UMary Allen
Ayingombono uqhelekileyo, kodwa unokwenzeka: iikati ziyawa. Ngamanye amaxesha ngenxa yokuba bekhululekile ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kunokubangelwa yintlungu okanye isicaphucaphu.
Uninzi lweekati azivuzi rhoqo okanye kakhulu. Nangona kunjalo, akukho mfuneko yokuba ube nexhala ukuba isilevu se-pussy yakho simanzi ngamathe okanye ukuba amathe akhe ashiya ibala elimnyama emva kokuvuka. Kwiimeko ezininzi, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba iikati zigwebe nazo. Ukuba kukho i-salivation egqithisileyo, kunokubakho izizathu zonyango emva kwayo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, oonobangela bokuvuza kweekati bawela kwiindidi ezintathu ubhala ugqirha wezilwanyana, uGqr Mike Paul. Zezi:
- Izikhalazo ze-Pathological ezikhokelela ekuvutha, intlungu, okanye ubunzima bokugwinya;
- Ukucaphukisa ukuba ikati ifuna "ukukhupha";
- Ukuvuselela ngokweemvakalelo.
Iikati ezikhululekile ziDrool
Ukuba ikati yakho iphosa ngenxa yezizathu zeemvakalelo, izinto ezibangela ukuba zibe zilungile kunye neemvakalelo ezimbi. Umzekelo, ngamanye amaxesha unokubona iikati zitshiza into ngelixa zixubha kwaye "zixova" iimpuphu zazo. Oko kubonisa indlela ezikhululeke ngayo iikiti.
Kwenzeka into efanayo xa ikati yakho ilele. Nalapho, uphumle kakhulu kwaye usenokuvuza. Mhlawumbi uyayazi loo nto kuwe: Ngamanye amaxesha uthatha isihlwathi – kwaye xa uvuka kukho ibala elimanzi emqamelweni.
"Ukukhupha amanzi kuyinto eqhelekileyo xa ikati yakho ikhululekile, izolile, kwaye yanelisekile," kuchaza ugqirha wezilwanyana uGqirha Alison Gerken ngokuchasene ne "The Dodo". "Ukuba ikati yakho iyavuza ngelixa unawe, yithathe njengencomo enkulu yokuba ikati yakho iyayonwabela le ntsebenziswano."
Xa Iikati Zithontsiza Kuxinzelelo
Kodwa uxinzelelo kunye noloyiko lunokubangela ukuba iikati zivuze rhoqo. Umzekelo, xa uqhuba imoto, kugqirha wezilwanyana, okanye xa kungxola ngaphezu kwesiqhelo ekhaya. Unokuxelela ukuba ikati yakho igxininiswe yinto yokuba, ngaphezu kokuvuza, iyakhefuzela kwaye iphefumle ivule umlomo.
Ukuba uxinzelelo lwenzeka ngamaxesha athile kuphela, akukho mfuneko yokuba ube nexhala. Ukuba ikati yakho ibonakala inoxinzelelo rhoqo, kufuneka ufune iingcebiso kugqirha wezilwanyana.
Ngaba Ukulamba Kuluphawu Lwendlala?
Ngaba iikati ziyavuthuza xa zibona ukutya? Ngokungafani nezinja, oku akunjalo kwiikati ezininzi, kodwa kunokwenzeka. Ngamanye amaxesha ukuvuza kukusabela koko kutyiweyo. “Ukuba ikati yakho iqalisa ukuvuza ngoko nangoko emva kokuba uyinike iyeza, kusenokwenzeka ukuba luphawu lokuba iyeza liyakrakra,” watsho uGqr. Gerken.
Kunini Ukuvuza Ikati: Umqondiso Wokugula?
Ukuvuza okugqithisileyo kwiikati kunokuba luphawu lokugula, ukwenzakala, okanye izinto zangaphandle. UGqr. Gerken ulumkisa ngelithi: “Iikati zikwazi ukufihla izigulo ixesha elide de zigule kakhulu, ngoko naluphi na utshintsho kwindlela ikati yakho eliziphethe ngayo, kuquka nokuvuza, lufanele lujongwe njengengxaki yempilo enokubakho yaye lukhawuleze luhlolwe ngugqirha wezilwanyana.”
Esinye sezizathu eziqhelekileyo ezinxulumene nesifo sisifo samazinyo okanye iingxaki zeentsini. Kule meko, amathe ekati yakho anokuba negazi okanye ivumba elibi. Iingxaki zomlomo ezinokwenzeka zibandakanya ukudumba kweengcambu zezinyo, ukuvuvukala kwentsini, ukusuleleka komlomo womlomo, izilonda zomlomo okanye amathumba, ukwenzakala kwamazinyo, kunye nosulelo.
Ukongeza, amanxeba okanye ukwenzakala ngaphakathi nangaphakathi emlonyeni womlomo kunokubangela ukuba ikati yakho ikhuphe amathe ngaphezulu kunesiqhelo. Ngokomzekelo, ukusuka kwimihlathi eyaphukileyo okanye ukutshisa. Isizathu esiphambili soku kukuba zibuhlungu kakhulu kwiikati. I-velvet paw yakho iya kuthi ke ikuphephe ukuginya kangangoko kunokwenzeka, nto leyo ebangela ukuba amathe aqokelelane.
Amaxesha amaninzi, ukuvuza kwiikati ezigulayo kuhamba kunye nezinye iimpawu, ezinjengokopha, ukuphefumla kakubi, ubunzima bokuhlafuna okanye ukuginya, okanye ngenxa yokuba ukutya kuphuma emlonyeni kwaye ikati ihlala ibamba ubuso bayo ngeempuphu zayo.
Ezinye Izizathu Zokulala Kwiikati
Ukongeza kwiingxaki zomlomo womlomo, iingxaki zesisu okanye isifo sezintso zinokwenza ikati yakho ikhuphe ngokukhawuleza. Kuba ezi zinto zihlala zibanga isicaphucaphu – kwaye oko kunokukhokelela ekubeni uvuze. Ikati yakho inokugabha kwaye ibenorhudo.
Kwaye: Ngamanye amaxesha iikati nazo ziyawa ukuba umzimba wasemzini ubambekile emlonyeni okanye kummizo, umzekelo. Idla ngokuba, ngokomzekelo, inwele ezinde, ingca yengca, okanye izinto ezitsolo ezifana nethambo lentlanzi. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, akufanele uthabathe inyathelo ngokwakho, kodwa uye kwi-vet ngokukhawuleza, ngubani onokususa umzimba wangaphandle ngendlela efanelekileyo yeentlobo.