UMary Allen
Kwinja eyonwabileyo, ingqalelo yomntu ibalulekile.
Ngaba uchitha ixesha elaneleyo nabantu obathandayo? Amaqabane, abahlobo, abazali, abantakwethu, abantwana: nonke ninokuthi nisixelele ukuba nivakalelwa kukuba asinihoyanga. Umhlobo wakho onemilenze emine ungayenza naye, kodwa hayi ngamazwi.
Kunoko, inja yakho ibonisa, ngokuyinhloko ngokuziphatha kwayo, ukuba ifuna ingqalelo engakumbi kuwe. Inye into eqinisekileyo: Izinja zizilwanyana ezihlala kakhulu. Ukuba bashiywe bodwa ixesha elide, baziva bengonwabanga.
Nantsi indlela onokufumanisa ngayo ukuba oku kunjalo ngomhlobo wakho onemilenze emine:
Inja yakho ifuna ukufumana ingqalelo yakho ngolu lwimi lomzimba
Nabani na owaziyo ukuba izinja zifuna njani ukutsalela ingqalelo kubo ngokukhawuleza uqaphela iimpawu eziqhelekileyo. Izinja ezininzi ziba zizinyanzelo kakhulu xa zifuna ingqalelo engakumbi kunye nothando. Oku kunokubonwa, umzekelo, kwinto yokuba inja yakho ikulandela yonke indawo, ixhomekeke kuwe, ihleli ezinyaweni zakho, okanye ikhwela phezu kwakho xa uhleli phantsi.
Ngaba umhlobo wakho onemilenze emine “uyaqubuda” phambi kwakho ngoxa esolula iimpundu zakhe emoyeni, eshukumisa umsila wakhe? Emva koko uya kufuna ukudlala nawe.
Ingxaki yokuziphatha kwezinja ezizizodwa
Ngokukodwa izinja, ezihlala zishiywe zodwa ekhaya kwaye zihlupheka ngenxa yokwahlukana, nazo zivakalisa iimvakalelo zabo ngokuziphatha okuyingxaki. Isenokuba kukukhonkotha okugqithisileyo okanye ukubhomboloza. Ezi zinja zihlala ziluma okanye zikrazula izinto. Naxa abahlobo abanemilenze emine bephawula ukuba abantu babo sele beza kuhamba, baye babe noxinzelelo. Umzekelo, xa ukhala izitshixo okanye unxibe izihlangu zakho.
Ezinye izinja nazo ziyaqhula xa usekhaya, kodwa awuyiniki inja yakho iindidi ezaneleyo. Kuzo zombini ezi meko, isiphumo kukuqeshwa.
Thatha ikhefu rhoqo ukuze udlale nenja yakho. Kwaye ukuba ungekho ekhaya ixesha elide, unokukholisa inja yakho, umzekelo, ngomatshini wokuthengisa okanye umphakeli. Kwezinye iimeko, uqeqesho olungaguquguqukiyo kuphela luya kunceda ukuqeqesha inja yakho ukuba ibe yodwa, ngokukhethekileyo phantsi kwesikhokelo somqeqeshi oyingcali.
KwiNja Yakho, Ingqalelo luphawu lweMvume yakho
Ingqwalasela inja ifuna umntu ngamnye kakhulu. Ezinye izinja zifuna ukuphululwa, ukugonwa, kwaye zifuna ukunconywa okanye ukungxoliswa. Abanye bakhululekile kwaye bazimele kwaye bamkele nantoni na obanika yona, kodwa abayithandi yonke ingqalelo ofuna ukubanika yona. Ke, ukuze wazi eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuthambisa inja yakho, kufuneka wazi kakuhle isimilo sayo.
Nokuba yeyiphi imilo, ingqalelo iya kubonisa inja yakho ukuba uyayamkela. Njengerhamncwa lemvelo lomthwalo, limenza azive ekhuselekile yaye engowomntu wakhe.