UMary Allen
Ubudlelwane obuqinileyo kunye nenja akuyona nje into emangalisayo, kwenza kube lula kakhulu ukuhambelana kunye nokukhuthaza ukuthotyelwa komhlobo onemilenze emine. Apha unokufumanisa ukuba ungaqinisa njani ukuqondana kunye nobuhlobo kunye neqabane lakho lesilwanyana.
Ukuba ubudlelwane kunye nomhlobo onemilenze emine lubonakaliswe ngokuthembana kunye nothando, unxibelelwano lusebenza ngokulula kwaye ukudibanisa nenja kuba namandla. Oku akukona nje okulungileyo imvakalelo, kodwa ikwanceda ngoqeqesho lwenja. Kuba: Isilwanyana sasekhaya esithemba umnini waso ikhulu leepesenti sithatha inxaxheba kuqeqesho ngovuyo olungakumbi lokufunda kunye nenkuthazo kwaye simamela ngokuthanda ngakumbi kumnini waso. Ngoko ke kuyafaneleka ukwakha ubuhlobo obuhle nenja.
Ukuphucula iBond phakathi kweNja kunye noMnini: NgoQeqesho lokuThobela
Ubudlelwane kunye nenja bukhuthaza unxibelelwano kwelinye icala, kodwa lunokomelezwa ngokuqondana kwelinye icala. Ningaziqhelanisa nomdlalo kunye nomhlobo wakho osenyongweni wesilwanyana ngexesha uqeqesho lokuthobela.
“Uqeqesho lokuthobela,” kodwa alukho malunga nenja yakho ngokulandela imiyalelo. Kunoko, wena nesilwanyana sakho sasekhaya niya kufunda ukuthembana nokuqonda ulwimi lomnye.
Inja yakho iyayiqonda into oyilindeleyo kuye xa ukhupha imiyalelo ethile kwaye ubonisa ulwimi lomzimba olukhethekileyo. Ungamazi ngakumbi umhlobo wakho onemilenze emine ngcono kancinci kancinci, utolike imiqondiso yakhe, uzibeke ezihlangwini zakhe - kwaye wenze imiyalelo yakho ngendlela yokuba iqabane lakho elinemilenze emine liyiqonde: ngokucacileyo, ngokungaguqukiyo, kwaye ngokungaguqukiyo.
Eminye imidlalo yezinja kunye nezinto zokuzonwabisa nazo zomeleza ubudlelwane nenja: Ukudanisa kwenja, umzekelo, umphunga or ukuhamba kunye kukusondeza omnye komnye.
Indlela yokuqinisa iBond kunye neNja? Uncedo lwemidlalo kunye neMithambo
Izinja ziye zafuywa ukuze zisebenze ngokusondeleyo nabantu kuyo yonke imbali yabo ende yokufuywa ekhaya. Ke ngoko, bafuna imisebenzi abanokumelana nayo kunye nenkosikazi okanye inkosi yabo. Yeyiphi imisebenzi exhomekeke kwi uhlobo lweenja kunye nobuntu bomhlobo onemilenze emine. Nokuba inja yokuzingela, umzingeli, okanye iLap dog - wonke umhlobo onemilenze emine uyayixabisa imidlalo efanelekileyo kunye nemithambo. Okukhona inja inenkani, izimeleyo, kwaye ikrelekrele, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba neeyure zokudlala kunye ezikhuthaza iitalente zayo ngaphandle kokuyihlawulisa.
Ukuba umhlobo wakho onemilenze emine unoluvo lokuba ungonwaba ngakumbi ngaphandle kwakho kwaye aphishekele izinto anomdla kuzo ngcono, mhlawumbi uya kumamela kancinci kwaye kunokuba enze eyakhe indlela. Akakwenzi oku ukuze akucaphukise, kodwa ngenxa yokuba ukuziphatha okungathobeliyo kunomvuzo kwaye kukhululekile kuye.
By ukudlala imidlalo kunye abenzela ubulungisa, ungambonisa ukuba uyonwaba ngakumbi nawe kunokuba wedwa. Zive ukhululekile ukuzama ukuba ngowuphi umsebenzi okhuthaza umhlobo wakho onemilenze emine kakhulu. Imidlalo kunye nemithambo eniyonwabelayo nobabini yeyona ilungileyo. Ngoko unokufundisa ezinye izinja amaqhinga, abanye bathanda ukubuyisa or ukusebenza ngeempumlo.
Ukudala ukuthembana ngeMithetho eZinzileyo kunye nokungaguquguquki
Ngelixa izinja zizilwanyana ezikrelekrele, zinokuqonda ulwimi lwabantu ukusa kumlinganiselo othile. Ithoni yelizwi, impawu zomzimba, kwaye umqondiso womyalelo kufuneka uhlale ufana kwaye ulungelelanise ukuze umhlobo onemilenze emine akwazi ukufunda oko ukulindele kuye. Ngaphandle koko, uya kubhidekisa inja yakho kwaye ungayihlazisi. Ngokukodwa xa uphelelwa ngumonde kwaye unomsindo ngenxa yokuba engayithobeli imiyalelo yakho. Ukuthembana akunakwakhiwa ngolo hlobo.
Ukuba ufuna ukuqinisa ubudlelwane kunye nenja yakho, kufuneka uqikelele kangangoko kunokwenzeka kunye nomhlobo wakho onemilenze emine. Ufezekisa oku ngokuhambelana, ukucaca, kunye nokungafihli kwimithetho kunye nezithethe.
Misela imigaqo engqongqo yamaxesha okutya, ukuhamba, ixesha lokudlala, ixesha lokuphumla, nokuzilungisa onamathela kuyo nanini na kunokwenzeka. Le ndlela yesiqhelo ayikruquli inja yakho kodwa imnika ulwakhiwo enokuthi alusebenzisele ukuziqhelanisa nanokuthi athembele kulo. Ngale ndlela uziva ekhuselekile kwaye uyazi ukuba usezandleni ezilungileyo nawe.
Hlonipha iNja kunye neeMfuno zayo
Intlonipho kunye nentlonipho kufuneka kube kubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu-inja ubuhlobo. Funda ukutolika ngokuchanekileyo ulwimi lomzimba kunye nokuziphatha kwenja kwaye uqaphele iimfuno zomhlobo wakho onemilenze emine. Ngale ndlela, unokuhlengahlengisa uqeqesho kunye neeyure zokudlala kwifom yeqabane lakho lesilwanyana ngosuku kwaye ufumane ibhalansi echanekileyo phakathi kwe-under-and over-demand ngokulula ngakumbi.
Ukuba umhlobo wakho osenyongweni unemilenze emine ubonakala gxi niniswa okanye woyika, hlala uzolile kwaye ube lilitye lakho eliqinileyo. Emva koko cinga malunga yintoni ekhathaza inja yakho kwaye ungayisombulula njani imeko.