UMary Allen
Iikati zithathwa njengezilwanyana ezizimeleyo kunye neentloko ezenza oko zikufunayo kwaye zibone abantu bazo njengento enye ngaphezu kwayo yonke into: iitoti zokuvula. Kodwa uphononongo lubonise ukuba iikati zinothando ngakumbi kwaye zibophelelana kunokuba kucingwa!
“Izinja zinabanini, iikati zinabasebenzi” – isaci esibonakalisa ucalucalulo olukhulu kwiikati: ngelixa izinja zisakha ubuhlobo obusondeleyo nabantu bazo kwaye zibathanda ngokungaguqukiyo, iikati zikude kwaye zifuna abantu kuphela njengababoneleli bokutya. Noko ke, abaphandi beYunivesithi yaseOregon State baye baluphikisa olu khethe.
Isifundo: Injani iClingy iikati ngokwenene?
Kuphononongo, abaphandi basebenzise into ebizwa ngokuba yiSecure Base Test ukuphonononga uncamathiselo lweekati kubanini bazo. Olu vavanyo luye lwasetyenziselwa ukuphanda ukhuseleko lokuncamathela kwiinkawu ezinkulu okanye izinja.
Ebudeni besifundo, iikati zaqala zachitha imizuzu emibini nabanini bazo kwigumbi elingaqhelekanga. Emva koko umnini-ndlu walishiya elo gumbi kangangemizuzu emibini waza wabuya eminye imizuzu emibini.
Ngokuxhomekeke kwindlela iikati eziziphatha ngayo emva kokuba abanini bazo babuyile, zahlulwa zibe ngamaqela ahlukeneyo:
- Iikati ezineziqhoboshi ezikhuselekileyo ziye zazola, azinastresi kangako (umz. zayeka ukuncokola), zafuna ukudibana nabantu, zaza zaphonononga igumbi ngomdla.
- Iikati ezineziqhotyoshelwano ezingakhuselekanga zahlala zigxininisekile nasemva kokuba umntu ebuyile, kodwa kwangaxeshanye afuna ukunxibelelana nabantu ngokugqithisileyo (i-ambivalent attachment), ayengayithandi ngokupheleleyo imbuyekezo yomnini (attachment attachment), okanye ayekrazukile phakathi kokufuna uqhagamshelwano kunye -Ukunqanda ukuya. abantu (ukuncamathela okungalungelelanisiweyo).
Kwiikati eziselula ezingama-70 phakathi kweenyanga ezintathu nezisibhozo, ezingama-64.3 ekhulwini zachazwa njengezincamathele ngokukhuselekileyo, ezingama-35.7 ekhulwini zincanyathiselwe ngokungakhuselekanga. Kwiikati ezingama-38 ezindala kunonyaka omnye, ezingama-65.8 ekhulwini zazigqalwa zibotshelelwe ngokukhuselekileyo zaza ezingama-34.2 ekhulwini zibotshelelwe ngokungakhuselekanga.
Inika umdla: Ezi xabiso ziyafana nezo zabantwana (i-65% ngokuqinisekileyo, i-35% ayiqinisekanga) kunye nezinja (i-58% ngokuqinisekileyo, i-42% engaqinisekanga). Ngokutsho kwabaphandi, isitayile sokuncamathisela seekati ke ngoko sizinzile. Ngoko umbono wokuba iikati azibopheleli kubanini bazo lucalucalulo.
Yakha iBond kunye nekati
Zingakanani iibhondi zakho zekati kuwe nazo zixhomekeke kuwe. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ikati nganye inomlinganiswa owahlukileyo: Abanye ngokwendalo banothando ngakumbi kunabanye. Kodwa unokuqinisekisa ngononophelo ukuba iqhina kunye nekati yakho liqiniswa. Nazi ezinye iindlela onokukhetha kuzo:
- Nika ikati yakho ixesha elaneleyo yonke imihla lokudlala nokugona.
- Qhubeka uza nemiceli mngeni emitsha yekati, umz. ngemidlalo yokutya okanye uyakhe umngxuma ngeengubo okanye ngekhadibhodi.
- Nika ikati imithetho ecacileyo.
- Sukuyingxolisa ikati yakho konke konke, ewe, ubundlobongela abuyonto ikhethekileyo!
- Hlonipha xa ikati ifuna ukushiywa yodwa kwaye ungayiphazamisi xa ilele.
Thatha inkangeleko yobuso bekati kunye nolwimi lomzimba nzulu.