UMary Allen
Ulufumana njani uqhagamshelo olungcono kwinja yakho? Ngokukodwa ngendlela efanelekileyo yokuthetha. Yenziwa njalo!
Ngaba uyiqaphele indlela umhlobo wakho onemilenze emine asabela ngayo ngendlela eyahlukileyo ngokuxhomekeke kwindlela othetha ngayo naye? Abantu abaninzi bacinga ukuba ekuhambeni kwexesha abo babathandayo baya kufunda intsingiselo yamagama athethwa kubo. Kodwa yimpazamo leyo. Ngokuyintloko uyasiqonda isandi segama kwaye asidibanise nokuziphatha okuthile, umntu okanye into ethile.
Okukhona igama lisiba mfutshane, kokukhona kulula ukuba alikhumbule. Ngenxa yoku, imiyalelo emininzi yakudala inesibilants okanye izandi ezinde zezikhamiso. Ukuba igama elifundiweyo lifakwe kwisivakalisi, isandi salo siyatshintsha yaye ngokufuthi asisaqondwa. Ke indlela oyixelela ngayo inja yakho into ibalulekile ekuthobeleni kwayo.
Kuxhomekeke kugxininiso
Ilizwi lomntu alikwazi ukuchaza amagama kuphela kodwa likwahambisa iimvakalelo. Amaxesha amaninzi asiluboni olu tshintsho luncinci kwithoni, umzekelo xa sinomsindo okanye silusizi. Nangona kunjalo, indlebe yenja ebuthathaka ibona kwaneyona ndlela incinci iguqukayo kwindlela esithetha ngayo nayo. Oku kunokumcaphukisa kwaye kumenze afune ukuzigcina kude okanye angayiqondi nje into oyifunayo kuye.
Ukuba umbiza ngokuba yi-bastard embi ngelizwi elinothando, uya kuqwalasela kuphela ithoni yakho yobuhlobo aze awangawangise isandla sakho kuwe ngovuyo. Ngokwahlukileyo koko, ukuba uyiwisa nje ngelizwi elicaphukisayo, akayi kuyiqonda indumiso yakho. Ngoko ukuba umhlobo wakho onemilenze emine akaphenduli ngoko nangoko kumyalelo wakho, zama kwakhona kwaye uqaphele ngenyameko kwithowuni yelizwi lakho.
Inja ezolileyo
Ukuba isilo-qabane sakho sesohlobo oluzolileyo, kufuneka ukhethe ithowuni echwayitileyo, ekhuthazayo kwimiyalelo yakho. Ufuna imincili yeemvakalelo kuwe ukuze ahambe. Mhlawumbi, oku kumenza anikele ingqalelo kakhulu, ngoko kwanele ukuthetha naye ngevolumu eqhelekileyo okanye ethule.
Oku kubaluleke ngakumbi ukuba uba nexhala ngokulula: Amazwi angxolayo okanye anzulu avakala enoburhalarhume kwaye esoyikisa kuye kwaye uya kucinga kabini malunga nokuba akumamele okanye akubaleke. Sebenzisa ilizwi lakho eliphezulu, elikhuthazayo ukuhambisa ukuzithemba nokhuseleko. Ukuba akakalandeli, inxalenye encinane, ethasisiweyo ngononophelo yothando olubukhali kwithoni iluncedo.
Inja evusiweyo
Ukuba, ngakolunye uhlangothi, iqabane lakho lesilwanyana lingomnye wabameli abaqaqambileyo bohlobo lwayo, kungcono ukuthetha naye ngethoni ezolileyo. Intetho edlamkileyo inokumenza avuye ngakumbi aze enze kube nzima ngaye ukucinga kakuhle nokuphumeza imiyalelo yakho. Unokutolika ithoni yelizwi lakho njengokukhawuleza ukudlala kwaye akhathazeke ngakumbi, nto leyo ichaphazela kakubi isakhono sakhe sokusombulula iingxaki.
Noko ke, ukuba uthetha rhabaxa naye xa esonwabile, kukho ithuba elihle lokuba angakhetha ukungakuhoyi. Khetha ithowuni ethambileyo, epholileyo, kodwa eqinile, kuba ukungaqiniseki kwakhona kudluliswa ngelizwi kwaye kunokubangela ukuba inja yakho iqonde umyalelo ngakumbi njengesiphakamiso kunomyalelo. Kusebenza okufanayo apha: ilizwi eliphakamileyo, elizolileyo linokukhokelela kwimpumelelo kunokukhwaza.
Kuphephe ngokupheleleyo ukukhala
Wuxhathise umsindo wakho ngokukhwaza. Uyoyika kuphela inja enentliziyo ebuthathaka kwaye i-daredevil iya kukuthatha ngokungathí sina. Kungcono ukuba uzisindise ekukhaleni kuphela njengophawu olungxamisekileyo, ukuba imeko inokuba yingozi kakhulu.
Ngoko hlala ukhumbula: isandi senza umculo!