UMary Allen
Iinkukhu azidingi nto ingako kubomi obufanelekileyo. Kodwa kukho iingongoma ezimbalwa ezibalulekileyo ekufuneka zigcinwe engqondweni ukuze ziqhube kakuhle. Kuba inkukhu engonwabanga igula lula.
Alithandabuzeki elokuba kumnandi ukubukela iinkukhu zikrwela, zigqogqa, okanye zigcakamele ilanga. Kuyayonwabisa ukujonga indlela abaziphethe ngayo: uloyiko lwesilwanyana esikwinqanaba eliphezulu okanye intaka edla inyama edlula nje, imincili xa uphosa iinkozo okanye ezinye izibiliboco. Kwaye okokugqibela, sisipho esimangalisayo ukubonelelwa ngeqanda phantse yonke imihla enencasa engcono kakhulu kuneyehoseyile.
Kodwa yintoni anokuyenza umniniyo ukuze abuyisele ezi zilwanyana zinentsiba ezinye zezi lonwabo lwemihla ngemihla? Ngamanye amazwi: Ungazonwabela njani iinkukhu zakho? Okokuqala, umbuzo obalulekileyo uvela: Yintoni inkukhu evakalelwa ngayo - ingaba ivakalelwa ulonwabo, ukubandezeleka, usizi? Lo mbuzo mhlawumbi ngowona unzima kuba kuncinane kakhulu esikwaziyo ngawo.
Ukwazi ukuba novelwano
Ngoku iyaziwa into yokuba izilwanyana ezanyisayo ezininzi kunye neentaka zinethuba lokubonisa indlela yokuziphatha. Ukuba ezi mvakalelo zijongwa ngokunzulu kangakanani na kunokucingelwa kuphela. Nangona kunjalo, kuqinisekisiwe ukuba iinkukhu zisabela kwiimeko ezimbi. Amantshontsho, umzekelo, akhuliswa ngokwahlukeneyo, asabela kule nto ngokunyuka kwamazandi okudakumba, nto leyo ebonisa ngokucacileyo ukuba unxunguphalo. Yaye okukhona kuthabatha ixesha elide oku kwahlula, kokukhona izandi zivakala ngokufuthi nangokubukhali.
Nangona kunjalo, iinkukhu azikwazi nje ukubhengeza iimeko zabo zokuxhalaba ngokusebenzisa amazwi, ziyakwazi ukuzibona kwezinye izinja kwaye zihlupheke kuzo. Xa bebonwa ngolu hlobo, baziva benovelwano, banokuvelana nabanye abantu. Ukuba amantshontsho ajongwe nokuba abe noyilo oluncinci, izikhukukazi ziya kuba nokubetha kwentliziyo okwandileyo. Ukongezelela, balumkile ngakumbi, bafowunela amantshontsho abo rhoqo, kwaye banciphise ucoceko lwabo lobuqu lube buncinane. Abaphandi bathetha ngokuziphatha okuqhelekileyo apha.
Zalisa Ngokungenaloyiko
Omnye umzekelo: ukuba undwendwe luza kwiyadi yenkukhu luchulumancile okanye lunexhala, le meko yengqondo idla ngokugqithiselwa kwinkukhu, ethi iphendule ngokuphaphatheka okanye izama ukubaleka. Ukuba oku kubonakala kungathandeki, umzekelo xa inkukhu izilimaza ngokwayo, ngokukhawuleza idibanisa ukudibana nomntu ngento engalunganga. Kuya kuqhubeka nokuziphatha ngoloyiko kwixesha elizayo kwaye oku, kwakhona, kwandisa umngcipheko wokulimala komnye.
Ukuba iinkukhu ziyoyika, oku kunokuchaphazela umsebenzi wazo wokubeka. Uvavanyo olwahlukeneyo lubonisa ngokuchukumisayo ukuba isikhukukazi esoyikayo sizalela amaqanda ambalwa kakhulu kwaye siqhele ukuba nemizekelo emincinci. Kutheni oku kungekacaciswa ngokucacileyo ngokwenzululwazi. Noko ke, kucacile ukuba xa iimeko zonxunguphalo zisiba yinto engapheliyo, oku kunokukhokelela kwiingxaki zempilo yaye ngaloo ndlela kube nokubandezeleka okukhulu. Nokuba akukho kwenzakala emzimbeni kubonakala.
Ngokukodwa kwixesha lokuzala, umoya ongenaloyiko kwaye ongenaxinzelelo kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Kungenjalo, inokuchaphazela amantshontsho. Bahlala befumana ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo. Ngenxa yokuba umzimba wenkukhu usabela kuxinzelelo ngokunyuka kwemveliso yehomoni yoxinzelelo, ebizwa ngokuba yi-corticosterones. Ezi hormone zikhokela umzimba kwiimpendulo ezifanelekileyo ekuphenduleni i-stimuli yoxinzelelo. Ngoko yilwa okanye ubaleke.
Ukuba kukho uxinezeleko oluninzi ngaphambi nje kokuba iqanda libekwe, izixa ezikhulu zeencindi zamadlala zikhutshwa kwiqanda. Kwidosi ephezulu, oku kunokuchaphazela ukukhula kwengqondo kwamantshontsho. Oku kufane kubizwe ngokuba luxinzelelo lwaphambi kokubeleka kunokunciphisa ukwamkeleka kwamantshontsho ekugxininiseni umdla. Uphando luye lwabonisa ukuba amantshontsho anjalo ahlala esoyika kwaye enomdla wokutshintsha ubomi bawo bonke.
Nangona kunjalo, uxinezeleko alunyanzelekanga ukuba luqalwe lutshaba, lukwavela nokuba inkukhu ayifumani manzi aneleyo ehlotyeni okanye idibane nobushushu obugqithisileyo. Kuba iinkukhu ziwanyamezela kakuhle amaqondo obushushu aphantsi kakhulu kunalawo aphantsi, kwaye azikwazi ukubila kuba azinawo amadlala okubila.
AbaKhuselekileyo, Abanoxinzelelo oluNgaphantsi
Iinkukhu zithanda ukuhlamba uthuli, ukukrwela engceni, okanye ukuchola iinkozo emhlabeni. Ukuba bayathintelwa ekwenzeni oko, babonisa ukuphoxeka. Ngokutsho kukaJoseph Barber, unjingalwazi kwiYunivesithi yasePennsylvania, oku kunokuqatshelwa yimeko yabo enobudlova kunye nento ebizwa ngokuba "yi-gagging". Esi sisandi sokuqala esikhalayo eside, esithatyathelw’ indawo luthotho lwezandi ezimfutshane ezine-accented. Ukuba uva isandi rhoqo, olu luphawu olucacileyo lokuba izilwanyana zinokunqongophala kokuziphatha okuqhelekileyo.
Kodwa ngoku sibuyele kumbuzo oneenkcukacha. Ndingenza ntoni ukuze ndonwabele iinkukhu zam? Okokuqala kwaye okuphambili, indawo ezolileyo kunye nengenaxinzelelo kufuneka idalwe. Kuninzi esele kuphunyeziwe ukuze ube sempilweni. Oku kubandakanya ukuqinisekisa ukuba izilwanyana zinendawo yokulala eyaneleyo kwaye akufuneki zilwele indawo. Iindlwane ezaneleyo zokubeka ezikhuselweyo kwaye zibe mnyama kancinci. Iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zokugijima kunye nemithi, amatyholo, okanye amatyholo. Kwelinye icala, ezi zinika ukhuseleko kwiintaka ezidla inyama, nto leyo eyenza izilwanyana zikhuseleke ngakumbi yaye ngaloo ndlela zikhokelela kuxinezeleko oluncinane; ngakolunye uhlangothi, banethuba lokuhlehla - umzekelo, ukufumana ukuphumla emva kokulwa kwinqanaba okanye ukupholisa emthunzini. Ikwafuna indawo engaphazanyiswayo, egqunyiweyo apho iinkukhu zinokuhlamba khona imihla ngemihla ngesanti.