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Bekuya kuba lula ukuba amahashe ethu ebenokuthetha nathi. Ukuba ungasixelela into oyifunayo okanye ukuba wonwabile. Ngelishwa, oku kukunqwenela kuphela, yiyo loo nto ukujonga ngononophelo kunye nokutolikwa kolwimi lomzimba wamahashe kubaluleke kakhulu ekusebenzisaneni ngokuhambelanayo. Kuba ngokusekwe kwindlela yokuziphatha ecacileyo sinokufikelela kwizigqibo malunga nemeko yengqondo yehashe lethu. Singathanda ukukunika iingcebiso ezimbalwa apha malunga nokuba ungajonga ntoni kulwimi lomzimba ukuze ukwazi ukutolika ihashe lakho ngokuchanekileyo.
Anxibelelana Njani Amahashe?
Ukuze sikuqonde oku, kufuneka siqale sijonge ulwimi lomzimba wamahashe. Ulwimi lomzimba luyinxalenye ebalulekileyo yonxibelelwano. Ukongeza kwinkangeleko yobuso, oku kukwaquka izimbo zomzimba, indlela yokuma, nokuxinezeleka komzimba. Izandi nazo zibandakanyiwe, nokuba azenzeki rhoqo. Amahashe akakwazi ukukhala kuphela, kodwa aphinde akhuphe okanye ahlasele, umzekelo. Ukuchukumisa kukwaluhlobo lonxibelelwano. Amahashe abambana okanye aphathana thina bantu kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo. Zikhupha iimpumlo zazo, zinokuluma okanye zincwine nje, ziyakrwempana, zihlalele phezulu, okanye zikhabele ngaphandle. Ukusebenza kwevumba lamahashe akufanele kujongelwe phantsi. Uyakwazi ukunuka ukuba thina bantu siyoyika, umzekelo. Unokubona kwakhona ukuba yeyiphi inqanaba lomjikelo wemazi okanye ukuba umntu ochasene naye uyagula. Ukuba uthe wasolula isandla sakho kwihashe lakho, liya kuqala ukulijoja ukuze lifumane ulwazi oluchanekileyo kuwe.
Oku kukwasebenza kulwimi loMzimba wamaHashe
Ngubani ongayaziyo le ngxelo kaPaul Watzlawick? Kwaye kufuneka sihlale siyikhumbula le nto xa kuthethwa ngamahashe ethu. Kuba nokuba siziphatha ngokuzolileyo kumahashe ethu kwaye siwajonge kuphela, siwanika ulwazi olwaneleyo, ngokulula ngolwimi lwethu lomzimba. Kukwanjalo nakumahashe ethu. Ukwanxibelelana nathi ngokusisigxina. Naxa bephumle ebhokisini, siyakwazi ukubona ngolwimi lwabo lomzimba ukuba bayanqumama. Ngoko ke kufuneka sifunde ukuqaphela kunye nokuhlela iimpawu. Ngelishwa, akusoloko kulula ukutolika ngokuchanekileyo ihashe. Ingakumbi ukuba ihashe elingaqhelekanga. Kungenxa yokuba phezu kwazo nje iimpawu zolwimi eziqhelekileyo, ihashe ngalinye liyakwazi ukuchaza iimvakalelo zalo ngokwalo. Ngehashe lakho, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuqonda ngokukhawuleza kwaye uyazi ukuba lizama ukukuxelela ntoni. Ngapha koko, niliqela eliqhelekileyo.
Ukuba ngoku sijongisisa ulwimi lomzimba, akunyanzelekanga ukuba sijonge imimandla yomzimba ngokwahlukeneyo. Kunoko, umfanekiso ubonisa indlela elivakalelwa ngayo ihashe lethu.
Amehlo – isipili somphefumlo
Ngaba amehlo aqaqambile kwaye ayakhazimla, ihashe lakho lijonge kuwe lidlamkile? Okanye ngaba amehlo abonakala enobuthuntu kwaye engabonakali? Emva koko kufuneka ubuze unobangela. Ngaba ihashe lakho aliziva kakuhle ngoku okanye lisezintlungwini? Ngaba amehlo anokuba namafu okanye intsini? Kulo mongo, zeziphi ezinye iiparameters ezifana nokuma, ukuxinezeleka komzimba, kunye neendlebe? Bukhangeleka njani uboya neempumlo? Amehlo asenokubonisa ukukrokra okanye uloyiko. Ingakumbi xa uloyiko, amehlo avuleke kakhulu, ngamanye amaxesha ajijekile de kubonakale ubumhlophe bamehlo.
Iindlebe - iSibonakaliso sokuqala seSimo seNgqondo
Iindlebe ngokuqhelekileyo zigqalwa njengomqondiso omhle wesimo sengqondo sehashe. Kukho inani elingenasiphelo leendawo ezahlukeneyo zendlebe ezibonisa oku. Nangona kunjalo, kuya kufuneka uqwalasele ukubandakanya wonke umzimba kuhlelo lwakho.
Iindlebe ezinkulu ngumzekelo omhle wokuba kutheni le nto ibaluleke kangaka. Isenokuba luphawu lwesisongelo okanye isimo sengqondo sokuzikhusela, okanye inokuthetha ukungaqiniseki. Kuzo zombini ezi meko, kufuneka siziphathe ngendlela eyahlukileyo kwaye sisoloko sijonga umzimba wehashe lonke. Xa iindlebe zime nkqo yaye zijonge phambili, ihashe libonisa umdla yaye livakalisa ingqalelo.
Umsila – Ngaphezulu nje isixhobo sokuQhuba izinambuzane
Umsila nawo unokubonakalisa okuninzi kwaye utyhila okuninzi malunga nemeko yengqondo. Umsila opinkiweyo ubonisa ngokucacileyo ukuba ihashe lakho liyoyika. Ukuba, kwelinye icala, iphakanyisiwe, ibonisa ukuxinezeleka okanye imincili. Ukuba ihashe lakho libetha ngasemva nangaphambili ngomsila walo, oku kunokubangelwa kukungaqiniseki, ukungazinzi, okanye ukuxinana.
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Ihashe lakho likhululekile kwaye liphumle xa iimpuphu ezintathu zisemhlabeni kwaye umlenze wangemva ukwindawo eneengile. Unokujonga le ndawo yokunceda kwibhokisi, kwi-paddock, okanye ngamanye amaxesha ethafeni. Intloko ithotyiwe kakhulu. Ukuba izihlunu zinzima kwaye ihashe lakho lidansa ngasemva nangaphandle, ligxininisekile okanye loyika.
Ulwimi lomzimba lwamahashe sisihloko esibanzi nesinika umdla kakhulu. Amahashe ethu asixelela okuninzi. Kufuneka nje sifunde ukuqonda ulwimi lwabo ukuze sitolike imiqondiso yabo ngokuchanekileyo kwaye sikwazi ukuyidibanisa yenze umfanekiso opheleleyo. Oku kuya kuthatha ixesha kunye nokuziqhelanisa. Kodwa kufanelekile!