UMary Allen
Phendula imibuzo yethu esibhozo kwaye ufumanise ukuba ikati ikulungele na.
Khawube nomfanekiso wakho uvuka uvuswa yibhola enoboya obunwele esifubeni sakho. Emva koko ungena egadini uze ufumane isipho esingasaphili engceni. Emva koko, amehlo e-googly amsulwa njengoko ucinga ukuba ungawachaza njani amanqaku e-sofa kwiqabane lakho…
Ukuba zonke ezi meko azikubeki phantsi, unokuba ngomnye wabambalwa abakhethiweyo ukuba ube ngumnini wekati. Thatha uvavanyo kwaye ufumanise ukuba ikati yindawo efanelekileyo yokuhlala yakho!
Ukuba unokuphendula ewe kuninzi lwale mibuzo, ngokuqinisekileyo uyindoda yekati!
Ngaba uvumelekile ukuba ugcine ikati?
Ukuba uhlala kwindlu eqeshisayo, kufuneka ibe ngumbuzo wokuqala lowo. Kuba kuya kuba ngaphezulu kokungathandekiyo ukuvumela ikati entsha yendlu ijikise ifulethi phambi kokuba lo mbuzo ucaciswe.
Ke ngaphambi kokuba uye kwindawo yokuhlala yezilwanyana okanye kumfuyi wekati owaziwayo, funda ukuqeshisa kwakho ngononophelo kwakhona okanye ubuze.
Kukwabalulekile ukufumana imvume kumalungu osapho lwakho. Emva kwakho konke, kunye nekati, isidalwa sihamba kuloo nto, ngokufanelekileyo, kufuneka sihlale nawe iminyaka emininzi, ukuba amashumi eminyaka.
Akukho mntu kusapho lwakho ongadibaniyo neekati?
Ngaphandle kokuba uceba ukufumana umfuziselo ongenaboya, oko kukuthi ikati engenaboya, okanye ikati abantu abangakwaziyo ukuphila nayo, ngokuqinisekileyo kufuneka ubuze ukuba ngaba kukho nabani na kwindawo ohlala kuyo owalana noboya bekati okanye amathe ezilwanyana.
Ingaba unayo indawo eyaneleyo?
Nje ukuba iingongoma ezimbini zokuqala zicaciswe, akukho nto ingako imile endleleni yenkosi entsha enemilenze emine. Ngaphandle kweendonga okanye ifenitshala, kuba iingwe zethu ezincinci zendlu zidinga indawo yokurhweba, ukuhlala kunye nokugoba. Ukuba awukwazi ukujika kwikhaya lakho, isitya se-goldfish sinokuba lukhetho olungcono lwesilwanyana.
Ngaba ukulungele ukudlala ijester?
Ingenelo yabahlobo bethu abanxaxhayo kukuba bazimele geqe. UKitty wenza eyakhe into, ethi, njengoko ekwazi ukuvula ibhotwe, ngobubele athathe inxaxheba ngamaxesha athile.
Kodwa ukondla kukodwa akwanelanga ubungangamsha. Kuya kufuneka uzise ixesha elininzi lenkosi yakho entsha kuba uBuphezulu bakhe akafuni nje ukutya kunye nendlu yangasese ecocekileyo kodwa nokuzonwabisa!
Ngaba ungayinika ikati yakho ingqalelo eyaneleyo?
Ukuze uMiezi anganyatheli empumlweni yakho, ufuna into enye ngaphezu kwayo yonke into: ingqalelo. Ngokukodwa, ukuthembela kunye neekati zentlalo ziyavuya xa zibethelwa, zingakhankanyi ukudlala kunye okanye ukuqeqeshwa ukuze i-sofa igcinwe.
Ke ukuba uyithathele ingqalelo ikati njengesilwanyana sasekhaya kuba kuthiwa ithetha umgudu omncinci kunenja, kufuneka ucinge ngayo ngononophelo.
Ngaba ungayikhathalela ikati yakho ixesha elide ngokwaneleyo?
Nika nje ikati entle ngeKrisimesi? Awuyi kuwalibala ngokukhawuleza amehlo aqaqambileyo abantwana bakho! Kodwa lumka: Oku kuyasebenza ebantwini nakwizilwanyana: Azihlali zincinci kwaye zithandeke ubomi babo bonke.
Izingwe zasekhaya zinokuphila ukuya kutsho kwiminyaka engama-20, ngoko ufanele ukulungele ukuzinyamekela xa uthandabuza. Yaye mhlawumbi kungekhona nje xa abantwana bakho bengekho endlwini.
Ke ngoko, qwalasela iminyaka yakho kunye neemeko zakho zobuchwephesha kunye nezabucala xa uceba ukufumana ikati.
Ngaba uyakwazi ukuthenga ikati?
Iikati zibiza kakhulu kwaye ziya kutya iinwele zakho entlokweni yakho. Ewe kunjalo, amehlo esosi entle akhawuleza ayenze xa isithandwa sakho silele ethangeni lakho kwaye sijija kamnandi.
Nangona kunjalo, xa uthenga ikati, akufanele ucwangcise kuphela iindleko zokutya, iithoyi, ibhokisi yenkunkuma, kunye nesithuba sokukrala kodwa kunye neendleko zokutyelela i-vet, ugonyo, ukhathalelo lweholide, kunye nokunye.
Ngaba ululungele utshintsho?
Iinwele ezisesofeni, ifenitshala ekrweliweyo, iivazi ezaphukileyo… Ukuba kukho ikati endlwini, ifulethi lakho likhawuleza libe yindawo yokudlala. Ngoko ukuba eyakho ibonakala ngathi ikwikhathalogu yevenkile yefanitshala yomyili ebiza imali eninzi yaye ufuna ihlale injalo, umhlobo wenkakazana okhangeleka emsulwa asilokhetho lobulumko.
Ngenxa yokuba zintle kwaye zicocekile njengoko zinjalo abantu basekhaya abahle-banezidingo ezikhethekileyo ezifuna utshintsho olwahlukeneyo kwigumbi lokuhlala: Iposti yokukrwela okanye ikona ekrwelayo iyafuneka, ibhokisi yenkunkuma kunye nezinto zokudlala ezininzi okanye ezinye izinto ezinokuthi uKitty akwazi ukukhulula umphunga. ngendlela efanelekileyo yohlobo. Kungale ndlela kuphela apho ukusekwa kwakho kuya kukuhlonipha kwaye kukushiye wedwa.