Mary Allen
Eni ake agalu ochulukirachulukira akugawana chisamaliro cha anzawo amiyendo inayi. Wophunzitsa agalu Giulia Lautz akufotokoza zomwe zili zofunika pankhani yogawana agalu ndi chifukwa chake chitsanzocho nthawi zambiri chimalephereka, makamaka ndi agalu osudzulana.
Mayi Lautz, Kodi Galu Akugawana Nkhani M'moyo Wanu Tsiku ndi Tsiku Monga Wophunzitsa Agalu Mpaka Pati?
Pali eni agalu ambiri m'gulu lathu lamakasitomala omwe amagawana chisamaliro cha okondedwa awo ndi wina - kaya m'banja, pakati pa abwenzi, kapena ndi anthu akunja. Choncho, pa maphunziro athu ndi masemina, timakumana mobwerezabwereza ndi mafunso omwe chitsanzo ichi cha chisamaliro chimabweretsa, chomwe muzochitika zathu chawonjezeka kwambiri m'zaka zaposachedwa.
Ndichoncho chifukwa chiyani?
Kumbali imodzi, anthu ambiri amafuna kukhala ndi galu. Kumbali inayi, zitsanzo zogwirira ntchito zasintha kupita ku ntchito yosinthira yochulukirapo komanso ntchito yanthawi yochepa. Ndipo ngakhale kuti kale ankanena kuti munthu amene amagwira ntchito sayenera kusunga galu, lero tikudziwa kuti pali njira zoperekera galu moyo woyenerera ngakhale ngati wogwira ntchito. Chimodzi mwa izo ndikugawana agalu.
Mwachitsanzo?
Chitsanzo chapamwamba ndi chotchedwa "galu wosudzulana", mwachitsanzo pamene mbuye ndi mbuye akupitiriza kuyang'anira galu wawo pamodzi pambuyo pa kupatukana. Timakumana ndi nkhaniyi mobwerezabwereza ndi makasitomala athu.
Pamenepa, galu savutika mmbuyo ndi mtsogolo pakati pa mbuye ndi mbuye?
Izi zimatengera ngati mikangano pakati pa omwe adakwatiranawo ikumveka bwino kapena ayi. Ngati awiriwa apeza mgwirizano wina ndi mnzake, zitha kugwira ntchito. Komabe, zinthu nthawi zambiri zimakhala zovuta m'malingaliro kwa mbuye ndi mbuye, zomwe galu amamvanso ndipo zimatha kumukakamiza. Zomwe takumana nazo, nthawi zambiri, ntchitoyi imalephera posakhalitsa ndipo "galu wosudzulana" amatha kukhala ndi bwenzi limodzi pamene wina amachoka kwathunthu.
Ndipo ngati mwini galu mmodzi sangathenso kusamalira galu yekha chifukwa cha kusintha kwa zinthu?
Ngati galu ali woyenera pa izi, kugawana galu ndi njira yopulumutsira bwenzi la miyendo inayi kuti asadikire kwa maola kunyumba kwa mwiniwake. Komabe, muyenera kudziwa kuti izi zimakhudza nthawi zonse ubale wanu ndi galu wanu - malingana ndi momwe chisamaliro chogawana chimayendetsedwa malinga ndi nthawi.
Mukutanthauza chiyani?
Ngati galu amathera nthawi yambiri ndi mwini yekhayo woyambayo ndipo galu wogawana naye mnzake amangosamalira kwa maola angapo patsiku, izi kawirikawiri sizisintha chirichonse mu ubale wa galu ndi mwini wake. Ngati, mwachitsanzo, galu akugawana galu masiku anayi pa sabata ndipo mbuyeyo amangomutenga kuti akagone usiku, galuyo mosakayika adzakhala ndi mwayi wodziwongolera yekha. Galuyo sadziwa amene anamugula kapena amene analembetsa kuti ndi mwini wake. Kusunga ubale kumafuna kuyanjana ndi kukhalira limodzi.
Mumatani Ngati Wina Akudziwa Asanagule Kuti Sangathe Kusamalira Galu Payekha Ndi Kufuna, Chifukwa chake, Ayenera Kudalira Chisamaliro Chakunja?
Dosgharing ingagwirenso ntchito ngati mutsimikiza posankha galu kuti akhoza kukhala pamodzi ndi anthu osiyanasiyana. Koma ngati wina akunena kuyambira pachiyambi kuti ali ndi nthawi ya galu Loweruka ndi Lamlungu, timalangiza momveka bwino motsutsana ndi kugula. Munthuyo amathanso kuyenda ndi agalu kumalo obisalako Loweruka ndi Lamlungu. Ndipo palinso zochitika m'moyo zomwe zimakhala zomveka kufunafuna malo atsopano kwa galu kusiyana ndi kudalira kugawana nawo galu. Tayenda nawo kale makasitomala ambiri panjira iyi.
Kodi Muyenera Kusamala Chiyani Kuti Mtundu Wogawana Agalu Ugwire Ntchito?
Chokhachokha komanso chomaliza cha kugawana bwino kwa agalu ndikuti onse osamalira amakoka limodzi pankhani yophunzitsa galuyo ndikuyembekezera chisamaliro.
M'malo Mogawana Nawo Agalu, Mutha Kungoyang'ana Pogona Agalu…
Inde, iyinso ndi njira yochepetsera galuyo kuti asasiyidwe yekha kwa nthawi yayitali. Koma wina ayenera kusiyanitsa pakati pawo. Pali malo okhala nyama komwe galu amathera nthawi mu khola ndi nthawi yochepa panja, yomwe si nthawi zonse njira yabwino yosamalira. Koma palinso nyumba zogona agalu zomwe zimakhala zosavomerezeka, zimangovomereza agalu ochepa, komanso zimakhala ndi ubale wapamtima ndi alendo a tsikulo. Ngati galu akuganiza kuti ndi zabwino ndipo amasangalala kucheza ndi mabwanawe agalu, nyumba yaing'ono ya alendo ikhoza kukhala yankho labwino kuposa kugawana agalu popanda kugwirizana kwa galu. Apanso, ndikofunikira kuyang'ana nkhani iliyonse payekhapayekha.