokujwayelekile. Kungakho kubalulekile ukuthi uxhumane nodokotela wezilwane, noma mhlawumbe umqeqeshi wezinja noma udokotela wezinja, uma kukhona okungajwayelekile kuwe.
Ukucasha kwenja: Kufanele ngiye nini kudokotela wezilwane?
Uma inja yakho ngokuzumayo iqala ukucasha, ibanga, nokuhoxa, kungaba ngenxa yezizathu ezingokomzimba nezingokwengqondo.
Lithini ithumbu lakho? Ingabe inja yakho iyahlupheka futhi uma kunjalo, ibangelwa yini? Ingabe uyesaba, ucindezelekile, akalondekile? Ingabe bekukhona okuhlangenwe nakho okufanelekile, i-trigger? Isibonelo, ukugqekeza, ukuduma kwezulu okunamandla noma ulunywe enye inja? Ingabe wenza njengalapho ezwa ubuhlungu? Imiphi imiphumela emibi / ezinye izimpawu ezikhona?
Uyazi kahle inja yakho! Uma ukhathazekile ngokuziphatha kwakhe, qiniseka ukuthi uthintana nodokotela wezilwane.
Isiphetho
Izinkinga zokuziphatha okungazelelwe kanye noshintsho ebuntwini zenza abanikazi bezinja bacabange. Yini inkinga ngowoof?
Kubalulekile ukumbhekisisa manje bese ubiza udokotela wezilwane uma kukhona okubonakala kuxakile kuwe.
Lapho izinja zihoxa, ngokuvamile azihambi kahle. Bavame ukucindezeleka, ukwesaba, noma ubuhlungu. Imbangela ingaba kokubili ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba.