Ukuzisa iikati kunye-Abahlobo ubomi bonke? Icandelo lesi-1

Iikati ezimbini zikhothana iintloko zaza zalala ebhedini, ziwolana, emva kokuba zigqogqe epasejini kunye nolonwabo olutswinayo – kuthi banini beekati akukho mbono ungcono. Yiloo nto kanye esiyifunayo kwiikati zethu.

Noko ke, inyaniso idla ngokwahlukileyo. Amaxesha amaninzi kukho iikati ezihlala kwikhaya elinye eziphephanayo kwaye ziyanyamezelana. Ukuba kukho ukunqongophala ngokupheleleyo kovelwano omnye komnye okanye ukuba iikati zinamava amabi omnye komnye, ubudlelwane bekati bukhula obubonakala ngokukhungatheka, umsindo, ukwesaba, okanye ukungaqiniseki. Oku kunokuthetha uxinzelelo oluqhubekayo kwabo bachaphazelekayo, apho impilo yabo kunye nomgangatho wobomi unokubandezeleka. Kwaye kuthi bantu, ukubona iikati zethu akusabonakali kangako. Amaxesha amaninzi, ukudibana kokuqala phakathi kwamaqabane amabini emazi ebomini kubangela uxinzelelo kwaye kuyoyisa. Emva koko ezi kati zimbini ziqala ubomi bazo kunye phantsi kweemeko ezimbi kwaye akufuneki nje ukuba zazane kodwa kufuneka zoyise amava amabi omnye komnye. Loo nto yenza kube nzima ngokungeyomfuneko kubo.

Kweli nqaku linamacandelo amabini, uya kufumanisa ukuba yintoni onokucinga ngayo ngokumisela ikhosi yoxolo kunye nemvisiswano xa unxulumana neekati zakho. Oku kuquka imibuzo:

• Zeziphi iikhrayitheriya omele uzisebenzise xa ukhetha iikati?
• Yeyiphi ikhrayitheriya ekufuneka ihlangatyezwane nekhaya elineekati ezininzi?
• Kwaye-ibaluleke ngakumbi ngokunxulumene nokudityaniswa - nini ingcamango elungileyo ukufumana inkxaso kumcebisi wokuziphatha oqeqeshiweyo?

Ikati yakho izibona njani iikati ezingaqhelekanga?

Masiqale sijonge lo mbuzo ngokwemiqathango ngokubanzi. Ucinga ukuba iva ntoni ikati yangaphandle xa ibona ikati engaqhelekanga ngaphandle?

• Uvuyo?
• Ukufuna ukwazi?
• Ngaba iyagcoba ngaphakathi, ihamba ngokukhululeka ukuya kubulisa owasemzini nomsila wayo uphakamileyo?

Iikati ezinjalo zikho ngokwenene: Uninzi lwazo ziikati ezincinci ezingaphantsi kweminyaka emi-2 ezihlala ngokungaqhelekanga kwaye azikabikho nto imbi. Kodwa ezi zidalwa zichukumisayo zikhethekile, kungekhona umthetho. Iimvakalelo eziqhelekileyo xa ujonga ikati engaqhelekanga ziphilile ekuvakaliseni ukungathembani, umsindo wokuba umntu angene kwindawo yakho, okanye ukwesaba lo mntu ungenayo.

Iikati ezingaqhelekanga zibeka ingozi omnye komnye - isoyikiso kwingqibelelo yazo kunye nezixhobo ezibalulekileyo (ukuzingela amaxhoba, iindawo zokutya, iindawo zokulala, mhlawumbi amaqabane okuzala). Ikati ingenza kakuhle xa ikrokrela ikati engaqhelekanga!

Ukuba ufuna ukuzisa ikati yakho kunye nomnye umntu, kufuneka ucinge ukuba bobabini abayi kubhukuqa ngomdla ekuqaleni.

Yintoni Ekhuthaza Ubuhlobo?

Ukuba iikati ezimbini ezingaqhelekanga zisondelelene kakhulu ngequbuliso, uloyiko luhlala lukhokelela ekuphenduleni okunamandla ngokweemvakalelo: Kukho ukufutha nokugquma - ukuba izinto zihamba kakuhle kwaye iikati ziphantsi kolawulo. Ukuba ukothuka kukhulu kakhulu okanye ukuba enye yezi zibini ayiyonkosi enkulu ekulawuleni umfutho, ukuhlaselwa okanye ukuphaphatheka okufana nokubaleka kwenzeka ngokulula kwimeko enjalo, zombini ezo zinokukhokelela ekusukeleni okusendle kunye nokulwa. Konke oku akuncedi ekwenzeni abahlobo emva koko. Unxibelelwano olunobundlongondlongo kunye nokukhwaza kunye nokugquma, kodwa ngaphezu kwazo zonke iimvakalelo ezinamandla zokoyika kunye nokulwa, zimele amava amabi - ngokuxhomekeke kubukhulu beziganeko kunye nomlingiswa weekati - anokuzitshisa ngokunzulu kwimemori yeemvakalelo. Emva koko bakwindlela enkulu yokusondelana.

Ubuhlobo, ngakolunye uhlangothi, bunokuvela xa ukudibana kokuqala phakathi kweekati ezimbini zilungelelaniswe ngendlela yokuba bobabini banokujongana ngokuzolileyo kwindawo ekhuselekileyo. Indawo ekhuselekileyo ayithethi kuphela, kodwa ngaphezu kwayo yonke into, umgama omkhulu ngokwaneleyo. Okukhona umgama omkhulu phakathi kwezi zimbini, kokukhona iikati ziya kuzibona njengengozi ekhawulezileyo. Ekudibaneni kwakhona, kuya kufuneka ujolise ekuqinisekiseni ukuba iikati zakho zihlala ziphumle kangangoko kunokwenzeka ngexesha lokudibana. Le yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokunciphisa ngokuthe ngcembe ukungathembani okunempilo kunye nokucotha ukuvula. Nangona amava amabi phakathi kweekati kufuneka agwenywe kuzo zonke iindleko, nantoni na enika ukuphumla ngakumbi, isimo sengqondo esihle kunye novuyo ngexesha lokudibana luncedo.

Siza kuza kamva ukuba oko kungathetha ntoni na malunga nokuphunyezwa okubonakalayo. Okokuqala, makhe sijonge amanqaku amabini abalulekileyo anokuba ngundoqo kuphuhliso lobuhlobo phakathi kweekati: uvelwano kunye neemfuno ezifanayo.

Uvelwano kunye neeMfuno Ezifanayo

Iindaba ezimbi kuqala: Ngelishwa, asikwazi ukulawula uvelwano. Ayisebenzi ngokwahlukileyo phakathi kweekati kunathi, abantu. Kukho uvelwano kunye nokuchasana ekuqaleni kokubona. Uvelwano lukhulisa ukukulungela ukuthetha omnye nomnye ngoxolo nangobuhlobo. I-Antipathy inciphisa kakhulu oku kuvuma. Ukuba kukho ukuchasana phakathi kweekati ezimbini kwaye oku akunakunqotshwa, ke ezi kati akufanele zihlale kunye.

Ngamanye amaxesha kukho uhlobo lwendawo engwevu ekuqaleni. Iikati azikayazi into emayicinge enye kwenye. Akunjalo kuphela, kodwa ngakumbi emva koko, ukudibana kunokuba lula ukuba iikati zinandipha izinto ezifanayo.

Ngoko ke, xa ukhetha ikati efanelekileyo yeqabane, qiniseka ukuba iikati zihambelana ngokusemandleni kwiindawo ezininzi zobomi. Iindawo ezisembindini zezi:

• Iimfuno ezifanayo zomsebenzi: umntwana oselula osoloko elungele isenzo unokuba liqabane lolonwabo olukhulu kwi-tomcat ethanda umsebenzi ngokulinganayo, kodwa kwikati ephezulu enengxaki yezintso inokuba yinto yokunyanzeliswa.
• Isini esifanayo okanye uhlobo olufanayo lomdlalo: Ngelixa ii-tomcats zihlala zithanda ukulwa kwimidlalo yentlalo, iikati zikhetha kakhulu imidlalo yomdyarho ngaphandle kokudlala imida yokulwa. Izinto ezingaphandle zingqina umthetho. Ke ngoko, ukuba unayo okanye ubamba iikati ezisebenzayo, nceda uzame ukukhetha ikati yeqabane elinokhetho olufanayo lokudlala. Ngaphandle koko, umxhaphazi uya kukhula ngokukhawuleza ukukhungatheka kwaye umphefumlo othenda ngakumbi uya kuhlakulela lula ukwesaba.
• Iimfuno ezifanayo zokusondelelana kunye nokunxibelelana ngokomzimba: Iikati ziyahluka kakhulu kwindlela ezifuna ukusondela ngayo kwezinye iikati. Ngelixa abanye kufuneka badibane nomzimba kunye nokucocwa, abanye bakuxabisile ukuba kude ngokwaneleyo. Oku kugcina amandla amakhulu okuphoxeka okanye uxinzelelo. Ukuba iikati ezimbini ziyavumelana ngomnqweno wazo wokusondela kunye nomgama, ngoko zinokwenza iqela elihambelanayo.

Ngaba ungahlangabezana nemigaqo yoMzi oneekati ezininzi?

Ukuze iikati ezininzi zonwabe ngokusisigxina kunye nawe, ngokuqhelekileyo kukho iimfuno ezimbalwa. Ezi zahluka kakhulu ngokuxhomekeke kwiqela leenkwenkwezi, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo awuyi kuphambuka ngezi ziseko zilandelayo:

• Yiba neebhokisi zenkunkuma ezaneleyo kumagumbi ahlukeneyo. Umgaqo wegolide linani leekati +1 = ubuncinane benani leebhokisi zenkunkuma
• Unokusebenzisa umgaqo ofanayo ngokuthe ngqo kuzo zonke ezinye izinto ezibalulekileyo zekati: iindawo zokuqhawula, iibhedi zokulala, iindawo zokufudumeza ebusika, iindawo zokufihla, iindawo eziphakanyisiweyo, iindawo zamanzi, njl.
• Ngaba unalo ixesha elaneleyo lokudlala kwaye ubambe kunye nazo zonke iikati ngokulandelelana ukuba iikati zakho azikwazi ukwabelana ngale misebenzi ikhethekileyo kunye? Oko kwenzeka rhoqo.
• Ngaba unamagumbi anefanitshala entle ngokwaneleyo ukuze yonke ikati ihlale izifumanela igumbi ukuba ayifuni nje ukubona abantu okanye iikati?
• Ngaba uyazi ukuba ikati ifuna ixesha elingakumbi?
• Kwaye kunjalo, kukho indleko yokondla, inkunkuma, kunye nokhathalelo lwezilwanyana?
• Ngaba amalungu osapho lwakho onke ayavuma ukuthatha ikati enye okanye ngaphezulu?
• Ngaba iikati zakho zangoku kunye nezo uzikhethayo zonke iikati zentlalo ngokwenene ezixabisa inkampani yezinye iikati? Kungoko kuphela apho banokuthi babe nethuba lokonwaba ngokwenene kwikhaya elineekati ezininzi.

Nceda ungathandabuzi ukuphendula le mibuzo ekunokwenzeka ukuba awukhululekanga ngayo ngokunyaniseka.

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