UMary Allen
Izinja zidlala indima ebalulekileyo kubomi babanikazi bazo: ngumhlobo ongcono kakhulu, umkhuseli, umntu odlala naye - ilungu lentsapho. Ukuze oku kusebenze ngaphandle kweengxaki, ukukhuliswa okungaguqukiyo komhlobo onemilenze emine kubaluleke kakhulu.
Kuthetha ukuthini uQeqesho lweNja olungaguqukiyo?
Ulandelelwano lusenokuvakala lunegetive ekuqaleni, kodwa akunjalo. Inkathalo kunye nenkathalo enothando ihamba kakuhle kunye. Izinja aziluqondi ulwimi lwabantu kodwa zimele zisabele kakuhle xa zixelelwa okuthile.
Ukuze oku kusebenze, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ungaguquguquki. Oku kuthetha ukuba kwangaxeshanye kufuneka usoloko usabele ngendlela efanayo. Umzekelo, ukuba umhlobo wakho onemilenze emine kuphela xa eqaphela ukuba ubuthathaka xa ecela uncedo kwitafile yesidlo sakusihlwa, uya kuyenza ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Kwelinye icala, ukuba awuguquguquki kwaye uyazingisa, emva kwethuba akazukuzama nokuzama.
Ngaba Inja Yam Isandithanda Xa Ndingqongqo?
Ngokuqinisekileyo - mhlawumbi kancinci. Inja yakho ithe phithi kakhulu ngawe. Okukhona ungaguquguquki, kokukhona uthembeke ngakumbi kumhlobo wakho onemilenze emine. Kumenza azive ekhuselekile xa enokukuxabisa aze aqonde into oyifunayo kuye.
Kufuneka unike inja imida ecacileyo, kodwa unako ukuyinika inkululeko. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba usoloko ekuphulaphula xa uhamba, ekuhambeni kwexesha unokufunda ukukhulula umphunga ngokukhululekileyo egadini yakho. Ukuphakamisa kwi-carrot-and-stick aage kubaluleke kakhulu - umvuzo ukuba inja yakho iphendule ngokuchanekileyo ngokuqinisekileyo ibandakanyiwe.
Kubalulekile: Ngulo mntu ophetheyo
Ingcinga yokuba kufuneka uphathe inja yakho ngendlela eyongamileyo ukuze uqinise ulawulo olucacileyo, okwangoku, iye yachaswa zizifundo ezininzi zesayensi. Awunyanzelekanga ukuba uyicinezele inja yakho ukuze uyithobele. Nangona kunjalo, ekuhambeni kwexesha, uya kuqonda ukuba kunengqiqo ukukulandela.
Ngoko ke, umhlobo wakho onemilenze emine kufuneka akuhloniphe, ungoyiki. Oku kunokwenziwa ngomgca ocacileyo kunye nokuhambelana ngokulandela imithetho yakho. Izinja zizilwanyana ezikrelekrele. Ukuba ubeka imithetho esengqiqweni kwaye ukwazi ukuvuza ngexesha elifanelekileyo, umhlobo wakho onemilenze emine uya kuphawula ngokukhawuleza ukuba le yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuthobela. Ukuba akaqinisekanga ngeemeko ezithile kamva, uya kugxininisa kuwe.
Ufanele Ucinge Ngayo
Kuwe, “Hayi”, “Yima”, kwaye “Cima” kusenokuthetha into enye kwezinye iimeko, kodwa hayi kwinja yakho. Kuya kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba uhlala usebenzisa intetho efanayo xa inja yakho kufuneka okanye ingenzi into ethile. Ulwimi lwakho lomzimba kufuneka luhlale lufana.
Ukuba inja yakho isabela ngokukhawuleza emva koko, kufuneka uyivuze. Ikwangumvuzo wenja yakho ukuba wonwabile ngokucacileyo okanye uyifuyile.
Kodwa ukuba inja yakho isabela ngendlela engafanelekanga okanye ayithobeli, kufuneka ivakalelwe kukuba awukwazi ukuyinyamezela le ndlela yokuziphatha: umsondeze kwi-leash, ungamthandi, kodwa uphinde uphinde umyalelo wakho kwakhona ngamandla. Isohlwayo sokungabi namvuzo sanele. Kubalulekile kuphela ukuba inja yakho iqonde into eyenzayo engalunganga kwaye kwenzekani emva koko. Le kuphela kwendlela yokuphumeza umphumo wokufunda.
Kuthatha Ixesha Elingakanani Ukuba Ngumzali?
Kubantu, njengenja: ufunda bonke ubomi bakhe. Kufuna umonde kunye nokuthembela, kodwa kufanelekile. Ngokukhawuleza uqala ukuqeqesha inja yakho, ngokukhawuleza uya kuphumelela.