UMary Allen
Uma uhlangabezana nenkinga yokusingatha noma ukuqeqesha ikati lakho ongeke ukwazi ukuyixazulula uwedwa, ungafuna usizo lochwepheshe.
Ekuphileni kwansuku zonke nekati, izinkinga eziningi ezahlukene zingavela. Isibonelo, ikati lingase lingakwazi ukuhlala lodwa futhi lingase libe nokukhathazeka ngokuhlukana. Noma kungcolile futhi awukwazi ukuthola imbangela. Mhlawumbe ikati liye labhekana nokuhlukumezeka futhi liziphatha ngendlela ehluke ngokuphelele kunangaphambili? Ziningi izizathu ezihlukene ezenza abanikazi bamakati bangabe besazi ukuthi benzeni futhi bagcine sebenekati labo ohlotsheni “lwe-dead-end” abangeke besakwazi ukuphuma kulo ngokuthanda kwabo.
Cela Usizo Ochwepheshe Bekati
Uma uhlangabezana nenkinga mayelana nokuqeqeshwa noma ukuphatha ikati ongeke ukwazi ukuzixazulula, noma uma ikati liziphatha ngendlela engaqondakali, akufanele wesabe ukucela usizo kuchwepheshe. Ngoba ngezinkinga eziningi, imbangela kufanele itholakale ukuze inkinga ixazululwe. "Vele" ukushintshana ngemibono nabanye abanikazi bekati ngokuvamile akwanele.
Kutuswa ukuthi ikati lihlolwe udokotela wezilwane kuqala ukuze ukwazi ukukhipha izinkinga ezingokomzimba njengembangela.
Uma izifo ezingokomzimba zikhishwa ngaphandle, bheka isixazululo sakho kanye nekati lakho. Kutuswa ukuthintana nesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sekati esinolwazi noma umelaphi wokuziphatha kwezilwane. Mhlawumbe omunye udokotela wezilwane noma uchwepheshe wezokudla angakusiza - kuye ngenkinga.
Ngesikhathi sokubonisana kokuqala, ungachaza isimo sakho kuchwepheshe ngokuningiliziwe. Angathatha isikhathi sakho nekati lakho futhi abheke isixazululo ngasinye.
Qaphela Lapho Ukhetha Ochwepheshe
Thatha isikhathi esanele sokukhetha uchwepheshe wekati "lakho" futhi uqhathanise abahlinzeki abahlukene. Akuzona izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zekati noma abelaphi bokuziphatha kwezilwane abawuchwepheshe abavikelwe yinhlangano. Ngisho nokuqeqeshwa nolwazi olunganele, ungazibiza kanjalo. Ungenza kahle ukuhlola ukuthi umsizi wakho omusha uthola luphi uqeqesho nokuthi unazo yini izithenjwa ezinhle ezivela kwamanye amakhasimende. Uma uthola umelaphi onconywe abanye abanikazi bamakati abaye baba nakho okuhle ngaleli kheli ngokwabo, lokhu ngokuvamile kuyisinqumo esihle.