UMary Allen
Ngaba inja yakho ibikugquma mva nje? Ewe kunjalo, ukuba inja yakho iyakugquma, oku AKUSOKHO luphawu oluhle.
Emva komothuko wokuqala kwicala lakho, umbuzo ngoku uyaphakama, kutheni inja yam igquma kum?
Ukukhula kuhlala kuthetha: yima, ukuya apha kwaye ungaqhubeli phambili! Ukuba lo mda awuqatshelwa, unokuphelisa kakubi!
Ukugquma ngumbandela ochukumisayo. Yiyo kanye le nto sibhale esi sikhokelo.
Apha uya kufumanisa zonke izizathu ezahlukeneyo zokuba kutheni inja yakho ikhala kuwe kwaye siya kukunika izisombululo ekulula ukuziphumeza ukukunceda uyeke inja yakho ekugqumeni kwixesha elizayo.
Ngamafutshane: inja yakho ibhomboloza kuwe
Enye yeendlela izinja ezinxibelelana ngayo kukugquma. Ngale nto bafuna ukwenza abalingane babo okanye uqonde: hamba, ungasondeli kum, kuba ndiziva ndingakhululekanga okanye ndisoyika kwimeko yangoku.
Ukuba inja yakho ikhala kuwe, imiqondiso yomzimba yangaphambili yayingachazwanga kakuhle okanye ingahoywa.
Xa inja yakho ikhala kuwe, lixesha lokuba wenze.
Noko ke, xa unobangela uchongiwe, oku kunokulungiswa ngokulula.
Ukuba ngoku uphanda unobangela kwaye uqaphela kwangoko enye ingxaki ekufuneka ilungiswe, ndicebisa inja yethu ibhayibhile.
Apha uya kufumana ezona ngxaki zixhaphakileyo kwaye ufumane izisombululo ekulula ukuziphumeza.
Iimbangela-Kutheni inja yam ikhala kum?
Ngaba ucinga ngoku: Inja yam iyandikrokrela xa kukho into engamfanelanga?
Njengoko bekutshiwo ngaphambili, ukugquma lunxibelelwano. Awukwazanga ukufunda imiqondiso yangaphambili yenja yakho.
Ngoku uziva esongelwa nguwe okanye uyoyika kwaye ufuna ukukuxelela oku ngendlela yokuba ekugqibeleni ukuqonde. Yiyo loo nto inja yakho ikhala kuwe!
Ewe, kuyaphazamisa kwaye kuyoyikisa xa inja yakho ikhala kuwe.
Kwaye ngoku lixesha lokuba ubuze ukuziphatha kwakho.
Izizathu zokuba kutheni inja yakho ikhala kuwe zezi:
Ukhuseleko lwezibonelelo
Umthombo yinto inja enayo ngelo xesha. Oku kunokuba kukutya, indawo yokulala, into yokudlala yakhe okanye nokuba kufutshane nawe.
Inja yakho ikholelwa ukuba “into eyam yeyam”. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba uzama ukuthabatha ubutyebi bakhe kwaye akazange afunde ukulawula umnqweno, uya kukhwaza kuwe ngelo xesha.
istres
Inja yakho ibhomboloza kuwe kuba iphantsi koxinzelelo olukhulu. Kule mihla, izinja zihlaselwa phantse yonke imihla ngezimvo ezahlukeneyo.
Ukuba awukwazi ukutolika imiqondiso yomzimba wenja yakho kunye neempawu zokuzola ngokuchanekileyo, oku kuthetha uxinzelelo olukhulu kwinja yakho. Awumqondi nezidingo zakhe kwaye akanayo enye indlela ngaphandle kokudlulisela le nto kuwe ngokugquma.
Iintlungu
Kodwa ucinga ukuba inja yam iyabhomboloza kwaye indiqwele?
Izinja ziincutshe ekufihleni iintlungu.
Ukuba inja yakho ikhala kuwe kwaye izama ukukubamba xa uzama ukuyibamba, oku kunokuba luphawu lwentlungu.
Ingakumbi ukuba le ndlela yokuziphatha yenzeke ngesiquphe ukusuka ekuqaleni, kuyacetyiswa ukuba wenze idinga nogqirha wakho wezilwanyana.
Ukunqongophala kokunyamezela ukudandatheka, ukungakwazi ukulawula impembelelo, okanye ukuxhalaba
Ukunyamezelwa kokuphoxeka kunye nokulawula umfutho kufuneka kuqeqeshwe ngocoselelo.
Ukuba inja yakho ayikwazi oku, iya kubonakala kuxinzelelo olukhulu kwiimeko ezithile kwaye oku kuya kubangela okubizwa ngokuba yizenzo zokutsiba. Inja yakho iya kugquma kuwe okanye izame ukukuqhwanyaza.
Ukutsiba kufana nevalve: uyayikhupha yonke istres kunye noxinzelelo kwangoko.
Ukoyiswe kakhulu / ungonwabanga okanye uswele ukuphumla?
Ukuzilolonga okuncinci okanye okuninzi kunoxinzelelo olukhulu kwinja yakho kwaye ihlala ibangela ukugquma.
Ukuphumla nokuphumla yeyona ngongoma ibalulekileyo.
Ukuba inja yakho ayikwazi ukufumana ukuphumla okanye ayinakho ukuhlehla okukhuselekileyo, ayilingani. Ukudlulisela oku kuwe, inja yakho iyakugquma.
Injana yam iyandikhwaza
Nkqu neenjana zinxibelelana nokugquma. Njengenja endala, mhlawumbi awufundanga ngokuchanekileyo iimpawu ezingenayo zenjana yakho.
Nangona kunjalo, kukwakho into ebizwa ngokuba yi-play grum kwintshontsho. Uqhele ukuva oku xa udlala umlo kunye nomncinci. Lo mdlalo ukugquma ukhuselekile ngokupheleleyo!
Injana yakho ingxola ngawe kuba ayivumelani kwaphela nemeko yangoku'
Iimeko ezinjalo ziqhelekile xa injana ibanjwe ngokuchasene nentando yakhe, inento engafuni ukuyinika ngelo xesha, okanye xa uyiphulula kwindawo ethile ayiyithandi.
KUBALULEKILE! UNGAZE uyalele injana yakho ukuba igqume. Ngale nto uyamnqanda ukuba anxibelelane kwaye unokukuluma nje!
Ngoku lixesha elifanelekileyo lokuqala ukujonga unxibelelwano lwenjana kunye neempawu zokuqinisekisa.
Kuba: ukuba uyakwazi ukufunda injana yakho kwaye ngaloo ndlela wenze ngokweemfuno zakhe, ayisayi kuphinda ifune ukukugquma.
Inja yam iyandincwina xa ndiyifutha
Ukuba inja yakho ikhala kuwe xa uzama ukumbamba, kukho izinto ezimbini ezinokubangela:
Udlule kwinqanaba lokunyamezela inja yakho
Ukunqongophala kwesikhokelo: inja yakho ikunika umyalelo ngokugquma ukuba kufuneka uyishiye yodwa
Ukuba inja yakho ikhala kuwe xa ufuna ukumbamba, oku kudla ngokuba ngumqondiso wokuba awuzange ucinge ukuba ungamkhokela njani.
Oku kunokulungiswa ngokukhawuleza xa kuthelekiswa nolawulo olungaguqukiyo, olucwangcisiweyo.
Ngaba unayo inja yosapho apho onke amalungu osapho akhathalela inja? Ngoko ke kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ninxibelelane omnye nomnye kwaye nitsale kunye.
Inja yam iyandincwina kwaye ikhuphe amazinyo
I-snarl eyongezelelweyo iphezulu kune-growl kwaye sele ihlelwe phantsi kokuziphatha okundlongondlongo.
Ukuba inja yakho ikhala kuwe ngamazinyo angenanto, kufuneka ujongane ngokukhawuleza nesihloko sonxibelelwano lwenja. Oku kuziphatha akwenzeki nje, kodwa inja yakho sele ikuxelele kwangaphambili ngolwimi lomzimba wayo ukuba kukho into engalunganga.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba awukwazi ukutolika ukuziphatha kwenja yakho, ndincoma ukuba udibane nomqeqeshi wezinja onobuchule ngaphambi kokuba le ndlela yokuziphatha isungulwe okanye inyuke.
Inja yam iyandigquma – kufuneka ndenze njani?
Xa inja yakho ikhala kuwe, isoloko isoyikisa.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ke ngoko ukuba uhlale uzolile kwaye uqhubeke ngolu hlobo lulandelayo:
- phendula ngengqiqo nangokuzolileyo
- umva inyathelo elinye okanye amabini, nika inja indawo
- khangela ukuma kwakho, musa ukudala uxinzelelo
- musa ukuyohlwaya inja yakho ngokugquma
- zibuze
Izinja ezininzi ziziva zisongelwa kukuma okundlongo-ndlongo kwinja. Qaphela ukuba ungagobi phezu kwenja yakho kwaye ubeke ingqalelo kuxinzelelo lomzimba wakho.
Izisombululo ezinokubakho: Ungayinqanda njani inja yakho ekugqumeni?
Ewe, ngumnqweno wabo bonke abanini bezinja ukuba nenja enobuhlobo nenothando ecaleni kwabo.
Ngelishwa, akukho sitshixo sokuvala ukugquma, kodwa kufuneka kujongwe ngokweenkcukacha ukuba kubangelwa yintoni na.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuze ukwazi ukuphanda ngempumelelo oonobangela, kufuneka uqale ujongane nolwimi lomzimba wenja yakho kunye nemiqondiso yokuthomalalisa ngokweenkcukacha.
Kufuneka ufunde ukufunda inja yakho njengencwadi evulekileyo. Ukuba unokufunda inja yakho, awuyi kukwazi ukunqanda inja yakho ukuba ingakhuli kuwe, kodwa ezinye iingxaki ezininzi ziya kunyamalala emoyeni.
Ngoba? Ngokulula: kuba uya kufunda ukuqonda inja yakho. Ukufunda inja akuthethi enye into ngaphandle kokuba inja inokunxibelelana nawe!
Ukuba unokufunda inja yakho, uya kuqaphela ukuba uyamqonda kwaye, ngaphezu kwakho konke, iimfuno zakhe. Ukugquma yinja. Ukugquma kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Ngoku ungasebenzisa into yokuba inja yakho ikhala kuwe ukuzisa utshintsho oluhle.
Funda ulwimi lomzimba wenja yakho
Funda ukufunda inja yakho! Inja yakho sele ikuxelele kwangaphambili ukuba yintoni engalunganga. Awuzange uyiqonde le nto.
Inja iya KUSOLOKO iphendule kuqala ngemiqondiso ezolileyo. Ukuba awuziqapheli, uya phambili kwaye uya kugquma kuwe.
Kodwa, ngokuqinisekileyo, unokufunda ukufunda ulwimi lwenja yakho, kwaye akunzima kangako.
Ngeempawu zokuzola (imiqondiso yokuzola) inja yakho ikubonisa xa kukho into engathandekiyo kuye:
- khotha impumlo yakho
- amehlo athe ntsho
- smack
- amanqina (ikhangeleka ngathi idanisa ngamanqina angaphambili (
- ukuzamla
- Nciphisa ukujonga / jika okanye unciphise intloko
- Jika umzimba / ulale ngomqolo
- ukushukumisa umsila
- ukuphosa
- Imigca yokunyoka / ukuhamba kwigophe
- ukucotha kweentshukumo
- Ukungahoyi
- ukuchama
Ukuba inja yakho ikubonisa le miqondiso, olu luphawu kuwe lokuba ayiziva kakuhle. Inokubonisa imiqondiso emininzi kunye, kodwa amaxesha amaninzi yahlukile.
Kutheni le nto kubaluleke kangaka ukuqonda le miqondiso?
Khawufan' ucinge: ukwimeko engathandekiyo kwaye ufuna ukuthi kumlingani wakho, yeka, ungaqhubeki, kwaye umlingane wakho akakuqondi nje?
Ngokwesiqhelo ubuya kusebenzisa ezinye iindlela ukwenza icace kumlingane wakho ukuba kwanele, akunjalo?
Yiloo nto kanye injalo, okanye kunoko, bekunjani kuwe kunye nenja yakho kude kube ngoku.
Wayekwimeko eyayimenza angakhululeki. Sele ekubonisile kwangaphambili ngolwimi lomzimba wakhe. Apho kukho into engamfanelanga.
Ekubeni wawungamqondi, kwafuneka ahambele phambili. Wakugquma. Oku kuninzi okungathandabuzekiyo.
Ngoku ukuba uyayazi imiqondiso yenja yakho, kuya kuba lula kuwe ukuba ufumanise ukuba yintoni eyenza inja yakho ikhule kuwe.
Oku kukuvumela ukuba usabele kwangethuba kwixesha elizayo ngaphambi kokuba imeko yokugquma yenzeke.
Phendula endaweni yokwenza!
Kwaye eyona nto ingcono kukuba, ukuba unokufunda inja yakho, ubomi bakho kunye buya kuphucula kakhulu. Uya kukwazi ngakumbi ukuphendula kwiimfuno zakhe kwaye iqhina lakho liya komelezwa ngakumbi.
Nceda uqaphele oku kulandelayo:
Musa ukukuthabatha lula ukugquma! Luphawu lokuba awukwazi ukufunda inja yakho ngokufanelekileyo kwaye kufuneka usebenze ngokwakho.
Iingcebiso zakudala ezineenjongo ezintle ezifana nokubeka inja emqolo, ukubamba amadevu, okanye ukuxubha intamo - ayinayo indawo ngokupheleleyo kwezi meko kwaye iphikisana!
Ukuba inja yakho ikhala kuwe, oku akusiyo ukusilela ekuqeqesheni inja kwicala lakho. Musa ukuzibeka ityala, akukho nto iphosakeleyo uyenzileyo! Endaweni yoko, yindlela yokuba wena kunye nenja yakho nifunde indlela entsha yokunxibelelana kunye.
isiphelo
Ngaba inja yakho iyagquma kuwe? Kanye njengokuba sele ucinga, kukho into ekhoyo! Inja yakho ayikhuli nje kuwe, kodwa awuzange uqonde iimpawu zakhe kunye nolwimi kude kube ngoku. Ngaphambi kokugquma, inja yakho ibisoloko ithumela ezinye iimpawu!
Ngokugquma, inja yakho ikwenza kucace kuwe: Yima! Yeka! Kwanele!
Kodwa ngoku ufunde ukufunda inja yakho. Oku kukunika isixhobo esihle kakhulu sokuthintela ukugquma kwixesha elizayo. Kuba: ngoku uyakwazi ukuyiqonda inja yakho xa iziva ingakhululekanga kwaye akusafuneki ukuba ikugqume.
Ngaba ucinga ngoku, owu, akunzima kangako? Kugqwesileyo! Jonga ibhayibhile yethu yezinja, sinezisombululo ezininzi ezilula kwiingxaki ezininzi.