Mary Allen
Nkhani zambiri zokhudza umwini wa galu ndi kuphunzitsa agalu, komanso miyambi yambiri imalongosola galu kukhala bwenzi lapamtima la munthu.
Koma kodi zimenezi zilidi choncho? Kodi galu amawetedwa kwambiri moti nthawi zonse amamangiriridwa kwa mwiniwakeyo mokhulupirika komanso mokhulupirika?
M'buku lake laposachedwa, katswiri wa zamoyo wa ku Britain John Bradshaw amafotokoza za kuyesa kufufuza momwe agalu amapangira mabwenzi ndi anthu!
Kapangidwe ka kafukufuku
Maphunziro ake anali okhudza kudziwa kuchuluka komanso nthawi yomwe mwana wagalu amafunikira kulumikizana ndi anthu kuti ubale wodalirana ukule.
Pachifukwa ichi, ana agalu angapo adabweretsedwa m'khola lalikulu ndikudulidwa kuti asakumane ndi anthu.
Ana agalu anagawidwa m'magulu angapo. Gulu lirilonse liyenera kupita kwa anthu mu magawo osiyanasiyana akukula ndi kukhwima kwa sabata imodzi.
M'kati mwa sabata ino, kagalu kalikonse kanaseweredwa kwambiri kwa maola 1 ½ abwino patsiku.
Pambuyo pa mlungu umenewo, panalibenso kulankhulana kwa nthaŵi yotsalayo kuti amasulidwe pamlanduwo.
Zotsatira zosangalatsa
Gulu loyamba la ana agalu anakumana ndi anthu pa zaka 2 milungu.
Pamsinkhu uwu, ana agalu amagonabe kwambiri kotero kuti palibe kukhudzana kwenikweni pakati pa galu ndi munthu kungakhazikitsidwe.
Gulu la masabata atatu, kumbali ina, linali lachidwi kwambiri, lamoyo, komanso lochita chidwi ndi kuyandikira kwadzidzidzi kwa anthu.
Gulu la ana agalu nthawi zonse linkabweretsedwa m'nyumba ya owasamalira ndi nthawi ya zaka za sabata imodzi ndipo zowona za khalidwe la anthu zidalembedwa.
Pamasabata 3, 4 ndi 5, ana agalu anali ndi chidwi komanso okonzeka kuchita zinthu ndi anthu mwachisawawa kapena pakangopita mphindi zochepa.
Chenjezo ndi kuleza mtima
Zizindikiro zoyamba zamphamvu zosonyeza kuti ana agalu amakayikitsa kapena kuchita mantha pokhala pafupi ndi anthu omwe sankawadziwa mpaka pamene anafika ali ndi zaka 7.
Ana agaluwa atasamuka m'malo otchingidwa ndi anthu kupita m'nyumba ya wowasamalira, zidatenga masiku awiri athunthu akuleza mtima komanso kuyandikira mosamala mpaka kamwanako adayankha kukhudzana ndikuyamba kusewera ndi munthu wake!
Pakutha kwa sabata lililonse launyamata ana agalu anali paubwenzi wawo woyamba ndi munthu, nthawi yochenjera iyi idakula.
Ana agalu azaka 9 zakubadwa amayenera kulimbikitsidwa mozama komanso moleza mtima kwa theka la sabata kuti azilumikizana ndi eni ake ndikukulitsa chidaliro chokwanira kuti azisewera nawo.
Kutha kwa kuyesa ndi kuzindikira
Mu sabata la 14 kuyesako kunatha ndipo ana agalu onse adalowa m'manja mwa anthu okonda moyo wawo wamtsogolo.
Panthawi yosinthira ku moyo watsopano, ana agaluwo adawonedwanso ndipo kuzindikira kudapezeka. Tsopano kunali koyenera kuyeza zaka zomwe kukhudzana kunali kwabwino kwa ubale wa galu ndi munthu.
Popeza kuti ana agalu anali atakhalako ndi anthu amisinkhu yosiyana kwa mlungu umodzi m’milungu 1, kunali kofunikanso kuona kuti ana agaluwo amakumbukirabe kukhudzana kumeneku kufika pati ndipo motero amafikira anthu awo atsopano mofulumira.
Ana agalu, omwe adakumana ndi anthu ali ndi zaka za masabata a 2, adatenga nthawi pang'ono, koma adaphatikizidwa modabwitsa m'mabanja awo atsopano.
Ana agalu onse omwe amalumikizana ndi anthu pakati pa sabata lachitatu ndi la 3 la moyo asintha mwachangu kuti agwirizane ndi anthu awo komanso mikhalidwe yatsopano.
Komabe, ana agalu omwe sanakumanepo ndi anthu mpaka atakwanitsa masabata 12 sanazoloŵere eni ake atsopano!
Kutsiliza
Aliyense amene amasewera ndi lingaliro logula galu ayenera kulowa m'moyo wake mwachangu momwe angathere. Zenera la nthawi ya sabata lachitatu mpaka 3 kapena 10 la moyo ndi laling'ono kwambiri.
Oweta odziwika bwino amalimbikitsa kuyambika koyambirira ndikulimbikitsa kuyenderana kocheza ndi galuyo asanalowe ndi munthu wake!