UMary Allen
Ukuba ufuna ukunqanda inja yakho ukuba ingakhonkothi ngokugqithiseleyo, kufuneka uqale ufumanise ukuba yintoni ebangela oko ukuziphatha yomhlobo wakho onemilenze emine. Nje ukuba ifunyenwe, lixesha lokuba sijongane nengxaki yeBell, esithe sadibanisa iingcebiso apha.
Enoba kungenxa yokuzala, ukukruquka, okanye uloyiko, ukukhonkotha ngokugqithiseleyo kunokuba nezizathu ezahlukahlukeneyo.
Ukuba Ukukhonkotha rhoqo kuNxulumana neNzala: Nantsi indlela yokuyiyeka
Ezinye izinja zenja zikhonkotha kaninzi kunabanye kwaye zikonwabele ukwenza njalo - zivumele ukuba kodwa ngokumodareyitha. Kwimeko engcono, uvula ukuthula kwisithandwa sakho esifuna ukunxibelelana imiyalelo njengokukhonkotha.
Ukuba inja yakho ithanda ukukhonkotha xa kukhala intsimbi yocango, ungazama oku kulandelayo: ukukhonkotha kathathu kulungile, yithi “Cima!” okanye omnye umyalelo owusebenzisa ngokungaguqukiyo xa ufuna ukumyekisa ukukhonkotha engafuni.
Xa ezolile, mncome kakhulu, kodwa ngokuzolileyo ukuze angabi namdla wokukhonkotha kwakhona. Ukuba uqala ukukhonkotha kwakhona, dlala umdlalo ofanayo kwakhona: indumiso xa esithi "Cima!" uvile. Kungekudala iya kuqonda. Kubalulekile ukuba ube nomonde kwaye ungasithethisi isithandwa sakho xa sikhonkotha. Ayiqondi ke ukuba unomsindo kuye kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo hayi kutheni. Endaweni yoko, ibona ilizwi lakho elikhulu njengokukhonkotha kuwe kwaye unokuziva uqinisekisiwe.
Xa Inja Ikhonkotha Ekulumkeni okanye Ukukruquka
Inja engaqeshwanga kakuhle kwaye ephelelwe lithemba ukunyamezela ifuna iintlobo ngeentlobo zentloko yayo kunye nemithambo emininzi. Mthathe uhambo olude ngakumbi ngaphambi kokuba uye emsebenzini kwaye umshiye yedwa. Ukuba unomnqweno onamandla wokushukuma, kufuneka umlolonge ngebhayisekile kwaye utshintshe umjikelo.
Inja imidlalo ezifana Ubuchule kwakhona qinisekisa ukuba umhlobo wakho onemilenze emine ukhetha ukuthatha isithongwana endaweni yokukhonkotha ngenxa yokukruquka xa esekhaya yedwa iiyure ezimbalwa. Nangona kunjalo, lo mdlalo okhawulezayo awufanelekanga kuyo yonke inja. Ukuba umhlobo wakho onemilenze emine udla ngokusebenza ngokugqithiseleyo kwaye angathanda ukukhuthazwa bubuchule kunokuba udinwe, iindlela zokuqeqesha ezolile zimfanelekele ngakumbi, ezifuna ukugxila kwakhe kunye nokubhenela kwiimvakalelo zakhe ezintle, umzekelo, Ubuchule, thobela, ukwenza amaqhinga, ukudanisa inja, or ukusebenza ngeempumlo. Nokuba inja yakho ithintelwe ngokwasemzimbeni okanye kufuneka iphumle amalungu ayo ngenxa yobukhulu bayo, ingqiqo imidlalo kunye nemithambo yoxinaniso ilungele ukubaleka isithukuthezi.
Inja ekhonkotha kuyo yonke ingxolo kwi-stairwell ngenxa yokuphaphama akufuneki ivunyelwe ukuba ibukele ngqo phambi komnyango wangaphambili ukuba kunokwenzeka - ukuba i-paseji yakho inokuvalwa ngocango oludibanisayo, luvale kwaye ushiye inja yakho ngaphakathi. indawo yokuhlala apho anokwenza into engaphantsi kokuqonda okwenzekayo ngaphandle. Unako nokumshiya evuliwe unomathotholo ukuba ufuna ukumenza ayeke ukukhonkotha, njengoko oku kuya kumthomalalisa kwaye uqinisekise ukuba izingqi zeenyawo ezisepasejini ayisiso sodwa isandi asivayo.
Ukukhonkotha ngenxa yoloyiko nokungakhuseleki
Ukuba inja ayiqinisekanga kwaye ikhala i-alam ukuba nje umntu obalekayo uyadlula kuwe, kufuneka uqinisekise kuye. Mgcine eqhineni, mvumele ahambe ecaleni kwakho, kwaye ungayihoyi indlela yakhe yokuziphatha. Ngaphandle koko, uya kusebenzisa ngokungazi ukuqiniswa okuqinisekileyo kwaye "uvuze" inja yakho ngokuziphatha kwayo okoyikekayo. Oku kwenzeka kwakhona xa wena - ngenxa yemfesane kunye neenjongo ezintle - ufuna ukuthuthuzela umntu omthandayo kwaye uthethe naye ngokuzolileyo. Emva koko ucinga ukuba unesizathu esivakalayo sokoyika xa kwanentliziyo yakhe “nenkokeli epakishe” ibona isizathu sokuyekisa imeko. Ukubuyisela, ukuba uziphatha ngokungathi akukho nto iqhubekayo, inja yakho iya kuqonda ukuba akukho sizathu sokukhathazeka kwaye iya kuthoba.
Ukukhonkotha rhoqo: Lufuneka nini uncedo lobuGcisa?
Ayinakuphela nje imidlalo yezinja enokuthi igcine umhlobo wakho onemilenze emine ukuba angabi nesithukuthezi, kodwa inokukomeleza bond phakathi kwakho nenja yakho kwaye ubenze bazive bekhuselekile kunye nawe. Kungcono ufumane umqeqeshi wezinja ukuze akuncede isilwanyana sakho esixhalabileyo, esikruqukileyo, okanye esilumke kakhulu ukuba singakhonkothi. Oku kuyinyani ngakumbi ukuba awuyazi ukuba kutheni inja yakho ikhonkotha kangaka.
Ukuba umhlobo wakho onemilenze emine ebesenza ingxolo egqithisileyo kangangexesha elifutshane, nangona ngokuqhelekileyo wayeluhlobo oluzolileyo, ukutyelela ugqirha wezilwanyana akunakwenza monakalo. Inja yakho inokugula kwaye ifuna ukukwazisa ngokukhonkotha. Ukuba i-vet ayikwazanga ukufumana naziphi na iimpawu zomzimba, isazi sengqondo sezilwanyana inokukunceda ukongeza kumqeqeshi wezinja. Kuqheleke kakhulu ngokuziphatha kwenja kwaye, ekuthetheni nawe kunye nokujongana nesithandwa sakho, unokukwazi ukufumana izizathu zokuziphatha kwakhe ngokukhwaza ngokungathandekiyo eziye zahlala zifihliwe kuwe ukuza kuthi ga ngoku.