UMary Allen
Ukuba isilwanyana sakho sasekhaya sikhefuzela kakhulu okanye rhoqo, sinokugula. Ukuphefumla, kunye nokungazinzi, ukutyibilika kunye nenwebu ezilubileyo zamafinya, umzekelo, yenye yeempawu ezibeka esichengeni ubomi bokudumba kwesisu. Inja yakho kufuneka iye kugqirha wezilwanyana ngoko nangoko.
Kutheni inja yam ikhefuzela ngesiquphe nje?
Xa inja ikhefuzela, idla ngokuba ngenxa yobushushu, imigudu yomzimba, okanye uxinzelelo okanye ixhala. Oku ngokuqhelekileyo ayisosizathu sokuxhalaba, njengoko ukuphefumla ngokuqhelekileyo kubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo kwimizuzu embalwa.
Ziziphatha njani izinja xa zingaziva mnandi?
Ukuba inja yakho iphefumla ngokutshintsha, okt ukuba ngequbuliso iphefumla kancinci okanye iblukhwe, oku kwakhona luphawu olucacileyo lokuba ayiziva mnandi. Ukuba unemvakalelo yokuba inja yakho isenokungaqhubi kakuhle, eyona nto ilungileyo onokuyenza kukumjonga emehlweni.
Kutheni inja yam ikhefuzela nangona ingafudumala?
Kuba ngokungafaniyo nabantu, izinja azinawo amadlala okubila ngaphandle nje kwamathupha azo. Ngenxa yoku, kufuneka basuse ubushushu obugqithisileyo ngezinye iindlela, kwaye bakwenza oko ngokukhefuzela. Umoya omtsha ujikeleza emzimbeni wakho kwaye kukunceda ukuba uphole ngaphakathi.
Ndazi njani ukuba inja yam ifuna ukufa?
Xa inqanaba lokugqibela lokufa lifikelelwe, inkoliso yezinja ilala ingashukumi. Badla ngokugabha, bakhuphe ilindle okanye babhinqe. Kwakhona kwenzeka ukuba izinja zikhala kwaye zikhonkothe kakhulu. Kodwa intlungu ayifanele ibe netyala kule nto: luphawu olucacileyo lokuba isiphelo sifikile.
Kwenzeka njani ukuba ukusilela kwamalungu ezinjeni kubonakale?
Ngokungafaniyo nokusilela kwezintso ezingapheliyo, akukho lunxano lwandayo. Kunoko, imeko ngokubanzi iyancipha ngokukhawuleza: inja iyagabha, ayinamdla wokutya, ibuthathaka kwaye ayinamdla. Umchamo uyancipha okanye awukho ngokupheleleyo.
Ngaba Izinja Zibuhlungu Xa Zisifa?
Ukukhapha inja yakho kwesi sigaba sokufa akukho nto ilula. Okubi kakhulu, nangona kunjalo, izinja zihlala zibhomboloza kwaye zikhala ngeli nqanaba lokugqibela lokufa. Abakhathazwa zintlungu, uyabona ukuba emehlweni abo, ngathi ubomi buyaphela kubo.
Kwenzeka ntoni kumphefumlo wenja?
Inja yakho nayo inomphefumlo, okanye kunoko ngumphefumlo oshiya umzimba emva kokufa. Abantu abanovelwano ngakumbi abakhe basweleka isilwanyana sabo banokukuqinisekisa oku. Oku kuphendula lo mbuzo: Ewe, inja yakho nayo inobomi emva kokufa. Ngenxa yokuba umphefumlo awufi!
Kwenzeka ntoni xa inja isifa?
Ukuba inja yakho ibhubhe ngenxa yezizathu zendalo kwaye ibingagulanga sisifo siqaphelekayo, ungafaka isicelo kwiofisi yonyango lwezilwanyana enoxanduva lokungcwatyelwa egadini yakho. Oku kudla ngokuba yingxaki. Ngokuqinisekileyo, unokuzisa inja yakho kumngcwabo wezilwanyana.
Ngaba izilwanyana ezifileyo ziyasibona?
Siziva njani isilwanyana esifileyo? Izilwanyana ezifileyo nazo zinokuzazisa ngemiqondiso. Izibane: Ezi mpawu zisenokuba zizibane ezikhanyayo okanye amakhandlela, ngakumbi xa sikhanyisa ikhandlela ukuze sikhumbule isilwanyana esifileyo. Okanye ukukhanya kuyacima xa sicinga ngesilwanyana.
Zivakalelwa njani izilwanyana xa zisifa?
Xa izilwanyana zasendle zisithi isiphelo sazo sikufuphi, ziyarhoxa. Ngokwethuku bafuna ukuzikhusela bona noontanga babo kwiintshaba. Ikati yendlu okanye inja iya kuziva ngendlela efanayo. Ulungiselela ukufa.
Ziya phi izilwanyana emva kokufa?
Kukho amangcwaba ezilwanyana ezikhethekileyo eJamani apho izilwanyana zinokufumana indawo yazo yokugqibela yokuphumla. Ukusukela ngo-2015 kukwakho namangcwaba abantu nezilwanyana, apho i-urn yesilwanyana esithandwayo singena engcwabeni lomntu. Kukwakho nokhetho lokungcwaba izilwanyana kwindawo yakho.
Izilwanyana ezifileyo ziwachaza njani amava?
Ngamava am, akukhathaliseki ukuba isilwanyana sele sifile ixesha elingakanani, kodwa ubunzulu kangakanani umphefumlo kunye noqhagamshelwano lwentliziyo. Ewe, iintlungu ziyadamba, kodwa ukulangazelela kwabo akupheli. Ingqondo iyazi: abasekho emhlabeni. Intliziyo ayikakholwa nangoku.