UMary Allen
Izihloko eziningi ezikhuluma ngobunikazi bezinja nokuqeqeshwa kwezinja, kanye nezaga eziningi zichaza inja njengomngane omkhulu womuntu.
Kodwa ingabe kunjalo ngempela? Ingabe inja ifuywa ngezinga kangangokuthi njalo futhi ngokuzenzekelayo inamathele kumnikazi wayo ngendlela yokwethembeka nokwethembeka?
Encwadini yakhe yakamuva, isazi sebhayoloji saseBrithani uJohn Bradshaw sichaza ngokuhlolwa ukuthi izinja zenza kanjani ubungane nabantu!
Isakhiwo sophenyo
Izifundo zakhe zazimayelana nokuthola ukuthi ingakanani futhi nini umdlwane udinga ukuxhumana nabantu ukuze ubudlelwano bokwethembana buthuthuke.
Ngale njongo, imidlwane eminingana yangeniswa endaweni ebiyelwe ebanzi futhi yanqanyulwa ngokuphelele ukuxhumana nabantu.
Imidlwane yahlukaniswa yaba amaqembu amaningana. Iqembu ngalinye kufanele libe selithuthela kubantu abasezigabeni ezihlukene zokukhula nokuvuthwa isonto elilodwa ngalinye.
Phakathi naleli sonto, umdlwane ngamunye ubudlalwe kakhulu amahora angu-1 ½ ngosuku.
Ngemva kwalelo sonto, akuzange kuphinde kuxhunyanwe naye isikhathi esisele esaholela ekukhululweni kwakhe ecaleni.
Imiphumela ethokozisayo
Iqembu lokuqala lemidlwane lahlangana nabantu lapho linamaviki ama-2.
Nokho, kule minyaka, imidlwane isalala kakhulu ngakho-ke akukho ukuxhumana kwangempela phakathi kwenja nomuntu okwakungasungulwa.
Iqembu elinamasonto amathathu ubudala, ngakolunye uhlangothi, lalifuna ukwazi ngokwedlulele, linomdlandla, futhi lithakasele ukusondelana okungazelelwe kwabantu.
Iqembu lemidlwane lalihlale lilethwa endlini yabanakekeli kanye nesikhawu sobudala esiyisonto elilodwa futhi okuphawulwe ngokuziphatha kwabantu kwaqoshwa.
Emavikini angu-3, 4 no-5, imidlwane yayinesithakazelo futhi ilungele ukuzibandakanya nabantu ngokuzenzakalelayo noma okungenani ngemva kwemizuzu embalwa.
Ukuqapha nokubekezela
Izimpawu zokuqala eziqinile zokuthi imidlwane yayisolisa noma yesaba ukuba phakathi kwabantu eyayingabazi kwaze kwaba yileso sikhathi lapho inamasonto ayi-7.
Lapho le midlwane isuka lapho ebiyelwe khona abantu iya endlini yomnakekeli wayo, kwathatha izinsuku ezi-2 ezigcwele zesineke nendlela ecophelelayo kwaze kwaba yilapho umdlwane uphendula othintana naye futhi waqala ukudlala ngomuntu wawo!
Njengoba isonto ngalinye elengeziwe lobudala imidlwane yayiqala ukuthintana nabantu, lesi sikhathi sokuqapha sakhula.
Imidlwane esukela emasontweni ayi-9 ubudala kwadingeka ikhuthazwe kakhulu nangesineke okungenani isigamu sesonto ukuze ixhumane nabanikazi bayo futhi yakhe ukwethembana okwanele ukuze kudlalwe ngayo.
Ukuqedwa kokuhlolwa nokufezeka
Ngesonto le-14 ukuhlolwa kwaqedwa futhi yonke imidlwane yangena ezandleni zabantu abathanda ukuphila kwabo kwakusasa.
Phakathi nesigaba sokulungiswa kwempilo entsha, imidlwane yaphinde yabhekwa futhi kwatholakala nokuqonda. Manje kwase kudingekile ukukala iminyaka lapho ukuthintana okwakungcono kakhulu kubudlelwane phakathi kwenja nomuntu.
Njengoba imidlwane yayike yahlala nabantu bobudala obuhlukene isonto elilodwa kuphela phakathi namasonto angu-1, kwakubalulekile futhi ukubona ukuthi imidlwane isakukhumbula kangakanani lokhu kuxhumana futhi ngaleyo ndlela isondele kubantu bayo abasha ngokushesha.
Imidlwane, eyayinokuxhumana nabantu inamaviki angu-2 ubudala, yathatha isikhathi esincane, kodwa yahlanganiswa ngokumangalisayo emindenini yayo emisha.
Yonke imidlwane exhumene nabantu phakathi kweviki lesi-3 nele-11 lokuphila isijwayele ukujwayelana nabantu bayo nezimo ezintsha ngokushesha.
Kodwa-ke, imidlwane engakaze ihlangane nabantu kuze kube yilapho iba namasonto ayi-12 ubudala ayikaze ibajwayele ngempela abanikazi bayo abasha!
Isiphetho
Noma ngubani odlala ngombono wokuthenga umdlwane kufanele asheshe angene empilweni yakhe kusenesikhathi. Iwindi lesikhathi leviki lesi-3 ukuya kwele-10 noma le-11 lokuphila lincane kakhulu.
Abafuyi abahloniphekile bakhuthaza izethulo kusenesikhathi futhi bakhuthaze ukuvakasha kokuzijabulisa ngaphambi kokuba umdlwane ekugcineni uzohlala nomuntu wakhe!