Ava Williams
Ngaba akamhle kwaye jonga indlela anokuthi mhle ngayo! UVanessa unesithandwa sakhe esincinci iiveki ezintandathu ngoku kwaye ulindele wonke umnqweno ovela kwamehlo ale rascal encinci. Uhlala efumana okokugqibela ukuba intengiso kufuneka inikeze. Ingubo yakhe itshintshwa kabini ngeveki ukuze inganuki, kwaye ngesidlo sangokuhlwa, udla isonka ngasinye kunye nomhlobo wakhe onemilenze emine. Ngokulinganayo ngokuchanekileyo, kunjalo, kuba ufuna ukulunga.
Ukutya kwethu okuqhelekileyo sele kuyingxaki ebantwini, kodwa kuyafana nakwiingcuka zethu zesofa? Le yintlekele yezempilo, iphupha lokwenyani.
UVanessa uthetha kakuhle xa kufikwa kumhlobo wakhe onemilenze emine, njengezigidi zabanye abanini bezinja. Bonke baye bathatha ithuba elingalunganga kwindlela yothando lwezilwanyana ngexesha elithile. Noko ke, izimuncumuncu kunye nokutya kusikhondo nje esinye kwisipha esikhulu sokuziphatha kakubi. Kaloku ubomi bangaphakathi bomoya nabo bufuna ukondliwa, kodwa khawuncede ngezithako ezifanelekileyo kwaye kulapho kanye ingxaki yokwenyani ilele khona. Sizisa zonke ezi zilwanyana kwihlabathi lethu kwaye ubukhulu becala singahoyi iimfuno zazo ezifanelekileyo zohlobo.
Xa esi sigebenga sihleli nathi, ucinga ntoni ngam?
Inja inexesha elininzi lokusiqwalasela kwaye isifunde - ukuziphatha kwethu, iintshukumo zethu, ukuphefumla kwethu, kwanemo yethu. Lo mfo ukrelekrele ngokungenalusini usebenzisa ubuthathaka bethu ukuze afumane oko akufunayo. Azisebenzi njengabantu, nto leyo enokuba ngumnqa, kodwa basenokwenza unxibelelwano neziganeko. Ukuba izitshixo ziyakhenkceza, sihambahamba, okanye ukuba inkosi iphethe izitya zethu esandleni, kukho ukutya okumnandi. Ngokuxhomekeke kubuhlanga kunye nesimo, unxibelelwano kwiziganeko lunokuchazwa ngakumbi… okanye hayi. Kwakhona sinokuphembelela ngokuqonda ukuba abahlobo bethu abakrelekrele abanemilenze emine bacinga ntoni ngathi ngolwimi lomzimba wethu.
Ngeli xesha, ngokuqinisekileyo, umbuzo uphantse uvele ngokuzenzekelayo:
Kucinga ntoni?
Ngaba izinja zethu zingayenza loo nto? Masenze ngaphandle kwayo yonke i-gibberish yobugcisa, akukho mntu uyayiqonda. Impendulo sishwankathela ngezivakalisi ezibini nje: Ukuba umntu uyayibona/uyayibona imeko ethile aze atsale amava ngenye indlela yokwenza yaye izenzo zaso ziphenjelelwa yiyo, le ngcinga sinokuyibiza ngesazela esicocekileyo.
Izinja zethu, ubuncinci uninzi lwazo, ziyakwazi ukubona unxibelelwano oluntsonkothileyo kwaye zibabandakanye kwizenzo zabo. Oku kuthetha ukuba uVanessa okhankanywe ekuqaleni akabambeleli, kodwa inja yakhe ithatha isigqibo sokuba iye phi. Ngaye, inja izibona njengenkosi yendlu kwaye uVanessa ukhona kuphela ukumnika ukutya ngexesha. Phantse usoloko emjongile, ngaphandle kwaxa elele, enelisekile yaye exubile, phezu kwengubo yakhe—enuka ngathi lilac xa ihlanjwa ngokutsha. Uninzi lwabahlobo be-canine bayazi nje kancinci malunga namaqabane abo kunye nehlabathi elimangalisayo labo. Okanye ngaba uyazi ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni enjeni xa umntwana ewola umhlobo onemilenze emine ngothando? Ngokuxhomekeke kuhlobo kunye nesimo sengqondo, inja nganye ibona oku kuziphatha njengokuzithoba, kuba kwihlabathi le-canine, kuphela isikhundla esisezantsi siya kwilungu eliphezulu lepakethe. Umntu ohlala naye ohlazekile ucinga ukuba abantwana bakwipakethi engezantsi kwakhe. Umphumo uba lubalo apho abantu abaninzi, inkoliso yabo ingabantwana, balunywa zizinja eziqeqeshwe kakubi.
Oku akufanele kudidaniswe nendumiso yezinja ezisebenzayo xa zenze umsebenzi omhle, njengoko nantsi isiqinisekiso esihle sesenzo esihle. Nangona kunjalo, oku akwenzeki ngokuchukumisayo, kodwa ubukhulu becala ngendumiso yomlomo, apho inja ibona ithowuni yelizwi kunye nezimbo zomzimba ... kwaye izivavanye.
Ukungaqondani
Oku kubangelwa kukuba abahlobo abanemilenze emibini kunye nemine bahlala bengathethi ulwimi olufanayo, ngoko omnye akayiqondi into efunwa ngomnye. Masithi uvumela inja yakho ukuba itsibe kwisofa yakho kwaye ngamanye amaxesha yenza indawo epholileyo yokuphumla apho. Ngaphandle kwento yokuba umhlobo wakho onemilenze emine ucinga ukuba unyukile kuluhlu lwepakethe, uya kuhlala elele kule ndawo ipholileyo ukusukela ngoku ukuya phambili.
Ngexesha elithile, awuyi kuphinda uyiqaphele. Kodwa ngenye imini ufuna ukungqengqa kule ndawo ngokwakho kwaye ubize umntu ohlala naye: Yehla. Isibhengezo sakho siyangxola kwaye sicacile - ngelishwa kuphela ebantwini. Kodwa inja ayiyiqondi indlela oziphethe ngayo. Mhlawumbi ngokungoneliseki uyayisusa indawo ayithandayo okanye ukhusela impahla yakhe. Ukuze kungabikho ukungaqondani: Akuyongxaki ukuba inja yakho iza kuwe kwisofa. Kodwa ukuba uyayivumela ngokucacileyo okanye ukuba i-rascal encinci ilungile kwisofa njengomcimbi. Ke qiniseka ukuba unemithetho ecacileyo kwasekuqaleni ebambelela inja kwihlabathi lakhe leengcamango: Isofa yindawo yomphathi wethu wepakethi.
Umlo wendawo enqwenelekayo kwi-sofa ngumzekelo nje omnye, kodwa unokusetyenziswa kwezinye iimeko ezininzi.
Sinokuphembelela ukucinga kwenja yethu ngenkangeleko yethu kunye nokuziphatha kwethu ukuba siyalazi ilizwe lenja kunye nemithetho yalo yokupakisha.