UMary Allen
Siphila kwixesha apho ubunini bezinja ezininzi bukhula. Yonke into ihamba kakuhle kunye nenja yokuqala kunye nengcamango yokunika umhlobo othandekayo onemilenze emine i-conspecific ikhula. Ukuba ufuna ukuzama uvavanyo lwenja yesibini, kufuneka uzibuze imibuzo embalwa kwangaphambili, ukwenzela ukuba "entsha" isebenze kakuhle. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, inja yesibini kufuneka ibe sisityebi sendlu yonke.
Iimfuno zeNja yesiBini
Inja yakho yokuqala kufuneka ihambelane noluntu. Kodwa kuthetha ukuthini oko ngoku? Ukuba inja yakho ihamba kakuhle noontanga bayo kwipaki yenja, kwisikolo sezinja, okanye kubomi bemihla ngemihla, oko akuthethi ukuba uya kunyamezela i-conspecific kwikhaya lakhe kwixesha elide. Apha kufuneka uqwalasele ubudlelwane bentlalo phakathi kwakho nenja yakho. Yiyiphi indima edlalwa yinja ebomini bakho? Ngaba uliqabane, indawo yomntwana, okanye umhlobo wakho? Mhlawumbi ucinga ngoku, yintoni enento yokwenza nenja yesibini? Kakhulu, kuba okukhona ubudlelwane busondele ngakumbi, kokukhona kunokuba nzima ukuba umntu “omtsha” amkelwe. Abathathu ke banokuba baninzi kakhulu.
Lo mbandela womona nobutyebi usenokungena ngaphakathi yaye oko kunokuphelisa ngeengxabano ezimbi. Inja yakho yangoku ijongana njani nezinto ezisisiseko ezifana nokutya, amanzi, iindawo zokuphumla, igadi, okanye izinto zokudlala? Ngaba uyazikhusela ebantwini okanye kwizinto ezithile? Kunokwenzeka ukuba kubekho iingxabano. Oku akuthethi ukuba inja yesibini ayinakwenzeka, kodwa ikubonisa ukuba kufuneka wenze ulawulo oluninzi apha. Kuya kufuneka uqinisekise ukuba zombini inja yakho yokuqala inokusebenzisa izixhobo zayo ngaphandle koxinzelelo kwaye umhlobo omtsha wenja angasebenzisa amalungelo ayo, njengokutya, ngaphandle kokukhathazeka ngenja yakho yokuqala.
Ilungu elitsha kwiqela lentlalontle elikhoyo lifuna ukuhlengahlengiswa kobomi bemihla ngemihla kunye nesikhundla phakathi kwentsapho. Nangona kunjalo, ekubeni "ingcamango yobulungisa" yomntu ingaqhelekanga kwinja, njengokuthi: "Omnye weza kuqala, ngoko unamalungelo ahlukeneyo kunomtsha", oku kuthetha ukuba "entsha" ayibeki ngokuzenzekelayo. iimfuno zakhe ecaleni. Xa umntu ethetha ngokulungelelanisa, kuthetha ukuba iimfuno zenja kunye ne-stimuli yangaphandle zijoliswe kwaye zakhiwe imihla ngemihla, okubangelwa ukubonakaliswa kokuziphatha. Ukuyibeka ngokulula: Ukuba inja A ifunda ukuba ithambo lenja B libalulekile kwaye liyalifuna, kodwa ithambo lenja A alibalulekanga kangako, mhlawumbi liya kulishiya kwinja B ngendlela ekhululekile. Izinja zifunda ngokukhawuleza oko. Nangona kunjalo, oku kuya kuba neziphumo ezahlukeneyo kuyo yonke imeko kunye nesixhobo ngasinye esitsha.
Ingaba uMhlobo Omtsha Onemilenze Emine kufuneka Abe ngakanani ubudala?
Ukuba ufuna ukufumana inja endala njengenja yesibini, kuyinzuzo ukuba kukho ulwazi malunga ne-biography yangaphambili. Oku kuya kukuvumela ukuba uvavanye ukuba indlela yakho yokuphila iya kuyifanela na inja oyicingayo.
Unokwenza inja ihamba kunye ukuze ubone ukuba i-chemistry ilungile. Ukuba kunokwenzeka, ngamaxesha amaninzi. Yonke inja (kunye nomntu) ineendlela ezahlukeneyo zemihla ngemihla ezixhomekeke kwimeko, amanqanaba oxinzelelo, kunye neemeko zemozulu.
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Mhlawumbi ukhe wacinga ukuba kufanele ukuba yinjana?
Iinjana zichitha ubomi bemihla ngemihla - nto leyo eyonwabisayo, kodwa ibandakanya umsebenzi omninzi, njengoko zinezimvo ezingaphezulu kunenja endala. Iinkqubo zemihla ngemihla ezenziwe ngokwesiko zihlala zitshintsha ngesiquphe kwaye nexesha eliqhelekileyo lokuphumla kunye namaxesha okulala nawo anokuphela. Injana ifuna ukuhoywa kakhulu kunye noqeqesho. Isenzo sokulungelelanisa sinokuvela, kuba esokuqala sakho sinokuphakamisa ibango langaphambili kwindibano eqhelekileyo. Umbutho uyafuneka apha.
Ithini imeko yemfundo yenja yakho yokuqala? Ngaba injana ikopi iipateni zokuziphatha obufuna ukwaphula inja yakho ixesha elide? Izinja nazo zifunda ngokuxelisa. Kwenza umahluko ukuba inja enye ikutsibela ikubulisa okanye ezimbini.
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Ukuba ukhethe umviwa kwaye uchazwa njengobungane kunye nobudlelwane nabantu kunye nezinja, oku akuthethi ngokuzenzekelayo ukuba uya kubonisa indlela yokuziphatha efanayo njengawe kwixesha elide. Ukuziphatha kulungelelaniswa kwindawo efanelekileyo. Inja itshintsha ngokusisiseko xa ishiya indawo yayo eqhelekileyo kwixesha elide kwaye ifunde into entsha. Ewe kunjalo, iyimfuneko elungileyo ukuba ukhe waba namava amnandi namnandi ngaphambili kwaye oku kubonakaliswa kwindlela yakhe yokuziphatha. Ngeqela elitsha leenkwenkwezi, kuya kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba lihlala linjalo. Ukwazisa imithetho emitsha ngokukhawuleza kunengqiqo, njengoko ukuphunyezwa okungaguqukiyo kuya kuphumla kwaye kukuxhase ekujonganeni nenja yakho.
Inokuba yinto entle ukuba ikhaya elitsha libonelela ngexabiso lokuqaphela inja: Umzekelo, ukuba abanini bangaphambili bebethanda ukwenza imidlalo nezinja zabo kwaye unokuba nomdla ofanayo. Okanye inja sele ifunde ukuhlala yodwa kuba iyimfuneko kuwe, umzekelo, kuba awukwazi ukuyithatha emsebenzini.
Kwakhona, nceda ungenzi isigqibo sokufumana inja yesibini kuba inja yakho yokuqala ayikwazi ukushiywa yodwa. Apha kufuneka uqale ufumane imvakalelo yenja kunye nesizathu sokungahlali wedwa. Kwezinye iimeko, kunokwenzeka ukuba isicwangciso sibuyela emva kwaye zombini izinja azishiywanga zodwa. Umcebisi wokuziphatha ngokuqinisekileyo kufuneka adibane naye apha kwaye ahlale yedwa kufuneka aqeqeshwe ngaphambi kokuba inja entsha ihambe.