UMary Allen
Amanqaku amaninzi athetha ngobunini bezinja kunye nokuqeqeshwa kwezinja, kunye namaqhalo amaninzi achaza inja njengomhlobo osenyongweni womntu.
Kodwa ngaba oku kunjalo ngokwenene? Ngaba inja ifuywa ukuya kuthi ga ngoku ukuba isoloko kwaye idityaniswe ngokuzenzekelayo kumnini wayo ngendlela ethembekileyo nenyanisekileyo?
Kwincwadi yakhe yamva nje, isazi ngebhayoloji saseBritani uJohn Bradshaw uchaza ngemvavanyo yokufunda ukuba izinja zenza njani ubuhlobo nabantu!
Ubume bophando
Izifundo zakhe zazimalunga nokufumanisa ukuba yimalini na xa injana ifuna ukunxibelelana nabantu ukuze kukhule ubudlelwane bokuthembana.
Ngenxa yale njongo, iinjana ezininzi zaziswa kwindawo ebiyelweyo kwaye zanqunyulwa ngokupheleleyo ukuba zingadibana nabantu.
Iinjana zahlulwa zaba ngamaqela aliqela. Iqela ngalinye kufuneka lifudukele kubantu abakwizigaba ezahlukeneyo zokukhula nelokukhula iveki enye.
Ekuhambeni kwale veki, injana nganye idlalwe kakhulu kangangeyure enye enesiqingatha ngosuku.
Emva kwaloo veki, akuzange kuphinde kubekho unxibelelwano kangangexesha eliseleyo ngaphambi kokuba akhululwe etyaleni.
Iziphumo ezivuyisayo
Iqela lokuqala leenjana ladibana nabantu kwiminyaka eyi-2 yeeveki.
Kule minyaka, nangona kunjalo, iinjana zisalala kakhulu kwaye ngoko akukho nxibelelwano lokwenene phakathi kwenja kunye nomntu olunokusekwa.
Iqela leeveki ezi-3, kwelinye icala, lalinomdla kakhulu, lidlamkile, kwaye linomdla kukusondelana ngequbuliso ebantwini.
Iqela lamantshontsho lalisoloko lingeniswa endlwini yabakhathaleli kunye nesithuba sobudala beveki enye kwaye imigqaliselo yokuziphatha ebantwini yarekhodwa.
Ngeeveki ezi-3, ezi-4 nezi-5, iinjana zazinomdla kwaye zikulungele ukubandakanyeka nabantu ngokuzenzekelayo okanye ubuncinane emva kwemizuzu embalwa.
Isilumkiso kunye nomonde
Iimpawu zokuqala ezinamandla zokuba iinjana zazikrokrela okanye zisoyika ukuba phakathi kwabantu ezingabaziyo de zafika xa zineeveki ezisi-7.
Xa ezi njana zisuka kwindawo ebiyelweyo engenabantu zisiya kwindlu yabanonopheli bazo, kwathatha iintsuku ezi-2 ezipheleleyo zomonde kunye nendlela ecokisekileyo de injana iphendule kunxibelelwano kwaye yaqala ukudlala nomntu wayo!
Ngeveki nganye eyongezelelweyo ubudala iinjana zazikukudibana kwazo ngokuthe ngqo nomntu, eli xesha lendlela yobulumko liye landa.
Amantshontsho asuka kwiiveki ezili-9 ubudala kwafuneka akhuthazwe ngamandla nangomonde kangangesiqingatha seveki ukuba anxibelelane nabanini bazo kwaye akhe ithemba elaneleyo lokudlala ngalo.
Ukupheliswa kovavanyo kunye nokuqonda
Kwiveki ye-14 uvavanyo lwagqitywa kwaye zonke iinjana zangena ezandleni zabantu abathanda ubomi babo bexesha elizayo.
Ngexesha lohlengahlengiso kubomi obutsha, iinjana zabonwa ngakumbi kwaye kwafunyanwa nokuqonda. Ngoku kwakuyimfuneko ukulinganisa ubudala apho uqhagamshelwano lwalungcono kubudlelwane phakathi kwenja kunye nomntu.
Ekubeni iinjana zazihlala kuphela nabantu abakubudala obahlukeneyo kwiveki enye ngexesha leeveki ezili-1, kwakubalulekile kwakhona ukubona ukuba iinjana zisakhumbula kangakanani na olu nxibelelwano kwaye ngaloo ndlela zisondela kubantu bazo abatsha ngokukhawuleza.
Iinjana, eziye zadibana nabantu kwiiveki ezi-2, zathatha ixesha elincinci, kodwa zihlanganiswe ngokumangalisayo kwiintsapho zabo ezintsha.
Zonke iinjana ezinxibelelana nabantu phakathi kweveki yesi-3 neye-11 yobomi ziye zaqhelana ngokukhawuleza nabantu bazo kunye neemeko ezintsha.
Nangona kunjalo, iinjana ezingazange zidibane nomntu de zibe neeveki ezili-12 ubudala azizange ziqhelane nabanini bazo abatsha!
isiphelo
Nabani na odlala ngombono wokuthenga injana kufuneka akhawuleze angene ebomini bakhe kwangoko. Ifestile yexesha le-3 ukuya kwi-10 okanye i-11 yeveki yobomi incinci kakhulu.
Abafuyi abahloniphekileyo bakhuthaza iintshayelelo zakwangoko kwaye bakhuthaze utyelelo lokuncokola ngaphambi kokuba injana ihambe nomntu wayo!