Mary Allen
Pssssst… kudzuka pa sofa mwakachetechete kwambiri kuti galu wanu asazindikire kuti mukuchoka?
Kodi mwayamba kale chizolowezi chozemba m'nyumba kuti galu wanu asakutsatireni kulikonse?
Ngati mukufuna kuphika mwamtendere osayang'ana kuluma m'manja mwanu, muyenera kumutsekera kunja?
Izi zikumveka ngati… tinene… zosamasuka.
Ndi?
Zabwino zonse kuti muwerenge nkhani yathu pafunso lakuti "Ndingadziwe bwanji kuti galu wanga akundilamulira?" adakumana
Tikukufotokozerani zomwe agalu athu akuyenera kuwongolera ndi momwe mungazindikire kufunikira kwa galu wanu kuti amulamulire ndipo pamapeto pake kumuchotsa kupsinjika.
Mwachidule: Palibenso khalidwe lolamulira!
Kukakamizika nthawi zonse kuti muzitha kulamulira kumakhala kovuta - kwa inu ndi galu wanu. Choncho ndikofunikira kuyang'anitsitsa ndi kuzindikira khalidwe la galu wanu ndikupeza mfundo zoyenera.
Kodi galu wanu nthawi zonse amakhala m'mphepete ndipo ali wokonzeka kudzuka mukatero? Kodi sizingakhale zabwinoko ngati galu wanu akanangogona pamenepo ndikupumula? M’pofunika kuti mumuikire malire.
Mukhozanso kutseka chitseko kumbuyo kwanu kapena kutumiza galu wanu kumalo ake ngati mukufuna kukhala nokha.
Zachidziwikire, muyenera kukulitsa maphunzirowo pang'onopang'ono ndikuyankha momwe galu wanu akumvera. Simukufuna kumulanga, mukufuna kumuphunzitsa kuti mutha kudzisamalira.
Kodi ndingadziwe bwanji kuti galu wanga akundilamulira?
Nthawi zambiri timazindikira chizindikiro ndipo sitingathe kuchigwirizanitsa ndi chifukwa.
Kodi mumavutika kusunga galu wanu mukamakumana ndi agalu? Kodi galu wanu nthawi zonse amakulowetsani mukamakumbatira alendo? Kapena galu wanu amakutsatirani mukapita kuchimbudzi?
Zonsezi zikhoza kukhala zizindikiro za kukakamizidwa kulamulira - koma siziyenera kukhala, chifukwa: agalu athu onse ndi amodzi. Kotero palibe yankho lamba ku khalidwe la galu wanu.
Tip:
Ngati simukutsimikiza za khalidwe la galu wanu, chonde funsani mphunzitsi wapafupi. Kukambirana kwanu ndi kudziwana wina ndi mzake kudzakuthandizani kupanga phukusi la maphunziro anu!
Tsopano tiyerekeze kuti galu wanu akufuna kupita nanu kuchimbudzi chifukwa sakukhulupirira kuti muzichita nokha. “Zachabechabe, zimenezo nzopusa”, ukuganiza tsopano?
M’malo mwake, mwina munaphunzitsa galu wanu mosadziwa mtundu wa “kukakamiza kulamulira.”
Kodi nthawi zonse ankaloledwa kukutsatirani ndi kutsagana nanu kulikonse? Simunamubwezere pampando wake pamene ananyamuka nanu, ngakhale kuti sanafunikire kutero pamene belu la pakhomo linalira?
Chabwino, kodi ikuyimbirani inu tsopano? Galu wanu akuganiza kuti Ayenera kupita nanu kulikonse chifukwa sanaphunzire kuchita mosiyana.
Izi sizikutanthauza kupsinjika ndi kusatsimikizika kwa inu, komanso galu wanu! Ndibwino kuti mufufuze kuti muwone zizindikiro zoyamba za munthu amene akufuna kulamulira ndikutsutsa kukakamizidwa kwawo.
Thandizeni, galu wanga akundilamulira!
Kukakamizika kosalekeza kumasanduka kupsinjika maganizo ndipo kumatha kufalikira kumadera ena a moyo. Agalu amene amamatira ku zidendene za eni ake nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi vuto lalikulu losiyidwa okha.
Mutha kuwerenga zambiri za kukhala nokha mu wotsogolera wathu: "Kodi galu angakhale yekha mpaka liti?".
Ngati mulola galu wanu kukhala pambali panu, adzakhala ndi nthawi yovuta ngati sangakhale nanu kwa mphindi zingapo (kapena maola - oh god oh god!).
Muyenera kusankha kuti muli bwino bwanji ndi galu wanu "kukuthamangitsani". Zingakhalenso kuti galu wanu akungoyang'ana kuyandikana kwanu kapena kusintha.
Choncho sikuti nthawi zonse muyenera kumukana nthawi yomweyo. Onetsetsani kuti ndi zochitika ziti zomwe amachita zomwe simukuzikonda.
Inde, simuyenera kunyalanyaza mlingo wa kupsinjika kwa mnzanu wamiyendo inayi. Ngati sakupezanso mpumulo chifukwa mukuyendayenda kunyumba ndipo amatha kuzizira mukamatero, muyenera kuyesetsa naye!
Umu ndi momwe mungathetsere kukakamiza kulamulira galu wanu
Zimakhala zovuta apa ndi apo galu wanu akamamatira kwa inu ngati mthunzi? Kupeza muyeso woyenera sikophweka, chifukwa nthawi zonse timafuna kuti agalu athu azitizungulira.
Komabe, muyenera kudziikira malire!
Monga momwe mungaganizire, sizosangalatsa kuti galu wanu azikuyang'anani nthawi zonse. Sichimatchedwa “kulamulira mokakamiza” popanda chifukwa.
Tangoganizani kuti nthawi zonse mumadziwa kumene munthu amene mumamukonda ali chifukwa chakuti mwinamwake mumasowa mtendere kapena kuchita mantha. Kupanikizika koyera!
Tsopano mupeza momwe mungapezere kuwongolera kwa galu wanu ndikusiya chizolowezicho.
Ndi malangizo awa mutha kuthandiza galu wanu kuti apumule kwambiri:
1. Sankhani nokha zomwe zikukuvutitsani
Kodi zili bwino kwa inu ngati galu wanu amakutsatirani pabwalo pamene mutuluka, koma zimakuvutitsani ngati akudikirira kunja kwa chitseko cha chimbudzi kuti muchite bizinesi yake?
Zomveka! Kenako yambirani pomwepo. Ngati mukufuna kupita kuchimbudzi, tumizani galu wanu pampando wake atangodzuka.
Apa ndi bwino kulamula galu wanu kuti "Khalani!" kuphunzitsa. Mutha kuwonjezera nthawiyo kuti akhalebe m'malo mwake mpaka lamulo litathetsedwa ndi "Chabwino!".
Poyamba, ndi kokwanira ngati mutengerepo masitepe angapo kuchokera kwa iye ndikumutamanda kwambiri chifukwa chogona. Pang'onopang'ono mumasunthira kutali mpaka Hundi atha kugona modekha ndikupumula ndikudikirira kubwerera kwanu.
2. Osawerenga kwambiri
Inde, kulamulira ndi kulamulira ndi mbali ya khalidwe labwino la agalu athu. Komabe, si zonse zomwe zingathe kufotokozedwa motere.
Chifukwa chakuti galu wanu wayima ndi mapazi ake akutsogolo kumapazi anu pamene mukumuweta kapena akugwedezeka pang'ono pa munthu yemwe amamukonda kwambiri chifukwa chogwirana naye sizikutanthauza kuti akulamulira kapena kulamulira.
Zomwezo zikugwiranso ntchito pano: Ngati khalidweli likukuvutitsani, fufuzani chifukwa chake ndendende ndikuyambitsa maphunziro anu pomwepo!
3. Osapanga cheke
Kumene kulibe positi, kulibe minder! Onetsetsani kuti bedi la galu wanu lili pamalo opanda phokoso.
Zosayenerera ndi malo omwe ali pafupi ndi khomo lakumaso kapena omwe amamupangitsa kuwona bwino zonse zomwe zikuchitika.
Mungathe kupewa khalidwe lolamulira mwa kusatumiza galu kumalo ochezerako poyamba. Zomveka? Zomveka!
Kutsiliza
Njira yaikulu yomwe mumazindikira kuti galu wanu akukulamulirani chifukwa amatsatira njira yanu iliyonse. Nthawi zonse amafuna kukhala komwe muli ndipo ngati izi zikutanthauza malo opanda phokoso, galu wanu adzakhalabe wokhulupirika kwa inu!
Muyenera kusankha nokha pamene khalidweli likugogomezerani kapena kukuvutitsani komanso kuyang'anitsitsa ngati limayambitsa nkhawa kwa galu wanu.
Ngati nthawi zonse mumapatsa galu wanu mwayi "wokulamulirani", izi zikhoza kulimbikitsa khalidwe lake ndipo adzafuna kukuyang'anirani pazochitika zina. Mwachitsanzo, mukakumana ndi agalu kapena alendo akabwera.
Posachedwapa galu wanu sakulolaninso kukumbatira anzanu, zosangalatsa zimasiya. Pewani izi pokhazikitsa malire ndi galu wanu ndikuwaphunzitsa kuti asakhale kutali ndi inu.