UMary Allen
Inja yakho ikujongile awuyazi ifuna ntoni kuwe?
Ingakumbi xa umhlobo onemilenze emine esandul’ ukungena yaye aniqhelananga kangako, ukubukela okunjalo kunokuba yingozi.
Kodwa inja yakho ifuna ukukuxelela ntoni? Kutheni inja yakho ijonge kuwe ngenyameko?
Sizisola ngokufuthi kuba bengenakusuka nje basixelele into esinokubenzela yona. Ngoko ke kuthi ukuba sichithe iiyure sifunda, sifunda izinja zethu (silinde, mhlawumbi wenza into efanayo?)
Ukuba inja yakho ijonge kuwe, inokuba ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukeneyo.
Kweli nqaku, sifuna ukufikelela ezantsi kwayo!
Enkosi ngokuthatha inxaxheba!
Ngamafutshane: Kutheni inja yam indijongile?
Akukho gqabi phakathi kwenja nomntu! Ngexesha lokufuywa kwingcuka ukuya kwinja yasekhaya, siye sagcina inja kufutshane nathi. Thina bantu besifuna ukwenza iqabane elithembekileyo et voilà: apho uhleli kwaye akujonge.
Ngokwenene kunokubakho izizathu ezininzi zokuba kutheni inja yakho ikujongile. Uninzi lwezi zisusela kokungeyongozi ukuya kubuhle, ngelixa ezinye zibonisa ukuziphatha okundlongondlongo. Inja yakho inokuzama ukukuxelela ukuba kufuneka iphume ngaphandle okanye isitya sayo samanzi singenanto.
Jonga ngakumbi inja yakho. Zeziphi iimeko athi akujonge rhoqo kuzo? Sinjani ukuma kwakhe? Ngaba ubonakala ekhululekile kwaye elindele, egxininisekile okanye engakhuselekanga?
Kutheni inja yam indijongile nje?
Kukho izizathu ezininzi zokuba kutheni inja yakho ijonge kuwe. Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka uhlale ukhumbula into enye: izinja zethu azinanto ingako ebomini ngaphandle kwethu. Yileyo ndlela abantu abakhulisa ngayo: baxhomekeke ngokupheleleyo kwaye benyanisekile ngaphandle kwemiqathango.
Yintoni eyenziwa yiloo woof ethembekileyo imini yonke xa kungekho nto yakwenza kwakhona? Ikakhulu elele kodwa xa evukile ufuna ukwazi ukuba wenzani. Ngoko ujonge kuwe. Ujonga kwaye ujonge kwaye afunde kwaye afunde kwaye ekugqibeleni ubonakalisa ukuziphatha kwethu ngendlela yakhe.
Ukujonga kudla ngokujongwa ukuba kube nenjongo, kwaye kwiimeko ezininzi oko kuthetha UKUTHWELEKILEYOEEEEEEEE! Nokuba ifika ngohlobo lwe-snuggles, ukuphatha, ukudlala, okanye ukuhamba, inja yakho iyayifuna, kwaye ifuna rhoqo kangangoko kunokwenzeka!
Kodwa isimilo esindlongo-ndlongo okanye iintlungu nazo zisenokuba ngunobangela wokujongwa rhoqo. Ukuze ufumanise, kubalulekile ukuba ukwazi ukufunda ulwimi lwenja yakho kakuhle.
Ukutyelela ugqirha wezilwanyana kukwahlala kuyingcamango elungileyo ukuba ufumana into engaqhelekanga malunga nokuziphatha kwenja yakho.
Uthini umahluko phakathi kokujonga nokulungisa?
Ukujonga akuthethi ukuba ndlongondlongo. Njengoko sele usazi, kunokubakho izizathu ezininzi ezintle zokuba kutheni inja yakho ihlala ikujongile. Kodwa wazi njani ukuba ukujongile?
| yokumisa | sizathu | |
| Jonga | Ukukhululeka, ukuphumla, ukugungqa okanye umsila okhululekile, ukujonga okuvuyayo, mhlawumbi ukuphefumla okuncinci | Ukufuna ingqalelo, ukwenza ishishini, isithukuthezi, umyalezo wothando |
| Hlela | Ukuqina, umsila oqinileyo, ukukhonkotha, kunye/okanye ukugquma | Usoyikiso kunye/okanye isibhengezo sohlaselo |
Umahluko phakathi kokujonga kunye nokulungisa ngokukhawuleza ubonakala. Ngaba uziva ukhathazekile xa inja yakho ikujonga? Ngaba ubonakala exinezelekile okanye ekhululekile?
Icebiso:
Ukuba awuqinisekanga kwaye unenkxalabo malunga nokuziphatha kwenja yakho, qiniseka ukuba udibana nomqeqeshi wendawo! Kubalulekile ukufumanisa ukuba kutheni inja yakho ikhangele kuwe kwaye yintoni engayithandiyo ukuze uvale isizathu.
Kutheni le nto inja yam ijonge kum xa ihamba?
Abanye abanini bezinja ngokuqinisekileyo bazibuze lo mbuzo! Sithanda ukwenza izinja zethu zibe ngabantu, ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kuba nzima kwaye kunqabile ukuba kubekho umntu ozibukeleyo?
Kodwa kutheni ngamanye amaxesha besijongile?
Kulula: kule pose, basengozini ngokulula kwiintshaba. Ezinye izinja ziqinisekisa ngokujonga inkosi okanye inkosikazi yazo ukuba ziyakwazi ukwenza ishishini labo ngoxolo.
Ivakala ingaqhelekanga, kodwa eneneni intle kakhulu, akunjalo?
isiphelo
Zininzi izizathu zokuba kutheni umhlobo wakho onemilenze emine engakwazi ukususa amehlo akhe kuwe. Mhlawumbi uphambene ngothando nawe kwaye ngoko ufuna ukukujonga ngalo lonke ixesha, okanye ufuna into evela kuwe.
Yintoni ebenokuyifuna? Fressi, dlala, hamba, khawula? Zama ukufumanisa kwaye uqaphele ukuba zeziphi iimeko inja yakho ikujonga rhoqo.
Logama nje kungenabungozi, ukujonga okuphuphayo, akufuneki ube nexhala. Myeke ajonge – ukuba awukhathali!
Nangona kunjalo, kuba nzima xa wena okanye abanye abantu beziva (ngokufanelekileyo) besongelwa yinja yakho. Ngaba inja yakho ixinene, mhlawumbi nokubonisa amazinyo akhe? Emva koko ukulungiswa kunokujika ngokukhawuleza kuhlaselo lokwenyani!
Ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba kutheni inja yakho ijonge kuwe, ukubheja kwakho kukunxibelelana nomqeqeshi wezinja wendawo. Indlela izinja zethu aziphethe ngayo ayinakugwetyelwa kakuhle xa ukude.
Ngaba ungathanda ukufunda ngakumbi malunga nokuziphatha kwezinja zethu? Emva koko jonga ibhayibhile yethu yoqeqesho lwezinja. Apha uya kufumana iingcebiso ezixabisekileyo kunye namaqhinga okujongana nenja yakho ngokufanelekileyo.