UMary Allen
Ngaba inja yakho yibhokisi yokuncokola yokwenene? Ukuba unezinto ezininzi "zokuthetha" kunawe, iingcebiso zethu ziya kunceda.
Inja inelizwi kwaye kufuneka ilisebenzise. Ukuthintela inja ekukhonkotheni kuya kuba yinto engalunganga kakhulu, hayi isilwanyana, kunye nobubhanxa obupheleleyo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba inja ikhonkotha ngenxa yokukruquka okanye uxinezeleko, isenokukhula ibe kukukhonkotha rhoqo.
Akuthandabuzeki ukuba izinja ezihlala zikhonkotha azikho mnandi. Ayingowena kuphela ovezwayo kuyo, kodwa nabamelwane kunye nabadlula ngendlela. Kwaye ngaphezu kwayo yonke into, iphinda icinezele inja ngokwayo.
Ukukhonkotha rhoqo kwenzeka rhoqo xa umhlobo onemilenze emine esekhaya. Kukho izizathu ezahlukeneyo zoku. Kwaye okukhona usazi ngezizathu, kokukhona kuya kuba lula ukwaphula umkhwa wesilwanyana sokukhonkotha. Okokuqala, kufuneka utshintshe indlela oziphatha ngayo.
Dlulisa ukhuseleko
Ngokufanelekileyo, izinja zibona umnini wazo njengenkokeli yepakethe kwaye ziyamthobela. Umphathi wepakethi kufuneka abonakale ezolile, ezithembile kwaye ezithembile. Ukuba oku akunjalo kwaye ukungaqiniseki kuvela, isilwanyana sivakalelwa kukuba kufuneka sizikhusele. Kule meko, ukukhonkotha rhoqo kwenzeka ngenxa yokwesaba nokungakhuselekanga.
Gcina umhlobo wakho onemilenze emine exakekile
Cela umngeni inja yakho ngengqondo nangokomzimba. Inja ekhutshwe ngokucokisekileyo ikhuphe umphunga iya kugquma kancinci okanye hayi kwaphela ngenxa yokuba idiniwe kakhulu. Nokuba umhlobo onemilenze emine uyakhonkotha ngenxa yokukruquka, oku kubonisa kuphela ukuba akakhuthazwa okanye akacelwa umngeni ngokwaneleyo.
Thatha amanyathelo ngokukhawuleza
Ukuba ufuna ukufumana umhlobo wakho onemilenze emine ukuba ayeke ukukhonkotha, kufuneka ukhawuleze. Kufuneka aqaphele ngokukhawuleza xa kuvela imeko apho isilwanyana sithanda ukukhonkotha. Emva koko yibizele kude inja uze uyigcine ixakekile phambi kokuba ikhonkothe. Zinxweme kwizohlwayo kunye nokungxolisa. Imivuzo ibaluleke ngakumbi. Uqeqesho olulungileyo lwenja lunokwenziwa ngokupheleleyo ngaphandle kwezohlwayo.
Ungakuhoyi ukukhonkotha
Ezinye izinja nazo ziyakhonkotha ukuze ufumane ingqalelo yakho. Ngoko ke, ukuba awufuni lo kuziphatha, akufanele uhlawule nayiphi na ingqalelo kwisilwanyana. Kwaye oko kuquka ukutyhola. Kunoko, ungakuhoyi ngokupheleleyo ukukhonkotha. Nje ukuba inja iyeke, umvuzo okhawulezileyo ubalulekile.
Hlala uphole
Uya kuqaphela ngokukhawuleza ukuba umhlobo wakho onemilenze emine akabonakalisi ukuziphatha okufunayo ukuba nje uyamngxolisa okanye ukhwaza kakhulu "ucime" kuye. Kunoko, uya kukubona oku njengenkuthazo yokuqhubeka ekhonkotha kwaye acinge ukuba uhamba nayo.
Mfundise ukuba athi tu ngomyalelo
Ukusebenzisa umyalelo wokuba inja yakho iyeke ukukhonkotha kulula ukuba uqale ufundise inja yakho umyalelo wokukhonkotha. Ngoko nika umyalelo, umzekelo, "Fowuna!" okanye “Thetha!”. Ukuba inja ayikhonkothi, yikhuthaze ukuba yenjenjalo. Nje ukuba inja yakho ikhonkothe izihlandlo ezimbalwa, yivuze ngokuyiphatha kakuhle.
Emva kokuba inja iwazi kakuhle umyalelo wokukhonkotha, ungadlulela kumyalelo wokuba uzolile. Ngoko makakhonkothe aze ke anikele umyalelo wokuba athule, njengokuthi “Cima!”, “Zola!” okanye “Ukuthula!”. Ngokukhawuleza ukuba inja iyeka ukukhonkotha, mnike umvuzo ngokukhawuleza. Isithandwa sakho siyakukhumbula oku kwaye, emva kokuziqhelanisa, siya kudibanisa umyalelo kumvuzo.