UMary Allen
Ukuhlalisana neenjana akunzima kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu kubomi bezinja zamva. Kodwa oko kuthetha ukuthini kwaye ungenza njani igalelo elihle kuyo ngokwakho? Sikuphendulela le mibuzo neminye apha.
Isifundo seBhayoloji esifutshane
Emva kokuba abantwana bezelwe, zonke iiseli zemithambo-luvo zithungelana ngokuthe ngcembe nezinye iiseli zemithambo-luvo. Imidibaniso, i-synapses, ivumela abathumeli ukuba bazise ulwazi oluyimfuneko ukusuka kwiseli yemithambo-luvo ukuya kwenye. Kakade ke, oku kubhalwe ngendlela erhabaxa nelula, kodwa ifikelela kumbindi walo mbandela.
Ii-Transmitter - izinto ze-messenger ze-nerve- zenziwa kwingqondo kwaye i-stimuli ngakumbi amava e-puppy evela kumfuyi kwiiveki ezimbalwa zokuqala zobomi, izinto ezininzi zomthunywa ziveliswa, ii-synapses zenziwe kwaye iiseli ze-nerve zixhunyiwe. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuba injana ayibonakali kwi-stimuli eyaneleyo, ngoko ukuveliswa kwezinto ze-messenger kuyancipha kwaye ngoko uthungelwano lwe-nerve luyacotha. Injana eneeseli zemithambo-luvo engaqhagamshelwanga kangako ayinako ukuqina emva kwexesha njengenjana ethe yavezwa kwizinto ezininzi ezivuselelayo. Oku kunokubonisa kwiintsilelo ezivela kamva ebomini, ezifana nokuphazamiseka kwemoto okanye iingxaki zokuziphatha.
Ukuba umfuyi wenze umsebenzi omhle, ngoko i-puppy ayinayo ngokoqobo "imizwa emihle", iphinda ifunde ngokulula. Kwakhona kuyanceda ukuba injana ifumene inqanaba elithile loxinzelelo kwiiveki ezimbalwa zokuqala. Le yindlela kuphela enokwakha inqanaba eliphezulu lokunyamezela ukukhungatheka, okuya kuthi kamva kumenze abe yinja ekhululekile, ethembekileyo.
Inkcazo ye “Socialization”
Ukuhlalisana neenjana ngokuqhelekileyo kuthetha ukuba injana ifumana ukwazi kangangoko kunokwenzeka kwiiveki ezimbalwa zokuqala, umzekelo, abanye abantu, izinja, kodwa kunye neemeko, ingxolo kunye nezinye izinto ezintsha.
Kodwa eneneni, ukuhlalisana kulinganiselwe ekusebenzisaneni nezinye izinto eziphilayo. Okokuqala, oku kubandakanya ukujongana nomama wenja kunye nabantakwenu, emva koko kuza ukunxibelelana nabantu. Ewe, zombini ukuqhela kunye nokunxibelelana nenjana kubalulekile ukuba injana izakuba yinja elungeleleneyo. Akuzona kuphela iinyanga ezine zokuqala ezibalulekileyo, kodwa kunye nesigaba senja encinci kunye nomgaqo wobomi bonke benja. Ngapha koko, ungumfundi wobomi bonke. Nangona kunjalo, ngokukodwa "kwisigaba sokwenza" (ukuya kwiveki ye-16 yobomi), kukho izinto ezimbalwa zokuqwalasela.
Ukuhlalisana neenjana: Iqala ngomfuyi
Ngokufanelekileyo, injana iya kuhlala kunye nomfuyi ide ibe neeveki ezisi-8 ubudala ukuze ikwazi ukwenza amava ayo abalulekileyo kwindawo eqhelekileyo kwaye iphuhlise ukuza kuthi ga ngoku ukuba ilungele ukufudukela kwikhaya layo elitsha. Ngoko ke kubalulekile ukuba injana ibe namava akhuthazayo ngeli xesha. Abafuyi abaninzi baye bavumela iinjana ukuba “zikhulele phakathi kwentsapho”: Ngale ndlela ziba nomfanekiso opheleleyo wobomi bemihla ngemihla yaye ziyakwazi nengxolo yasekhitshini, ingxolo yesicoci sevacuum, nezinye izinto ezininzi ngokukhawuleza kunoko. ukuba bakhuliswe kwindlwana.
Ngaphezu kwakho konke, nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukwazi umntu, kuba zininzi iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zethu kwiinjana ezincinci. Abakhulu, abancinci, abatyebileyo, abanamazwi aphezulu okanye aphantsi, abantu abanzima okanye abakude. Inani labafowunelwa linyuka kancinci de injana iyazi ukuba ayifanelanga ukuba yoyike abantu, kodwa bayinxalenye “yosapho”.
Ukongeza, kufuneka akwazi ukuya kukhenketho lokuphonononga olujongisiweyo kunye nabantakwenu, ngelo xesha athi aqhelane nelizwe langaphandle ngengxolo engaqhelekanga kunye neendawo ezahlukeneyo. Amava akhuthazayo enza unxibelelwano olutsha kwingqondo eyomeleza kwisiseko sayo. Okubaluleke kakhulu, i-puppy ifunda ukuba ihlabathi lizele izinto ezintsha, kodwa azinabungozi (ngokuqinisekileyo iimoto ezihambayo azikho yingozi, kodwa loo msebenzi uza kamva). Kwezi veki zimbalwa zokuqala, amava okumisela umkhwa aya kuthatha isigqibo sokuba injana ngenye imini iya kuba yinja evulekileyo nenomdla okanye ingaba iya koyika na yonke into entsha.
Qhubekeka iSocialization
Nje ukuba uthabathe ilungu lakho elitsha losapho kumfuyi, kubalulekile ukuba uqhubeke nonxibelelwano. Ngoku unoxanduva lwenjana kwaye kufuneka uqinisekise ukuba uphuhliso lwayo olongezelelweyo luyaqhubeka ngendlela eyakhayo. Isiseko salokhu kuqala kuko konke ukuthembela kumntu aya kuthi (ngokufanelekileyo) achithe ubomi bakhe bonke. Ke unokufumanisa ihlabathi elinomdla kunye kwaye nazi izinto ezintsha. Kubalulekile ukuqhubela phambili isinyathelo ngesinyathelo ukuze ungagqithisi umncinci kwaye uphendule ngokuchanekileyo kwiimeko ezimoyikayo.
Njengoyena mntu usondeleyo wereferensi, unomsebenzi ongumzekelo oqinileyo wentshontsho. Ukuba usondela kwizinto ezintsha ngokuzolileyo kwaye uphumle, uya kwenza okufanayo kwaye afunde lukhulu ngokuqwalasela. Oku kucaciswa ngakumbi, umzekelo, xa omncinci eqhelana nobomi besixeko kunye nesandi esinamandla kunye nezinto ezikhawulezayo, ezingaqhelekanga (imoto, izithuthuthu, njl.). Kuluncedo apha ukuqhubela phambili inyathelo ngenyathelo kwaye kancinci ukwandisa isivuseleli. Unokumphazamisa ngokudlala, ngoko ke isivuseleli esitsha ngokukhawuleza sibe yinto encinci.
Kwakhona kubalulekile ukuqhela ukuqhuba imoto, ukuya kwiindawo zokutyela, ukusebenzisa izithuthi zikawonke-wonke okanye izihlwele ezikhulu. Kwakhona: ukuthembela kuko konke kunye nokuphela-konke! Ngalo lonke ixesha sondela kwiimeko ezintsha ngokukhawuleza, ungamgqithisi, kwaye uthathe inyathelo emva kokuba umntwana wakho omncinci esabela ngokuxhalaba okanye uxinzelelo. Ukuba uphumelele, unokwandisa "inqanaba lobunzima" kwakhona.
Yiya esikolweni
Ngendlela, isikolo senja esilungileyo siluncedo xa sidibana nezinye izinja. Apha injana ayifundi kuphela indlela yokujongana nezinja zobudala obufanayo. Ukwafunda ukukwazi ukudibana nezinja ezinkulu okanye ezikhulileyo. Kwaye phantsi kweliso leengcali zezinja. Ukutyelela iqela elinjalo kwakhona kukulungele wena njengomnini wezinja, kuba unokuhlala ufunda izinto ezintsha kwaye uphucule ubudlelwane kunye nenja yakho.