UMary Allen
Ukuzalwa kwenja yinto ekhethekileyo kakhulu. Uninzi lwabantwana abazalwa bodwa kodwa abazalwa kunye.
Zingaphi iinjana ezizalwa yimazi zixhomekeke ngokupheleleyo kwinzala. Kulapho kuphakama umbuzo okhethekileyo kubanini bezinja abaninzi:
Ngaba i-littermates iyazana
xa bedibana kwakhona emva kwexesha elide?
Ngokomgaqo, i-littermates inokubonana ngokuvumba nangemva kwexesha elide lokuhlukana. Izinja zinenkumbulo enuka kamnandi.
Okukhona iinjana kunye nomama zihlala kunye, kokukhona ivumba limilisela ezingqondweni zabo.
Ukuba izilwanyana zichithe malunga neeveki ezintlanu kunye, kukho ithuba elihle kakhulu lokuba ziya kuqondana nakwiminyaka kamva.
Ngaba izinja ziyakwazi ukuzazi ngevumba iintaka ezihlala kuzo?
Ngoko ke uninzi lwabantwana lukhula kunye phakathi kwabantwana bakowenu. Kwiintsuku zokuqala zobomi, umama kunye ne-littermates ngamaziko ehlabathi.
Izinjana ziyagoqana zisondelane. Ukusondela kumalungu entsapho kubaluleke ngakumbi. Ngenxa yokuba intsapho yezinja ikugcina ushushu kwaye ikuthobile. Emva kwexesha siyadlala kwaye sonwabe.
Ngaxa lithile, kuya kufika imini apho abantwana bakowenu baya kwahlukana. Emva koko isilwanyana ngasinye siya kusapho lwaso olutsha.
Iiveki zokuqala zobomi phakathi kwabazalwana
Ngokubanzi, iinjana kufuneka zihlale nonina kunye nabantakwazo kangangeeveki ezisibhozo emva kokuzalwa.
Izinja zidlula kwizigaba ezahlukeneyo zophuhliso emva kokuzalwa:
- Isigaba seVegetative okanye isigaba sokuzala
- isigaba sotshintsho
- isigaba sokufaka i-embossing
Isigaba ngasinye sibalulekile kubomi babo bamva kuba bafunda kumama wabo nakubantakwabo.
Ngelishwa, oku akusoloko kusenzeka. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba intsapho yahlukane kwangethuba okanye injakazi igula kakhulu. Kule meko, kuxhomekeke kumntu wakhe ukuba asebenzise inja ebomini bakhe kamva.
Amanqanaba okukhula kwamantshontsho
Iiveki ezimbini zokuqala zobomi zibizwa ngokuba yi-vegetative okanye i-neonatal phase. Iindlebe namehlo zivalekile. Inja ilala kakhulu, incanca nonina nabantakwayo, yaye iyancanciswa.
Emva koko kuza isigaba sotshintsho. Umntwana usalala kakhulu kodwa ngokucothayo uyaqalisa ukuqonda indawo akuyo.
Isigaba esilandelayo, isigaba sokufaka i-embossing, sibaluleke kakhulu. Injana ngoku iqala ukwenza unxibelelwano lwayo lokuqala kunye nokunxibelelana nabantu.
Injana ilahla umama nabantwana bakowenu
Ngoko unokucinga ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani i-littermates kunye nezinja ezingumama kwinjana.
Abazali nabantwana bakowabo zizinto azibonayo, azivayo, kwaye azijoja kuqala ebomini bakhe. Intsapho yezinja inika ukufudumala kwaye idlulisela ukhuseleko. Amantshontsho afunda omnye komnye kwaye abalinganiswa bamva bezilwanyana bayakhula.
Emva kweveki yesibhozo, idla ngokuba lixesha lokuvalelisa. Iinjana zizakukhutshelwa kwiintsapho zazo zexesha elizayo kwaye zisenokungaphindi zibabone abantakwazo kwakhona.
Into eseleyo, nangona kunjalo, yinkumbulo yenja yokuvumba. Yaye oko kunokuhlala ubomi bonke.
Inja imazi ixesha elingakanani unina nabantakwayo?
Oku kuthetha ukuba inja inokukhumbula ivumba losapho, oko kukuthi unina kunye nezilwanyana ezihlala kulo, ubomi bonke.
Ngokutsho kophando, inkumbulo yephunga kuthiwa izibonakalisa xa inja ibe nonina kuphela usuku okanye ezimbini.
Kuthatha ixesha elide kubantwana bakowenu. Ukuba izilwanyana zichithe malunga neeveki ezintlanu kunye, kukho ithuba elihle kakhulu lokuba ziya kuqondana nakwiminyaka kamva.
Inokuba yingxaki ukuba ugcina i-littermates. Oku kwaziwa ngokuba yi-littermate syndrome.
I-littermate syndrome
Ngokuchanekileyo le nyaniso inokwenza kube nzima ukukhulisa i-littermates kunye.
Ukugcina izinja ezininzi kwi-litter enye ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba yingxaki.
Kufuneka ucinge ukuba ezi zilwanyana zifunda omnye komnye kwaye zinezinto zonke ezifanayo. Zihambelana ngokugqibeleleyo enye kwenye kwaye umntu ngumntu nje into encinci.
Ukuba izinja zihlulwe kuphela omnye komnye emva kwexesha elide, zibonisa uloyiko oluqinileyo lokuhlukana.
Ngaba i-littermates bayavana?
Ukukhulisa i-littermates ezininzi kufuna ixesha elininzi kunye nokunyamezela kunokukhulisa injana kuba iqhina phakathi kwezilwanyana linamandla kunolo lwabantu.
Abantakwenu banokubandakanyeka kumzabalazo oqatha wokuphatha.
Inokuba nzima ngakumbi phakathi kwe-littermates ngexesha lesigaba somgangatho. Izinja ke zizama ukulungisa indawo yazo entsatsheni. Oku kunokukhokelela kukhuphiswano oluqatha phakathi kwabantakwenu.
Umbuzo obuzwa rhoqo
Ngaba inja ingabakhumbula abantakwayo?
Emva kweminyaka yokwahlukana: Ngaba izinja zikhumbula abantakwabo? Indlela yazo yokujoja inceda izinja zibone abantakwazo. Kuthi, akunakwenzeka ukuba sidibane nomntakwethu owalahleka kudala esitratweni.
Koda kube nini abantwana bakowenu bazana?
Kuthatha ixesha elide kubantwana bakowenu. Ukuba izilwanyana zichithe malunga neeveki ezintlanu kunye, kukho ithuba elihle kakhulu lokuba ziya kuqondana nakwiminyaka kamva.
Injana ikhumbula ixesha elingakanani abantwana bako?
Kuthiwa injana kufuneka ijikeleze unina kunye nabantakwayo ubuncinane kwiiveki ezi-7-9.
Ngaba izinja ziyakhumbulana?
Ukuba izilwanyana ezincinci zihlulwe kuphela emva kweeveki ezili-16, zinethuba elihle lokukhumbulana kwiminyaka kamva. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba badibana kuphela emva kweminyaka emithandathu ukuya kwesixhenxe, kunokuba semva kwexesha.
Inja ikhumbula ixesha elingakanani unina?
Ukuba wahlula umama nabantwana abaneminyaka emithandathu ukuya kwelishumi ubudala, basazana ngevumba labo. Olu phando lubonisa ukuba inkumbulo enuka kamnandi kunye nokuqatshelwa kwamalungu osapho kuhlala kubomi benja.
Zimlibala nini izinja umninizo?
Hayi, izinja azibalibali abantu bazo. Kwaye kananjalo hayi amava ababenawo nabantu babo. Oku kuchaza ukuba kutheni inja eyayibuhlungu kunye nomniniyo wokuqala iya kumhoya xa inomnye umnini kwaye ibone owokuqala kwakhona.
Ngaba inja iyandikhumbula?
Nangona kunjalo, oko akuthethi ukuba izinja aziphuthelwa ukuba yedwa ekhaya. Basenokukhumbula inkampani yabo, kodwa oko kulangazelela kwizinja ezilungiswe kakuhle kukulindeleke ngakumbi kunolangazelelo, kuthelekiseka nemvakalelo yomntu xa othandekayo ehamba uhambo olude.
Ngaba inja ingaba nenzondo?
Hayi, izinja azinanzondo. Abanakho ukubona kwangaphambili okanye ubukrelekrele beemvakalelo ukuba nenzondo okanye ukuziphindezela. Uninzi lweendlela zokuziphatha ezibonakala ngathi azixoleli zibangelwa zezinye izinto ezifana nethuku, ukulungelelanisa, kunye nokukhulisa.