UMary Allen
Ukuthola kanjani ukuxhumana okungcono kakhulu kwenja yakho? Ikakhulukazi ngendlela efanele yokukhuluma. Kwenziwa kanjalo!
Uke waqaphela ukuthi umngane wakho onemilenze emine usabela ngendlela ehluke kakhulu kuye ngokuthi ukhuluma kanjani naye? Abantu abaningi bacabanga ukuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi abathandekayo babo bazofunda incazelo yamagama ashiwo kubo. Kodwa lokho kuyiphutha. Ngokuyinhloko uyawuqonda umsindo wegama futhi awuhlobanise nokuziphatha okuthile, umuntu noma into ethile.
Lapho igama lizwakala kafushane, kuba lula ngaye ukulikhumbula. Ngenxa yalokhu, imiyalo eminingi yakudala inama-sibilants noma imisindo yonkamisa abade. Uma igama elifundiwe lifakwa emshweni, umsindo walo uyashintsha futhi ngokuvamile awusabonwa. Ngakho-ke indlela oyitshela ngayo inja yakho okuthile ibalulekile ekulaleleni kwayo.
Kuncike ekugcizeleleni
Izwi lomuntu alikwazi nje ukuveza amagama kuphela kodwa futhi nokuthutha imizwa. Isikhathi esiningi asiziboni lezi zinguquko ezincane ezwini, isibonelo uma sithukuthele noma sidabukile. Nokho, indlebe yenja ezwelayo ibona ngisho nokushintshashintsha kwemizwa okuncane kakhulu endleleni esikhuluma ngayo nayo. Lokhu kungamcasula futhi kumenze afune ukuziqhelelanisa noma avele angaqondi ukuthi ufunani kuye.
Uma umbiza nge-bastard embi ngezwi elinothando, uzoqaphela kuphela iphimbo lakho lobungane futhi azulise isandla sakho kuwe ngenjabulo. Ngokuphambene, uma uyilahla ngokunganaki nangephimbo lezwi elicasulayo, ngeke akuqonde ukumdumisa kwakho. Ngakho-ke uma umngane wakho onemilenze emine engaphenduli emyalweni wakho ngokushesha, zama futhi futhi uqaphele ithoni yezwi lakho.
Inja ethule
Uma isilwane sakho esifuywayo siwuhlobo oluthulile, kufanele ukhethe ithoni ejabulisayo, ekhuthazayo yemiyalelo yakho. Udinga ukujabula okungokomzwelo kuwe ukuze aqhubeke. Ngokunokwenzeka, lokhu kubuye kumenze alalelisise, ngakho kwanele ukukhuluma naye ngezwi elivamile noma elithule.
Lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu uma eba nokukhathazeka kalula: Amazwi aphezulu noma ajulile azwakala enolaka futhi esongela kuye futhi uyobe esecabanga kabili ngokuthi akulalele yini noma abaleke. Sebenzisa izwi lakho eliphezulu, eliqondile ukuze udlulisele ukuzethemba nokuphepha. Uma namanje engalandeli, ingxenye encane, ethasiselwe ngokucophelela yokuqina kothando ephimbweni iyasiza.
Inja ephapheme
Uma, ngakolunye uhlangothi, umngane wakho wesilwane ungomunye wabameleli abaqhakazile bohlobo lwayo, kungcono ukukhuluma naye ngezwi elizolile. Inkulumo eyeqisayo ingamenza ajabule ngisho nangokwengeziwe futhi yenze kube nzima ukuba acabange kahle futhi afeze imiyalo yakho. Angase ahumushe ithoni yezwi lakho njengokucela ukudlala futhi acasuke nakakhulu, okulimaza ikhono lakhe lokuxazulula izinkinga.
Nokho, uma ukhuluma naye ngobudlova lapho ezijabulisa kakhulu, maningi amathuba okuthi akhethe ukukuziba. Khetha ithoni ethambile, epholile, kodwa futhi eqinile, ngoba ukungaqiniseki kudluliselwa ngezwi futhi kungabangela ukuthi inja yakho iqonde umyalo njengesiphakamiso kunokuba i-oda. Okufanayo kusebenza lapha: izwi eliphakeme, elithulile cishe liholela empumelelweni kunokumemeza.
Kugweme ngokuphelele ukuklabalasa
Gwema isifiso sokukhipha intukuthelo yakho ngokumemeza. Uzokwethusa kuphela inja enenhliziyo ebuthakathaka kanti i-daredevil izokuthatha kancane kakhulu. Kungcono ukuzisindisa ekumemezeni kuphela njengesignali yezimo eziphuthumayo, uma isimo siba yingozi kakhulu.
Ngakho khumbula njalo: umsindo wenza umculo!