Uqhawulo-mtshato: Ungayinceda Njani Inja Yakho

Uqhawulo-mtshato lusoloko luyingxaki. Uqhawulo-mtshato lukwayimeko enzima kwinja yosapho. “Izinja zithandana nabanye abantu. Ukuphulukana neqabane lasekuhlaleni kuluxinzelelo – enjeni nasebantwini,” kucacisa oko isazinzulu ngokuziphatha uMary Burch. "Nangona kungekho ndlela igqibeleleyo yokunceda inja yakho ngokwahlukana okanye kuqhawulo-mtshato, kukho amanyathelo anokunceda ukukhulula inguqu."

• Ukuba wabelana ngokugcina inja yakho, kubalulekile ukufumana eyakho inja esetyenziselwa ukwahlula. Hlala uthi ndlela-ntle kwinja yakho ngaphandle komzamo omkhulu nangelizwi elizolileyo. Oku kuya kufundisa inja yakho ukuba umzuzu wokwahlukana awuyiyo into yokoyika.
• Ncamathela ku-a ishedyuli esisigxina. Izinja ziziva zixinezelekile kwaye zifuna inkqubo yesiqhelo yemihla ngemihla. Izakhiwo ezizinzileyo kunye neenkqubo eziqhelekileyo zisisiseko sokusingatha uxanduva lwezinja kunye nokuthintela ukuvela koloyiko okanye ukwesaba.
• Emva kokwahlukana, kukho rhoqo a utshintsho lwemo engqongileyo okanye intshukumo. Xa ukhangela indawo yokuhlala, yithathele ingqalelo into yokuba ikwimeko-bume elungele inja kwaye abo uhlala nabo okanye abanini-mhlaba abanakuchasa izilwanyana zasekhaya.
• Ngaphambi kokuba wazise a umnakekeli omtsha – iqabane elitsha okanye umhlobo – kananjalo qwalasela uvakalelo lwenja yakho. Kungcono ulinde ixeshana. Oku kukunika ixesha lokuchaza imikhwa yenja yakho kwiqabane lakho elitsha. Umzekelo, ukhetha ukulala phantsi kwebhedi yakho okanye indlela akhetha ukubuliswa ngayo.
• Ukubetha uhambo olude olongezelelweyo kunye nemisebenzi emininzi yokudlala yenza kube lula ukuba inja yakho ihlukane kwaye iqale phantsi.