UMary Allen
Siphila “kwihlabathi eliphambeneyo” okwangoku. Imithombo yeendaba inika ingxelo kaninzi kwaye ngokubanzi malunga ne-coronavirus yonke imihla. Kufuneka sihlale ekhaya kwaye sikuphephe ukunxibelelana nabanye abantu ukukhusela impilo yethu. Bambalwa abantu abasendleleni kwaye ukhathalela izinto eziyimfuneko ukuze uphile. Ukongeza ekuthengeni, ukutyelela ugqirha kunye nohambo lwemihla ngemihla ukuya emsebenzini, ngokuqhelekileyo kuvunyelwa kuphela umthambo omncinci emoyeni omtsha. Kodwa kuthekani ngenja? Ingaba inja idinga unxibelelwano loluntu olungakanani? Izifundo ezidumileyo kwisikolo sezinja ngoku kufuneka zirhoxiswe. Olu luvavanyo lwezinja nakubantu. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, uninzi lwezikolo zezinja ziyekile ukusebenza njengesithintelo, okanye ngenxa yokuba kuye kwafuneka, kwaye ziye zahlehlisa iikhosi kunye nezifundo zomntu ngamnye kude kube kuphinde kwaqatshelwa.
Akukho sikolo sezinja-Yintoni ngoku?
Ukuba isikolo senja yakho siyachaphazeleka kwaye imihla kwafuneka inqunyanyiswe okwangoku, awudingi kuphakuzela. Ekuqaleni, kunokuba lutshintsho, kodwa unokuyilawula le meko kunye nenja yakho. Nokuba isikolo sezinja sivaliwe kunxibelelwano lomntu siqu, abaqeqeshi bezinja ngokuqinisekileyo baya kufumaneka kuwe ngefowuni, i-imeyile, okanye iSkype. Amathuba obugcisa ahluke kakhulu kwaye anokukunceda kula maxesha anzima ukuba ungaphambuki endleleni - ngeyona ndlela ilungileyo yegama. Bangakuxhasa ngefowuni. Banokukunika imisebenzi emincinci yokwenza nenja yakho. Ungarekhoda oku kwividiyo yolawulo kwaye uyithumele kumqeqeshi wakho wezinja. Uninzi lwezikolo zezinja zibonelela ngezifundo ze-intanethi okanye izifundo zabucala ngeSkype. Buza nje ukuba zeziphi iinketho zesikolo sakho sezinja esikuphathele zona. Ke usenokwenza iiseshoni zoqeqesho kunye nenja yakho ekhaya okanye uhambo olufutshane. Lo ngumsebenzi womzimba kunye nokuqonda inja yakho. Ithuba elihle lokuthintela umkhuhlane wekhabhinethi.
Imeko yangoku ikwangamava amatsha enja yakho. Ngapha koko, mhlawumbi wayeqhele ukuya kwisikolo sezinja rhoqo kunye nokuzonwabisa apho. Nokuba uyaqeqeshwa okanye uyasetyenziswa, inja yakho ineendlela ezahlukeneyo zokunxibelelana nabantu. Okwangoku, oku akusenani. Ke ngoku iplani B iyangena. Thatha ixesha lakho kwaye ucinge malunga nento oyifunayo kunye nenja yakho ngoku.
Ukuba uyazigula okanye uzivalele yedwa njengetyala elikrokrelekayo, udinga umntu oza kuhamba nenja yakho rhoqo. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, idinga intshukumo kwaye kufuneka ikwazi ukuzibamba. Isitiya, ukuba sikhona, sinokuyilungisa le nto ngokuyinxenye. Ukuba awuchaphazelekanga, ngokuqinisekileyo unokuqhubeka uhamba nenja yakho emoyeni omtsha (kodwa kufuneka ugcine imithetho jikelele yomdlalo, ukuba ezi zifutshane kwaye zikude kakhulu kwabanye abadlulayo). Unokwenza izinto ezininzi kwimeko yangoku kodwa ngendlela elungelelanisiweyo. Kunokwenzeka ukwenza imidlalo ngaphandle ngeempumlo zoboya, kodwa kungekhona kwiqela. Unokuhambahamba okanye ubaleke nomhlobo wakho onemilenze emine, ubuze malunga nokuzilolonga okanye ucele umngeni kuye ngokwasengqondweni, umzekelo ngocofa okanye ngemidlalo emincinci efihliweyo.
Ekhaya, unoluhlu olubanzi lwezinye iindlela onokukhetha kuzo: ukusuka kwi-agility yasekhaya ukuya kukhangelo oluncinci okanye imidlalo yobukrelekrele, ukuya kuqeqesho lokucofa kunye nokumakisha, okanye ukuthobela okusisiseko. Akukho mida yokuyila. Inja yakho iya kuvuya ukuba uchitha ixesha kunye kwaye ujabule nangona imeko yemihla ngemihla inzima. Inokukunceda ukuba uphumle kwaye ucime okomzuzwana.
Ukuba awunazo naziphi na izimvo zokuzilolonga ekhaya, unokufumana inani elikhulu leengcebiso zokuyila kwiincwadi okanye kwi-Intanethi. Wamkelekile kwakhona ukuba udibane nomqeqeshi wakho wezinja kule nto. Ngokuqinisekileyo uya kukunceda ukuba indlela yoqeqesho mhlawumbi ayicacanga ncam.
Lungakanani uQhagamshelwano loLuntu lweNja yam?
Ingakanani uqhagamshelwano lwentlalontle inja nganye ekugqibeleni idinga yonke imihla ayinakuchazwa ngokubanzi. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, inja nganye ingumntu kwaye zininzi izinto eziphembelela lo mnqweno wokunxibelelana. Ngokuxhomekeke kumava, ukukhuliswa, umlinganiswa wobuqu, ukuzala, kunye nobudala, kukho izinja ezifuna ukunxibelelana ngakumbi nohlobo lwazo kunezinye izihlobo ezinemilenze emine. Senza ukuba impumlo zethu zoboya zisondele kwezinye izinja ngokuhamba, isikolo sezinja, okanye ezinye iindibano. Okwangoku asinako ukumnika oko ngokwesiqhelo. Endaweni yoko, gxininisa ngakumbi kuni nobabini kwaye nixhase ibhondi yenu. Nobabini nibalulekile ngoku. Ke ingcebiso encinci yexesha elingaphezulu lekhwalithi: shiya iselfowuni yakho ekhaya xa uthatha inja yakho uhambo. Yiba khona kuwe kunye nenja yakho! Yonwabele imozulu kunye nexesha elizolileyo elikufutshane nawe. Kukho iimoto ezimbalwa, iinqwelomoya ezimbalwa, njl. Wonke umntu okwangoku wabelana ngeenkxalabo malunga nekamva. Kodwa zama ukuzibeka kude okomzuzwana xa uhamba okanye iiseshoni zoqeqesho ezincinci zemihla ngemihla kunye nenja yakho, kuba luloyiso lokwenyani lwenja yakho xa ifumanisa ukuba nikhona nonke!