UMary Allen
Ngokutsho kwe-cliché, "inkosikazi yekati ephambeneyo" ineekati ezininzi ezihlala zodwa. Le ngqungquthela ngokuqinisekileyo iyabaxwa. Kodwa kukho ezinye iindlela zokuziphatha ezinxulumene namanenekazi ekati aphambeneyo. Zingaphi kwezi ozenzayo?
Ngubani omnye ophambene ngeekati? Ngokuqinisekileyo! Umfanekiso "womfazi wekati ophambeneyo" wenziwa ngokukodwa ngochungechunge olufana ne-Simpsons. Ngokwesiqhelo, umfazi wekati ophambeneyo ngoku ucingelwa njengomdala kancinane, umfazi ongatshatanga ongenalo unxibelelwano oluninzi ngaphandle kweekati zakhe (ezininzi). Le ngqungquthela ngokuqinisekileyo ibaxiwe ngokupheleleyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo kukho ezinye iindlela zokuziphatha zabanini beekati ezinxulumene ne "Crazy Cat Ladies". Saqokelela ezimbalwa zazo.
Le ngqokelela kufuneka iqondwe ngokuqhwanyaza. Akukho mntu uphumeza ezi nkalo uphambene! Kunoko, kuthetha ukuba uthanda iikati ngokubanzi, kunye nekati yakho ngokukodwa, kwaye ufuna ukubenza bajabule-kwaye akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngaloo nto, emva koko. Kukho intwana ye "Crazy Cat Lady" kuwo wonke umnini wekati. Mangaphi amanqaku asebenzayo kuwe?
I-Clich 1: Inenekazi lekati lithatha iifoto zekati yalo. Iifoto ezininzi.
Iikati ziyinto entle yefoto. Ngoko akumangalisi ukuba iigalari zeefoto kwiifowuni eziphathwayo zabanini beekati zihlala zifana nomzekelo wethu: iifoto zekati ukuya kuthi ga kwiliso. Kodwa kutheni kungenjalo? Awunakuze ube neenkumbulo ezaneleyo! Kwaye ukuba oko kuphambene kwabanye, akunamsebenzi!
I-Clich 2: Inenekazi lekati lenza ubuntu kwikati yalo
Ngaba ukhe weva amabinzana afana nalawa "Namhlanje ikati yam ivumele ukuba ndilale" okanye "kufuneka ndigoduke, ikati yam ilambile"? Kubantu bangaphandle, izivakalisi ezinjalo zinokuvakala ngathi “ziphambene” ngamaxesha athile. Ke, i-cliché malunga nabasetyhini bekati abaphambeneyo kukuba bajonga iikati zabo-bathetha okanye kubo ngokungathi bangabantu okanye iintsana zabo.
Sithi: Iikati kufuneka zihlale zivunyelwe ukuba zihlale iikati. Oko kuthetha ukuba: Ukwenza ubuntu ngengqiqo "yokuthetha malunga okanye kunye nekati" kulungile kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo kuxhaphake phakathi kwabanini beekati. Oku kwenzeka rhoqo xa uhlala nekati. I-Humanizing ikati ukuze ingakwazi ukwenza ukuziphatha kwayo okuqhelekileyo, umzekelo, ukuyikhahlela kwiingubo, ihamba kakhulu.
I-Clich 3: Inenekazi lekati lineefoto zekati kuyo yonke indawo
Iifoto zekati yakho. Wonke umnini wekati unazo ngobuninzi. Enye indlela yokuziphatha ehlala inxulunyaniswa ne "Crazy Cat Lady" ithumela ezi foto kuzo zonke iindawo. Nokuba yimeko yefowuni ephathwayo, i-pillowcase, kwimagi, njengefowuni ephathwayo okanye imvelaphi yedesktop, okanye ngendlela yakudala njengefoto eludongeni: Ngokwe-cliché, akukho ndawo "yomfazi wekati ophambeneyo" apho ifoto yekati yakhe ingenandawo.
Inqaku lesi-4: Inenekazi lekati likhetha ukuchitha ixesha nekati yalo kunabantu
Ngaba ukhe wakhetha ubusuku obupholileyo kunye nekati kunye nesofa yakho ukuya kubusuku kunye nabahlobo bakho? Ngokutsho kwe-cliché, "amanenekazi ekati aphambeneyo" athanda ukuba yedwa kwaye achitha ixesha elininzi kunye neekati zawo. Kodwa ke, ukuba unekati, uhlala ukwinkampani elungileyo!
I-Clich 5: Inenekazi lase Сat Lithenga Impahla NgePrinta Yekati
Xa ufunda ibinzana elithi “Crazy Cat Lady”, ngaba nawe ukhe ube nomfanekiso-ngqondweni webhinqa elinxibe ijezi elinento yokwenza nekati? Oku kukwayinxalenye yomfazi wekati ophambeneyo: uthanda iikati kunye neelokhwe njengaye. Siya: yintoni ke? Ukuthanda kwahlukile. Nabani na othanda i-jumpers, ii-tops, okanye iikawusi ezineekati zekati kufuneka azinxibe!
I-Clich 6: Inenekazi lekati lenza iiProfayili zeMedia yeNtlalo yeKati yakhe
Iprofayile kaFacebook okanye i-Instagram yekati? Uninzi lwabantu lunokuthi "uphambene". Abanye bakufumanisa kulungile ukwabelana ngeefoto zabo zekati ezintle kunye nehlabathi ngale ndlela. Ngapha koko, zininzi kakhulu! Kule mihla, nangona kunjalo, ayiqhelekanga ukuba izilwanyana zasekhaya zibe neeprofayile zazo zemidiya yoluntu. Abenzi nje abaninzi abanini beekati, kodwa nabanini bezinja okanye ezinye izilwanyana. Ngoko ke “ayisiyompambano” – ngumbandela nje woluvo.
I-Cliché 7: Ikati ithatha isigqibo sokuba yeyiphi indawo
Izinja zinabanini, iikati zinabasebenzi: esi sisiqubulo kwimizi emininzi yeekati. Ngokwe-cliché, akukho ngxaki kubafazi bekati abaphambeneyo! Ucalucalulo ngakubo: Bazonakalisa ngokwenene iikati zabo. Ikati ngokukhawuleza ayisakuthandi ukutya kwayo? Emva koko uya kufumana enye! Kwaye awusoze ube nezinto zokudlala zekati ezaneleyo. Iikati zihlala ziba ngabom kakhulu. Kwaye njengomnini wekati onothando, uyaziqhelanisa nemikhwa yekati ngamanye amaxesha…
Isiphelo sethu: into ehlala iqhelekile kubanini beekati ngamanye amaxesha inokubonakala ngathi iyaphambana kubantu bangaphandle. Abanini beekati abaninzi ke ngoko bazalisekisa enye okanye enye i-cliché malunga nomfazi wekati ophambeneyo. Yiyo loo nto kungekho mntu uphambene ngokwenene. Abaphandi kwiYunivesithi yaseCalifornia bade bafumanisa kuphononongo ukuba ucalucalulo oluqhelekileyo lomfazi onesizungu kunye neekati ezininzi alunasiseko: "i-Crazy Cat Lady" ayikho. Kwaye kunjalo: ngubani othi ihlala ingumfazi wekati ...