UMary Allen
Iikati zidinga indawo - njengathi, bantu. Yiyo loo nto kubalulekile ukunikela ingqalelo kwimiqondiso yekati yakho. Apha unokufumanisa ukuba yeyiphi isimilo esetyenziswa yikati yakho ukubonisa ukuba kufuneka uyishiye yodwa.
Iikati ziyaziwa ngokuzimeleyo - ubuncinane ezizimeleyo kunezinja. Gqoka udlale? Kuphela kuxa befuna thina ngokwethu! Wazi njani ukuba kufuneka ushiye ikati yakho yodwa ngoku? Ezi zinto zintathu ziyimiqondiso ecacileyo yoku:
Ikati iyazifihla
Akanakukwazi ukuyithetha ngokucacileyo: Xa ububovu bakho burhoxa, ngokucacileyo ufuna ukuba yedwa. Emva koko kufuneka unike ikati yakho oku kuphumla kwaye ungayisukeli okanye uyikhuphe kwindawo yayo yokuzimela.
Oku kuyinyaniso ngakumbi xa kukho iindwendwe ekhaya. “Ndikhe ndabona abanini beekati bekhupha iikati zabo phantsi kwebhedi ukuze bazifake ezingalweni zondwendwe oluthanda ikati,” unikela le ngxelo uPam Johnson-Bennett, umbhali nengcali kwihambo yeekati.
“Ngokwembono yekati, ngequbuliso yabekwa kwindawo eyingozi kakhulu. Ubanjwe ngumntu ongamaziyo onuka ivumba elingaqhelekanga kwaye akanalo nexesha lokufumanisa ukuba lo mntu akanabungozi okanye uyoyikisa. ”
Unxibelelwano olunjalo olunyanzelwayo lunokwenza ikati ibe ndlongondlongo ingazimiselanga. Le ngcali ithi: “Ngokuqinisekileyo kukwenza ube mathidala ukuphuma kwindawo ozimele kuyo xa uphinda unkqonkqoza emnyango. "Ukuba uvimba ikati yakho ekukhetheni indlela abalungiselela ngayo indawo yabo, oko kunokuthetha ukuba baya kuyidinga ngakumbi kwixesha elizayo."
Inkcaso
Ukuba ikati yakho ibona imida yayo igqithiswa, inokukhawuleza ibe nomsindo. Kutshanje ke kufuneka unike ikati ixesha kunye nendawo yokuphumla kwakhona. Ukuba ndlongondlongo kuboniswa, phakathi kwezinye izinto, ngokuma okuqinileyo, umsila ogqabhukileyo, nokufutha.
Ukuzihombisa kunye nezinye iimpawu zoxinzelelo
Ukuba ikati yakho ayikhululekanga kwaye ifuna ukuphumla, inokuba ibonisa ezinye iimpawu. Ukugqithisa, oko kukuthi, ukulungiswa ngokugqithiseleyo, okunokukhokelela ekulahlekelweni koboya kunye nokucaphuka kwesikhumba, luphawu oluqhelekileyo loxinzelelo, umzekelo.
Nangona kunjalo, ezinye iikiti nazo zilahlekelwa ngumdla wazo okanye zihlambuluke ngokukhawuleza kwaye zingasayisebenzisi ibhokisi yenkunkuma. Ngazo zonke ezi ziphathamandla, nangona kunjalo, kufuneka udibane nogqirha wezilwanyana ukuba ube kwicala elikhuselekileyo ukuze ulawule ezinye izizathu.
Ngokomzekelo, ezinye iikati zinokuziva zicinezelekile emva kokufuduka kwindlu okanye xa izilwanyana ezintsha okanye abantu beza endlwini. Emva koko kusenokwenzeka ukuba amanqina evelvet afuna ukuphumla ngakumbi kunye nendawo ukuze aziqhelanise kancinci kancinci nale meko intsha. Ukuba udala indawo ekhuselekileyo yekati yakho, ngokuqinisekileyo iya kukufuna kwakhona ngexesha elithile.