UMary Allen
Ngexesha elithile, umnqweno uya kuza ngokuqinisekileyo. Emva koko abantwana baya kufuna isilwanyana sabo - ngokupheleleyo kwaye ngokufanelekileyo ngoko nangoko. Abazali bayayazi le nto, kodwa linini ixesha elifanelekileyo loko? Zeziphi izilwanyana ezilungele abantwana? “Izilwanyana aziyonto yokudlala, zizidalwa eziphilayo” lelona binzana libalulekileyo abazali abafanele balikhumbule. Akukho silwanyana sifuna ukuwola nokudlala ngalo lonke ixesha. Abazali banoxanduva lwesilwanyana kunye nabantwana ukusiphatha ngokufanelekileyo.
Ngaba Abantwana Bafuna Izilwanyana Zasekhaya?
Isilwanyana sasekhaya sinokuba nempembelelo entle ekukhuleni komntwana. Ngale ndlela, abantwana bafunda ukuthwala imbopheleleko besebancinane, bomeleze ubuchule babo bokuhlalisana, yaye ngokufuthi badlamke ngakumbi. Ngapha koko, umoya ococekileyo nokuzilolonga zizinto eziyimfuneko kwizilwanyana ezininzi. Izakhono zemoto ezintle kubantwana abancinci zikhula ngcono xa zisebenzisana nezilwanyana. Izifundo ezininzi ziye zabonisa ukuba abantwana abajikeleze izilwanyana banciphisa uxinzelelo kunye nokuphumla-esi sesinye sezizathu zokuba kukho unyango oluninzi olusekwe kubuqabane bezilwanyana.
Leliphi elona xesha lilungileyo lokufumana isilwanyana sasekhaya?
Asingobantwana abagqibayo, kodwa ngabazali. Kuba ngaphambi kokuthenga isilwanyana, intsapho imele ihlolisise ngenyameko ukuba iyawufanela na loo msebenzi. Ngaba iimeko zesakhelo zifanelekile - ngaba kukho indawo eyaneleyo kwaye, ngaphezu kwayo yonke into, ixesha lesilwanyana kwimpilo yentsapho yemihla ngemihla? Ngaba umvuzo wenyanga wanele ukuhlawula iindleko zokundwendwela ugqirha wezilwanyana, i-inshorensi kunye nokutya? Ngaba yonke intsapho ikulungele ukujongana nesilwanyana kwiminyaka ezayo? Kwimeko yenja, le nto inokukhawuleza ibe yiminyaka eyi-15 okanye ngaphezulu - oku kuthetha kwakhona: kuyo nayiphi na imozulu, unokuphuma kusasa ekuseni. Ukujonga phambili, abazali kufuneka bacacise ukuba nini kwaye njani bafuna ukuya ekhefini: Ngaba kuya kubakho iiholide kuphela kunye nesilwanyana kwixesha elizayo? Ngaba kukho naziphi na izalamane okanye abahlobo abanokunyamekela? Ingaba zikhona iindawo ekuchithelwa kuzo izilwanyana ezikufutshane?
Abantwana Banokuzinyamekela Nini Izilwanyana?
Akukho mpendulo enye kulo mbuzo - kuxhomekeke kumntwana kunye nesilwanyana. Ngokubanzi, intsebenziswano phakathi kwabantwana abancinci kunye nezilwanyana akuyona ingxaki. Nangona kunjalo: abazali akufanele bashiye abantwana babo bodwa kunye nesilwanyana de babe neminyaka emithandathu ubudala - izakhono ezilungileyo kunye nezakhono zemoto ezinzulu azikaphuhliswa ngokwaneleyo. Unako, ngokungafuni, ukulimaza isilwanyana xa udlala. Ukongezelela, abantwana abancinci abayivavanyi kakuhle ingozi kwaye abaqapheli xa isilwanyana sifuna ukuphumla. Kodwa kwanabantwana abancinane banokuba nenxaxheba ekunyamekeleni izilwanyana baze benze imisebenzi enjengokugcwalisa iziselo ezinxilisayo, izitya zokutya, okanye ukuziphulula. Ngale ndlela, uxanduva lunokudluliselwa inyathelo ngesinyathelo.
Sesiphi Isilwanyana Esimlungeleyo Umntwana Wam?
Nokuba yinja, ikati, intaka, impuku, okanye intlanzi: Ngaphambi kokuthenga, abazali kufuneka bafumanise ukuba hlobo luni lokhathalelo olufunwa sisilwanyana ngasinye kunye nomsebenzi ekufuneka wenziwe yintsapho. Kukwaluncedo ukujonga kwangethuba ukuba ngaba awudibani nesikhumba sesilwanyana. Kwimeko yeentaka neempuku, khumbula ukuba azihlali zodwa. I-Hamsters ayifanelekanga kubantwana: balala emini kwaye benza ingxolo ebusuku. Ayihambelani nesingqi sabantwana abancinci. Kwelinye icala, iihagu zeguinea kunye nemivundla zilungele abantwana abancinci kakhulu kwaye zifuna ixesha elincinci kunye nendawo kunezinja kunye neekati. Nangona kunjalo, abazali kufuneka baqaphele: izilwanyana zibhabha kwaye zihlala zithambile kakhulu - abantwana abavumelekanga ukuba babonise uthando lwabo ngokugqithiseleyo. Iikati zona ziyakuvuyela ukufunjathiswa, kodwa iintsana kufuneka zivumelane noko. ukuba izilwanyana zineenkani yaye zisoloko zizigqibela ngokwazo ukuba ziyakuvumela nini ukusondelelana. I-aquarium okanye i-terrarium ayibafanelanga abantwana abancinci: kuncinci abanokukwenza ukuyigcina. Izinja, kwelinye icala, azibizwa ngokuba ngabahlobo abakhulu bomntu nantoni na. Umhlobo onemilenze emine unokukhawuleza abe ngumhlobo osondeleyo wabantwana. Kodwa apha, kwakhona, kufuneka uqiniseke kwangaphambili ukuba iimeko zenja kubomi bemihla ngemihla zichanekile.
Ndinokumlungiselela Njani Umntwana Wam?
Ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba umntwana wakho ukulungele na ukuba nesilwanyana sasekhaya, kufuneka ulinde. Kusenokuba kuhle ukutyelela ifama okanye isitali ukuze ubone indlela umntwana wakho aziphatha ngayo izilwanyana. Ukundwendwela rhoqo abahlobo abanezinja, iikati, imivundla, okanye iintaka kusenokuba yindlela entle yokuqalisa ukuqonda ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuba nesilwanyana sasekhaya. Iindawo zokuhlala zezilwanyana nazo zamkela amatsha-ntliziyo ukuba ancede.