UMary Allen
Isibopho esiqinile nenja akuyona nje into emangalisayo, futhi kwenza kube lula kakhulu ukuzwana futhi kukhuthaze ukulalela komngane onemilenze emine. Lapha ungathola ukuthi ungakuqinisa kanjani ukuqondana kanye nobungane nomlingani wakho oyisilwane.
Uma ubuhlobo nomngane onemilenze emine bubonakala ngokuthembana nothando, ukukhulumisana kusebenza kalula futhi isibopho nenja siba namandla. Lokhu akuyona nje into enhle umuzwa, kodwa futhi kuyasiza ekuqeqesheni izinja. Ngoba: Isilwane esifuywayo esithemba umnikazi waso ngamaphesenti ayikhulu sibamba iqhaza ekuqeqeshweni ngenjabulo eyengeziwe ekufundeni nasekukhuthazeni futhi silalela ngokuzimisela umnikazi waso. Ngakho-ke kufanelekile ukwakha isibopho esihle nenja.
Ukuthuthukisa Isibopho Phakathi Kwenja Nomnikazi: Ngokuqeqeshelwa Ukulalela
Isibopho nenja sikhuthaza ukukhulumisana ngakolunye uhlangothi, kodwa futhi singaqiniswa ngokusebenzisa ukuqondana ngakolunye. Ningazijwayeza lokhu kudlala nomngani wakho omkhulu oyisilwane ngesikhathi ukuqeqeshwa kokulalela.
“Ukuqeqeshwa kokulalela,” kodwa akukhona mayelana nenja yakho ngokulandela imiyalo. Kunalokho, wena nesilwane sakho nizofunda ukwethembana nokuqonda ulimi lomunye nomunye.
Inja yakho iyaqonda ukuthi yini oyilindele kuyo lapho ukhipha imiyalo ethile futhi ubonisa ulimi lomzimba olukhethekile. Ungakwazi ukumazi kangcono umngane wakho onemilenze emine kancane kancane, uhumushe izimpawu zakhe, uzibeke ezicathulweni zakhe - futhi uhlele imiyalo yakho ngendlela yokuthi umlingani wakho onemilenze emine ayiqonde: ngokucacile, ngokungananazi, futhi ngokungaguquki.
Eminye imidlalo yezinja neyokungcebeleka nayo iqinisa isibopho nenja: Ukudansa kwenja, Ngokwesibonelo, amaphaphu or ukuhamba ndawonye kukusondeza eduze.
Indlela Yokuqinisa Isibopho Nenja? Usizo Lwemidlalo Nokuzivocavoca
Izinja ziye zafuywa ukuze zisebenze eduze nabantu kuwo wonke umlando wazo omude wokufuywa. Ngakho-ke, badinga imisebenzi abangabhekana nayo kanye nenkosikazi noma inkosi yabo. Imiphi imisebenzi encike ku- izinja kanye nobuntu bomngane onemilenze emine. Ukuthi inja yokuzingela, umzingeli, noma inja yethanga - wonke umngane onemilenze emine uyayijabulela imidlalo efanelekile nokuzivocavoca. Uma inja inenkani, izimele, futhi ihlakaniphe kakhulu, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba namahora okudlala ndawonye okukhuthaza amathalenta ayo ngaphandle kokuyikhokhisa ngokweqile.
Uma umngane wakho onemilenze emine enomuzwa wokuthi angakwazi ukuzijabulisa okwengeziwe ngaphandle kwakho futhi aphishekele izithakazelo zakhe kangcono, cishe uzokulalela kancane futhi azothola indlela yakhe. Akakwenzi lokhu ukuze akucasule, kodwa ngenxa yokuthi ukuziphatha kokungalaleli kunomvuzo futhi kukhululekile kuye.
By ukudlala imidlalo ndawonye lokho okumenzela ubulungisa, ungambonisa ukuthi ujabule kakhulu nawe kunoyedwa. Zizwe ukhululekile ukuzama ukuthi yimuphi umsebenzi okhuthaza umngane wakho onemilenze emine kakhulu. Imidlalo nokuzivocavoca enikujabulelayo nobabili kungcono kakhulu. Ngakho ungakwazi ukufundisa ezinye izinja amaqhinga, abanye uthando ukubuyisa or umsebenzi wekhala.
Ukudala Ukwethenjwa Ngemithetho Egxilile Nokungaguquguquki
Nakuba izinja ziyizilwane ezihlakaniphile, zingaqonda kuphela ulimi lwabantu ngokwezinga elithile. Iphimbo lezwi, ulimi lomzimba, futhi isignali yomyalo kufanele ihlale ifana futhi ifanelane ukuze umngane onemilenze emine akwazi ukufunda lokho okulindele kuye. Uma kungenjalo, uzodida inja yakho futhi ungayixazululi. Ikakhulukazi uma uphelelwa isineke futhi uthukuthele ngoba akawulandeli umyalo wakho. Ukuthembana akukwazi ukwakhiwa ngaleyo ndlela.
Uma ufuna ukuqinisa isibopho nenja yakho, kufanele ukwazi ukubikezela ngangokunokwenzeka nomngane wakho onemilenze emine. Ukufeza lokhu ngokungaguquguquki, ukucaca, nokungacaci emithethweni nasemikhubeni.
Misa imithetho eqinile yezikhathi zokudla, ukuhamba ngezinyawo, isikhathi sokudlala, izikhathi zokuphumula, nokuzilungisa onamathela kukho noma nini lapho kungenzeka. Lo mkhuba awuyisicefe inja yakho kodwa uyinikeza isakhiwo engasisebenzisela ukuma naso engathembela kuso. Ngale ndlela uzizwa ephephile futhi uyazi ukuthi usezandleni ezinhle nawe.
Hlonipha Inja Nezidingo zayo
Inhlonipho nokuhloniphana kufanele kuhambisane ebunganeni benja yomuntu. Funda ukuchaza kahle ulimi lomzimba nokuziphatha kwenja futhi ubone izidingo zomngane wakho onemilenze emine. Ngale ndlela, ungakwazi ukulungisa ukuqeqeshwa kanye namahora okudlala ngendlela yomlingani wakho wesilwane ngosuku futhi uthole ibhalansi elungile phakathi kokudinga kancane nangaphezulu kalula.
Uma umngane wakho omkhulu onemilenze emine ebonakala wagcizelela noma wesaba, hlala uzolile futhi ube yidwala lakho eliqinile. Bese ucabanga mayelana yini ehlupha inja yakho nokuthi ungasixazulula kanjani lesi simo.