UMary Allen
Izinja ngokubanzi ziyakuthanda ukuqatshelwa kwaye zifunde ngokukhawuleza indlela yokufumana ingqalelo yomntu ezithandayo. Logama nje inja yakho ingagqithisi ukutsala ingqalelo, kulungile. Ngamanye amaxesha umhlobo onemilenze emine ufuna ukunxibelelana nayo into ebalulekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ukuziphatha kuphuma esandleni, iingxaki zinokuvela ngenxa yokuba isilwanyana sibonwa njengenkathazo.
Musa ukuyijongela phantsi ingqiqo yezinja. Ukuba inja yokubamba ayinamcelimngeni ngokwaneleyo, ukunyamezela kuvela - kwaye umhlobo onemilenze emine ufuna ukuhoywa kakhulu ukuba akuxelele loo nto. Iimpazamo kuqeqesho zisenokubangela ukuba inja yakho isoloko ikhonkotha ifuna ingqalelo. Imithetho ecacileyo kuphela inceda apha - nangona kunjalo, inja yakho inokuyiqonda kuphela ukuba iyimithetho "yenyani" ngokwenene. Oko kuthetha ukuba akufuneki ukuba baxutywe ngokungaqhelekanga kunye nokungahambelani.
Ukuba inja ayinamceli-mngeni okanye ayiqeqeshekanga kakuhle, oko kunokukhokelela kwiimfuno ezibaxiweyo zokuqwalaselwa kwesilwanyana. Nantsi into onokuyenza ngayo:
Chasa iziQalo ngeMfundo engaguqukiyo
Izinja zineendlela ezahlukeneyo zokufumana ingqalelo yakho. Isiseko sokuziphatha okungafunekiyo, ukujonga ingqalelo sele sibekwe kwi-puppyhood. Emva koko embi imilinganiselo yomhlobo onemilenze emine ayicaphukisi kangako kwaye intle ngokwenene. Uphulula inyanda yakho yoboya ngovuyo xa itsibela kuwe? Emva koko iya kuthi ixhumele phezulu kuzo zonke iintlobo zabantu abaza kuphululwa.
Injana ndiyabuza kwaye uyazingisa etafileni yokutya ngentliziyo yakhe ebuhlungu jonga inja? Ukuba ngokwenene ufumana ukuluma ngenxa yoko, uya kuqhubeka ezama. Ukuba inja yakho ivunyelwe ukukrazula iphephandaba ukususela kusuku olungaphambi kokuzonwabisa kwaye ivuzwe ngayo ingqalelo, ayinakuyeka kwiifayile ezibalulekileyo okanye iincwadi zesikolo.
Le yimizekelo yokungahambelani koqeqesho lwenja ukuba kubangela ukuba inja yakho ingazi ukuba yenze ntoni kwaye ingayenzi. Kwaye ekugqibeleni, wenza eyona nto ifumana ingqalelo kuye, oko kukuthi, eyona nto ibalulekileyo kuye. Akukhathaliseki nokuba usabela ngobubele okanye unomsindo. Eyona nto iphambili kwizilwanyana kukuba zikhathalelwe.
Ukuze ingabi kude kangako kwindawo yokuqala, kuya kufuneka rhoqo ukunyanzelisa imithetho nkqu neenjana ezintle kwaye ungavumeli nayiphi na imiba.
Fumana oonobangela: Kutheni inja ifuna ukuhoywa imini yonke?
Ngamanye amaxesha izinja zifuna nje ukufumana ingqalelo kwaye ingqalelo yomntu oyithandayo ngumvuzo owaneleyo kubo. Oku kudla ngokubangelwa zezi mpazamo zemfundo zikhankanywe ngasentla. Indlela yokuziphatha ithathe ubomi bayo. Nangona kunjalo, kuyacetyiswa ukuba unqumame umzuzwana kwaye ucinge ukuba inja ayinaso esinye isizathu sokutsalela ingqalelo kuyo.
Umzekelo, abahlobo abanemilenze emine abaziva bephantsi komngeni, bekruqukile, kwaye bengasebenzi ngokwaneleyo badla ngokubonisa ukuziphatha okutshabalalisayo, okungafunekiyo. Oku kwenzeka ngenxa yokuba bengenayo enye into engcono abanokuyenza kwaye bayaqonda ukuba babangela ukusabela kwicala lakho - nto leyo yokuphelisa ukukruquka okwelo xesha.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba inja yakho ibonakala igxininisekile kwaye iyoyika, ngakumbi ukuba uyishiya yedwa, kunokubakho uxinzelelo lokwahlukana emva kwayo, afuna ukutsalela ingqalelo kuyo. Ukongezelela, izilwanyana ezigulayo okanye ezilimeleyo zizama ukufihla intlungu yazo, ukwenzela ukuba ngamanye amaxesha ukubandezeleka kwabo kubonakaliswe kuphela njengenguqu yokuziphatha okanye umlingiswa. Ukuba unawo nawaphi na amathandabuzo malunga nokuba umhlobo wakho onemilenze emine ucela nje ukuhoywa okanye ufuna ukuthetha okuthile, yiya kugqirha wezilwanyana ukuba ube kwicala elikhuselekileyo kwaye ujonge kuye.
Inja isoloko ifuna ukuhoywa: Nikela ngeendlela ezizezinye zokuziphatha okungafunwayo
Xa ufundisa inja yakho ukuba ungayenzi, kufuneka uhlale unika enye indlela yokuziphatha oyifunayo. Ngaphandle koko, umhlobo wakho onemilenze emine akayi kukwazi ukuziphatha kwaye akayi kuzinza. Ngokomzekelo, mfundise ukuba uyakwazi ukuhlafuna ithambo lakhe lokuhlafuna aze adlale ngalo Amathoyizi , kodwa ushiye iphepha, izihlangu nefanitshala zodwa. Mvuze xa elele engobozini yakhe ukuze aphumle endaweni yokutsiba esofeni.
Ungazihoyi Isimilo esingafunwayo, Mvuze ngokuziphatha okuhle
Ungayifundisa inja yakho indlela yokuziphatha ngokuhlala ungahoyi nayiphi na indlela yokuziphatha embi kwaye uvuze nayiphi na indlela yokuziphatha elungileyo. Ukuba umhlobo wakho onemilenze emine utsibela kuwe, jika ungamhoyi, nokuba ujonge kancinci ecaleni. Ngokukhawuleza ukuba umhlobo wakho onemilenze emine eme ngxi kunye namathupha omane emhlabeni okanye ahlale phantsi, umphulule kwaye umdumise. Mhlawumbi umphathe kakuhle. Emva koko ufumana ukuhoywa ngokuziphatha okunqwenelekayo kwaye ohlwaywe - ngokudlula ukuqiniswa okungalunganga - kunye nokurhoxiswa kwengqwalasela ukuba akayilandeli imigaqo.
Apha kubalulekile ukuba uhlale ungaguquguquki kwaye uhlala uhleli. Ukuba unikezela nokuba kanye, inja yakho iya kufunda ukuba ifuna kuphela ukubetha ixesha elide ukuze ifumane oko ikufunayo. Ukuziphatha kwakhe kusenokuba mbi ngakumbi ngenxa yoko. Ukuba awuziva ufuna ukunyanzelisa imithetho ngokungqongqo ngokwakho, fumana uncedo kumntu onamava dog umqeqeshi or isazi ngengqondo yezilwanyana.
Gcina Inja Ixakekile kwaye Uphephe Ukukruquka
Ukuba uqeqeshe inja yakho rhoqo kwaye isempilweni entle, ukukruquka kusenokuba netyala ngenxa yokuba ifuna ukuhoywa. Ekuphela kwento encedayo kukumgcina exakekile ukuze angafumani naziphi na iimbono zobudenge.
Umzekelo, umphathele ukutya okanye umdlalo wobukrelekrele, qala umdlalo wezinja okanye umfundise amaqhinga. Imisebenzi ngokuqinisekileyo kufuneka isoloko ilungelelaniswe nendalo, isimilo, iimpawu zokuzala, kunye nezinto ezikhethwa yinja yakho kwaye ingabi nzima kakhulu kwaye ingabi lula kakhulu.