UMary Allen
Abalandeli bezinja kunye nabathandi, kuquka abanini bezinja, abakhuselekanga kwiimeko ezingathandekiyo kunye nezinja ezingaqhelekanga.
Okokuqala, awuyazi ukuba inja yangaphandle iqeqeshelwe kwaye ihlalisana kangakanani. Nokuba ubonakala enomdla kwaye enobuhlobo ekuqaleni kokudibana.
Nangona uyazi umnini wenja ixesha elide, awukwazi ukuhlala ucinga ukuba inja yabo iyakuthanda kakhulu.
Ziphephe ezi zinto zi-3 zilandelayo xa udibana okokuqala kwaye xa udibana nabantu ongabazi ngokupheleleyo!
1. Uyoyikisa inja ngokusondela kuyo ngokukhawuleza!
Ngamanye amaxesha sikhukuliseka ngokulula kukulangazelela kwethu inja entle, ethandekayo, okanye ekhangeleka ifuze kwaye siphantse sileqa ukuya kuyo!
Abantwana, ngokukodwa, kufuneka badimazeke kuba oku kwenzeka kubo rhoqo, ngakumbi ukuba bangathanda ukuba nenja ngokwabo, kodwa oku akunakwenzeka ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukeneyo!
Le ndlela ikhawulezayo, nangona kunjalo, inokuyoyikisa inja engaqhelekanga. Kwakhona kusenokwenzeka ukuba umniniyo uyoyika ngenxa yokuba esazi ngendlela eziphatha ngayo inja yakhe yaye le nkxalabo nayo idluliselwa enjeni.
Kunokuba inja iyiphulule ngothando, emva koko inja isabela ndlongondlongo!
Qaphela: Nika inja nganye ixesha lokukunukisa kuqala!
2. Uvusa ubundlongo-ndlongo enja ngenkangeleko yakho eyoyikekayo!
Usenokungayazi nembonakalo yobuso bakho. Usenokuba ucinga ngeengcinga ezingonwabanga, ezizaliswe yinkxalabo, kwaye ukujonga kwakho kunokubonakala kukruqukile, kunomsindo, okanye kukungakhathali.
Kuye kwangqinwa ukuba izinja azikwazi nje ukuva iimvakalelo zethu ngeemvakalelo zabo ezintle, kodwa zifunde ukutolika ubuso bethu.
Inja engaqhelekanga inokuqonda i-charisma yakho engalunganga, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ayazi ukuba oku akujoliswanga kuye. Ke uya kuthatha indawo yokuzikhusela kwaye ala umzamo wakho wokuphulula.
Qaphela: Hlala uncuma xa usondela kwinja engaqhelekanga.
3. Wenza ukuba inja engaqhelekanga ikhweletele iqabane lakho!
Isithandwa sakho siyahlalisana kwaye siyakonwabela ukubethwa ngabantu ongabaziyo ukuba sisondela ngokufanelekileyo.
Ukuba wena kunye nenja yakho nidibana nomntu ongamaziyo kunye nenja yakhe kwaye iqala ukumbamba impumlo yoboya okanye idlale naye, inja yalo mntu wasemzini inokusabela ngomona.
Qaphela: Ungaze ushiye inja engaqhelekanga ngaphandle, kodwa lumka xa usondela, kuba uyazi kuphela ukuphendula komhlobo wakho onemilenze emine.