UMary Allen
Abanini beekati abaninzi bayayazi: Ngaphandle kwandawo, ikati ihlasela iinyawo okanye izandla zakho, inzipho kuzo, okanye ikulume. Funda apha ukuba zeziphi izizathu zolu hlaselo kwaye unokwenza ntoni ngazo.
Abanini beekati abaninzi bayayazi imeko: umzuzu omnye ikati isalele apho umxholo kwaye ilele, ngokulandelayo ihlasela isandla somntu kunye neenzipho zayo okanye iluma. Into edla ngokubonakala ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngaphandle kwesizathu ebantwini ihlala inemvelaphi yeekati. Ukongezelela, iikati zihlala zivakalisa "ukuhlaselwa" kwazo kwangaphambili - ngoko azikho ngokukhawuleza! Nangona kunjalo, abantu bahlala bengayihoyi imiqondiso yokuqala efana nencam yomsila oshukumayo okanye iindlebe ezisicaba.
Izizathu zokuhlaselwa kweekati
Iikati ngabazingeli bendalo kwaye banethuku lemvelo lokuzingela. Esi sithuku sikwahlala kwiikati zendlu kunye nezindlu. Nangona kunjalo, ngenxa yokuba akusafuneki ukuba bazingele ukuze baphile kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, ngakumbi iikati ezingaphakathi, zihamba kancinci kakhulu, azisakwazi ukusebenza kwaye amandla azo ayanda. Ngexesha elithile, amandla e-pent-up aya kubonakala ngendlela yokuhlaselwa kumnini. Ezinye izizathu zokuba iikati zihlasele abanini bazo zinokubandakanya:
- Ikati iyoyika.
- Ikati isezintlungwini.
- Imfuno yekati yokuphumla ayihlonitshwa.
Ukuba ikati yakho ikuhlasela xa uyibamba kwiindawo ezithile, oko kuluphawu lwentlungu! Kule meko, kufuneka ukhawuleze udibane nogqirha wezilwanyana. Ukuba kukho into eyoyikayo, lungisa imeko yekati yakho. Kwaye ukuba ikati yakho ifuna ukushiywa yodwa, yihloniphe loo nto!
Sele uyazi? Abantu badla ngokungaziqondi “ukufundisa” iikati zabo “ukudlala” ngeenzwane okanye iminwe yabo, nokuba babengazinqandanga ukuba zenze oko xa zingamantshontsho ekati. Xa amantshontsho ekati edlala ngeenzwane zabaniniwo, uninzi luyifumanisa intle. Yintoni abaninzi abangayicingiyo: ikati ithatha ukuziphatha kunye nayo ibe ngumntu omdala. Ngoko ke, nikela ingqalelo kwimithetho ehambelanayo kwasekuqaleni.
Phazamisa ikati
Ukuba ikati yakho ikulasele, isoloko inceda ukuyibhida: ibhola yerabha eqinileyo ebetheke kanobom emhlabeni yaza yatsiba yazitsibela ngokwayo iphazamisa kanye njengesilwanyana esilahliweyo. Oku kuya kuphambukisa ingqalelo yekati kuwe, kwaye ikati iya kuwabhekisa amandla ayo kwenye indawo.
Ukudlala neekati ezinobundlongondlongo
Kubalulekile ukuba ikati yakho izilolonge ngokwaneleyo. Ukuba ikati yakho ayidinwanga kwaye ikuhlasela ngenxa yoko, kuyanceda ukwazisa amaxesha aqhelekileyo okudlala: imizuzu emi-5 ukuya kweli-10 kathathu ukuya kane ngosuku, rhoqo ngaxeshanye.
Awuyihoyi loo ntlaselo yakhe, mnikel’ umva, yaye ungazivumeli ukuba ucatshukiswe. Ukuba uhlaselo luza kakhulu okanye luhamba, shiya igumbi okanye indlu ngokuzolileyo kwaye uthe cwaka emva kohlaselo kwaye unike isilwanyana ithuba lokuzola.
Ngalo lonke ixesha uphephe ubundlobongela, amazwi angxolayo, isohlwayo, kunye nokungxolisa ngemincili. Oku akusiso isisombululo kwaye yonakalisa ubudlelwane bekati kunye nomntu.