UMary Allen
Izinja zikhothwa empilweni. Lapho nje umdlwane omncane uphuma, unina uyawukhotha ngokuxhamazela ukuze asuse imigudu yokuphefumula. Ngokwamukela okunjalo, kungase kungabi yinqaba ukuthi ukukhotha kuyingxenye ebalulekile yokuphila kwenja. Kodwa kungani besikhotha thina bantu? Kunemibono ehlukene. Nazi izincazelo eziyisithupha okungenzeka.
I-1. Ezokuxhumana
Izinja zikhotha abantu ukuze zixhumane. Kodwa imilayezo ingahluka: “Sawubona, yeka ukuthi kumnandi kanjani ukuthi usekhaya futhi!” noma "Bheka ukuthi imbobo engakanani engiyihlafune ku-cushion kasofa!". Noma mhlawumbe: “Sisonke futhi ngiyazi ukuthi nguwe onqumayo.”
2. Isikhathi sokudla
Ezilwaneni uma unina kade eyozingela ukudla, uyaye abuye emazinyaneni ayophalaza lokho akudlile, okugayiwe nje ukuze kufanelane nabancane. Imidlwane elunyuliwe ivame ukukhotha umlomo kanina lapho ilambile. Ngakho-ke lapho izinja zisikhotha thina, bantu, ebusweni, ikakhulukazi emlonyeni, kungase kungabi ukuqabula kothando okwenzeka ngaphandle kokwaziswa: “Ngilambile, ngihlanzele okuthile!”.
3. Ukuhlola
Izinja zisebenzisa ulimi lwazo ukuhlola umhlaba. Futhi kungaba kalula nje mayelana nokwazi umuntu omusha. Abaningi abahlangana nenja okokuqala ngqa isandla sabo sihlolwa ngekhala nolimi olunelukuluku.
4. Ukunakwa
Abantu abakhothwa yinja basabela ngendlela ehlukile. Abanye ngokunengeka, iningi ngenjabulo. Mhlawumbe ngokunwaya inja ngemva kwendlebe. Ngakho ukukhotha kunemiphumela emnandi. Indlela enhle yokuqala umpetha noma unkosikazi ehlezi ethe njo phambi kwe-TV.
"Ngiyakhotha, ngikhona."
5. Khotha amanxeba
Ulimi lwezinja ludonswa amanxeba. Kudala kwaziwa ukuthi babezikhotha namanxeba abantu. Kuze kube yiNkathi Ephakathi, empeleni izinja zaziqeqeshelwe ukukhotha izilonda ukuze ziphole. Uma uzizwa kabi ekuhambeni kwenja, inja yakho ibonisa ilukuluku elikhulu.
6. Ukuthandwa nokuvunyelwa
Inja ilele eduze kwakho kusofa wena uyinwaya kancane ngemuva kwendlebe. Ngokushesha ingase ijike ukuze ilume nesisu sakho noma iphakamise umlenze ukuze ulunywa lapho. Ukuphendula, ikhotha isandla noma ingalo yakho, njengendlela yokuthi, "Sisonke futhi okwenzayo kungaphezu kokulungile." Mhlawumbe hhayi ubufakazi bothando kodwa umthombo wokwaneliseka.