UMary Allen
Ibali lenja yase-Argentina uBobby, owabaleka ngeekhilomitha ukuya kulala ecaleni kwengcwaba lenkosikazi yakhe engasekhoyo, wahamba kwihlabathi lonke ngo-2017. Kwakubonakala ngathi ngumzekelo obalaseleyo wezinja ezithembekileyo kubantu bazo kwaye zivakalelwa intlungu ngaphaya kokufa. Kodwa ngaba kunjalo? Ngaba Ngokwenene Izilwanyana Zizila? Abaphandi kunye noososayensi bebengavisisani ngale nto kangangamashumi eminyaka.
Izilwanyana azinanceba, Kodwa Usizi lunako
Izazinzulu zaseMerika zithi ziye zabona ukuzila kweendlovu, iinkawu ezinkulu namahlengesi. Iindlovu ezibukela isidumbu seqabane emva kokufa zize zizame ukulivusa ekufeni ngumzekelo nje omnye. Akuqhelekanga ukuba iinkawu kunye namahlengethwa zihlala zithwala umntwana wazo oswelekileyo kunye nazo iintsuku-uhlobo lokuhlangabezana nentlungu kunye nenkolo yabafileyo? Mhlawumbi.
Kwelinye icala, isityholo siphindaphindwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo sokuba abantu badlulisela iimvakalelo zabo kwizilwanyana - abanakuvakalelwa ngaloo ndlela konke konke. Wonke umntu uyavuma ukuba izilwanyana ezininzi azinaso isipho esibalulekileyo: ukuzihlaziya. Ukukwazi ukuvelana nabanye kwaye ngaloo ndlela ube novelwano. Izilwanyana azinasizi. Kwelinye icala, ukuba buhlungu njengokuziva unganqabisekanga.
Le yindlela izilwanyana ezisabela ngayo xa zifumana ilahleko. Inokuthi emva koko ibonakaliswe kwi-biochemically egazini ukuba izinja, iikati, kunye neehagu zeguinea zibonisa utshintsho lwamahomoni - kwiimeko ezixinzelelekileyo. Akumangalisi: ngokufa komnini okanye umntu odlala naye, indawo eqhelekileyo iyatshintsha, ukungaqiniseki, kunye noloyiko lolunye utshintsho olusasazekayo.
Iikati Inkqubo Ilahleko ngokukhawuleza kunezinja
Iikati zenza ilahleko ngokukhawuleza kunezinja: zihlala zivakalisa intlungu yazo ngokungabikho kokutya, azifuni ukuba zichukunyiswe, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ziphendule ngokukrakra. Ilizwe elithe, ngokutsho kwamava abaphandi bokuziphatha, lidla ngokubekwa kwimbono kwiiveki ezintandathu. Kwelinye icala, izinja zithatha ixesha elide ukuhlangabezana nokufa komhlobo okanye umntu. Njengoko ngokweemvakalelo bephila kulonwabo lwabo ngamaxesha amnandi, ilahleko ikwayintlekele kubo. Balahlekelwa uboya, abadli nantoni na, abasavuyi ukudlala, kwaye bahoxise ngokupheleleyo. Le ndlela yokuziphatha inokuqhubeka iminyaka.
Nokuba yintlungu okanye kukusabela nje koxinzelelo – iinkosi kunye neenkosikazi zinokubanceda abahlobo babo abanemilenze emine ngala maxesha anzima. Iingcali zeengqondo zezilwanyana zicebisa ukunika izinja kunye neekati ithuba lokuthetha kakuhle. Ukuba umntu odlala naye uyafa, izilwanyana kufuneka zivunyelwe ukuba zibone isidumbu - oku akutshintshi indawo eqhelekileyo ngokungaqondakaliyo. Izilwanyana ziphawula ukuba lowo zidlala naye ufile. Ngoko ke ayibangeli panic ukuba iyanyamalala. Kuyo nayiphi na imeko, izinja kunye neekati kufuneka zinikwe ixesha lokulila de kungene isilwanyana esitsha endlwini. Akukho sizathu sokubongoza izilwanyana ukuba zitye okanye zidlale. Ukuba inja ilinda iqabane layo yonke imihla emnyango, ifanele ivunyelwe ukuba yenze ezi zithethe.
Ukuba inkosi okanye inkosikazi iyafa kwaye inja okanye ikati kufuneka ihambe, inceda ukuthabatha izinto ezininzi kunye nempahla yomfi ukuya kwindawo entsha yokuhlala kunye nokwenza ukuba izilwanyana zilunyulwe ngobunono.
Ukongeza kwimixube yeentyatyambo zeBach, ezinokukuthomalalisa ngeli xesha, kukho into engaphaya kwayo yonke into engakwazi ukwahlula abantu nezilwanyana omnye komnye: ukunika uthando. Ukushiya ucango lwegumbi lokulala luvulekile, kukumema ukuba ugobe, uphinde uthembele kwaye uthuthuzeleke ngezinto zokudlala kunye nezinto zokudlala - oko kunceda izinja kunye neekati.