UMary Allen
Ngaba ikati yakho yahlukile kweyesiqhelo? Ukutshintsha indlela yokutya, ukuphazamiseka, ukukhathala - ukuba ikati yakho iziphatha ngendlela engaqhelekanga, oku kungabonisa ukugula.
Kuthetha ukuthini nokuba ikati iziphatha ngendlela engaqhelekanga? “Okungaqhelekanga” kuthetha ukuba ububovu bakho buhlala bungabonakali. Ngoko ke, kuxhomekeke kwikati, inokuthetha into eyahlukileyo. Uwazi kakuhle umlenze wakho wevelvet kwaye ke uqinisekile ukuba uyayiqonda xa into ihamba ngequbuliso ngendlela eyahlukileyo kunesiqhelo.
Ngokubanzi, oogqirha bezilwanyana bachaza ukuziphatha okungaqhelekanga kwekati ngolu hlobo:
- Ukutshintsha indlela yokutya - umzekelo, ukutya okanye ukusela ngaphezulu okanye ngaphantsi kunesiqhelo;
- Ukuziphatha okutshintshileyo kwehempe yekati;
- Iingxaki zokuziphatha;
- ukungakhathali;
- Utshintsho kwindlela yokuphila;
- Ukuphazamiseka;
- Izimo ezingaqhelekanga;
- Iimeows ezininzi okanye ezinye ingxolo kunesiqhelo.
Ikati yakho idandathekile
Ngokuxhomekeke kwindlela ikati yakho eziphatha ngayo, kunokubakho izizathu ezahlukeneyo. Enye inokwenzeka: ikati yakho idandathekile okanye ibuhlungu nje. Ngokomzekelo, utshintsho lokuziphatha lungenzeka emva kokufa kwekati yakho yesibini. Ikati eseleyo ke ngoko izilela umhlobo wayo. Ngokomzekelo, xa ngequbuliso engasafuni kutya, uyazifihla okanye akakuhoyi ukunyamekela ibhatyi yakhe.
Ungayinceda njani ikati yakho kule meko? Okokuqala, kufuneka uxoxe ngotshintsho kwindlela yokuziphatha kunye nogqirha wakho wezilwanyana - kwaye ukhuphe ezinye izizathu ezinokwenzeka. Emva koko kuyanceda ukuba unika ikati yakho uthando oluninzi kunye nengqalelo yokuyithuthuzela ngenxa yokulahlekelwa. Ukongeza, ungadlala naye ukumphazamisa.
Ikati yakho iyagula
Iikati zikholisa ukuba zilungile ekuzifihleni ukuba zisezintlungwini okanye ziyagula. Nangona kunjalo, kukho ezinye ii-quirks ezibonisa ukuba. Umzekelo, xa ikati yakho ngequbuliso ingaseli okanye isele kakhulu, xa irhoxa okanye ingasasebenzisi ibhokisi yenkunkuma.
Nangona iikati azigulanga ubomi kwiimeko ezininzi: Ukuze unciphise ukubandezeleka kwabo ngokukhawuleza, kufuneka ubayise kwi-vet kwiimpawu zokuqala zokuziphatha "okungaqhelekanga".
Ikati yakho yenza ngokungaqhelekanga kuba inexinzelelo
Iikati ezininzi zisabela ngokukhawuleza kwiinguqu: ukuhamba, abantu abahlala nabo, ingxolo eninzi - konke oku kunokuba yinto engavamile kwikati yakho ekuqaleni kwaye umbeke emoyeni. Nokuba ikati yakho iziva isongelwa okanye mhlawumbi ayihambisani nawe, inokuziphatha ngendlela engaqhelekanga – oku kuzibonakalisa, umzekelo, ngokundlongondlongo, kodwa nesidingo esongezelelekileyo sokuhoywa.
Ukuphelisa uxinzelelo lwekati yakho, kufuneka udale eyona ndawo ingenaxinzelelo olunokwenzeka kuye. Umzekelo, inokunceda ukuba ikati yakho iphumle ezolileyo okanye inokukhupha uxinzelelo lwayo kwindawo yokukrwela.