Momwe Amphaka Amawonetsera Miyoyo Yathu

Zomwe zili pamodzi zimakhala pamodzi - ngakhale dzanja la velvet litalowa m'miyoyo yathu. Koma kodi khalidwe lathu limakhudza bwanji amphaka athu?

Mukukumbukira nthawi yomwe mudakumana ndi mphaka wanu koyamba ndikusankha kuti: "Ndiwe, ndife limodzi!" Kafukufuku akuwonetsa momwe "chikondi cha amphaka-munthu poyang'ana koyamba" chimayambira komanso momwe timakhudzira amphaka athu.

Mwini Amasonkhezera Mphaka

Gulu lofufuza motsogozedwa ndi Lauren R. Finka wochokera ku yunivesite ya Nottingham Trent linafufuza momwe umunthu wa anthu ndi amphaka umayenderana ndi kusonkhezera wina ndi mnzake.

Katswiri wa sayansi Lauren R. Finke amakhulupirira kuti: “Kwa anthu ambiri, n’kwachibadwa kunena kuti ziweto zawo ndi za m’banja mwawo komanso kuti azigwirizana kwambiri. Chotero tingalingaliridwe kuti timasonkhezera ndi kuumba ziweto zathu kupyolera m’makhalidwe athu ndi umunthu, mofanana ndi unansi wa kholo ndi mwana.”

Finka ndi gulu lake adafunsa eni amphaka oposa 3,000 za umunthu wawo. Pambuyo pake, ophunzirawo afotokoze za mphaka wawo mwatsatanetsatane komanso makamaka kuthana ndi moyo wabwino komanso mavuto aliwonse omwe angakhalepo.

Kufufuzako kunasonyeza kuti makhalidwe a eni ake sanangokhudza thanzi la mphaka komanso khalidwe lawo.

Eni Adzadwalitsa Amphaka Awo

Mwachitsanzo, panali kugwirizana pakati pa kuchuluka kwa neuroticism (chizoloŵezi chofuna kusakhazikika maganizo, nkhawa, ndi chisoni) mwa eni amphaka ndi mavuto a khalidwe kapena kunenepa kwambiri kwa amphaka awo.

Anthu okonda kwambiri (zizoloŵezi za chikhalidwe ndi chiyembekezo) ankakhala ndi amphaka omwe anali ochezeka kwambiri ndipo ankathera nthawi yambiri akuchitapo kanthu, pamene mwa anthu kuvomereza kwakukulu (kuganizira, chifundo, ndi kudzikonda) kunachititsanso amphaka ovomerezeka.

Timasankha Momwe amphaka Athu Akuchitira

Zikuwoneka kuti amphaka amawonetsa mantha athu akuya komanso chisangalalo chathu potengera okha mikhalidwe imeneyi. Munthu wokhazikika amapanga mphaka wokhazikika - izi sizongolankhula chabe.

Umunthu - kaya munthu kapena nyama - nthawi zonse umakhala wosinthika kumlingo wakutiwakuti. Kudziwa izi sikungotithandiza kukhala omasuka komanso odziganizira tokha: amphaka athu amapindulanso pamene timatulutsa bata pamene tikukhala nawo.

Izi zimayamba ndi zochitika zazing'ono za tsiku ndi tsiku, mwachitsanzo popita kukaonana ndi vet. Amphaka amamva mantha athu. Mutha kuzindikira ngati tili ndi nkhawa kapena tikungopanikizidwa ndi nthawi. Zonsezi zimamveka kwa iwo ndipo zimakhudza khalidwe lawo, amatha kukhala ndi mantha ndikudzipanikiza okha.

Ndikofunikira kwambiri kuthana ndi zovuta zanu mozindikira. Chifukwa: Ngati ndife okondwa, mphaka wathu nayenso - ndipo ndithudi mosemphanitsa!