UMary Allen
Uma unenja ejabulile, enelukuluku lokufuna ukwazi, nengeyona inkimbinkimbi engathanda ukubingelela abanye, ngezinye izikhathi kungase kube nzima ukuqonda ukuthi kungani abanye abanikazi bezinja behamba noma bethi cha. Mhlawumbe uzizwa ucasukile noma udabukile. Kodwa ungazithatheli ngokwakho, kungaba nezizathu eziningi zokuthi kungani umnikazi wezinja ohlangana naye engafuni ukuthi izinja zibingelele.
Isizathu esivame kakhulu esenza umnikazi wenja agweme umhlangano ukuthi umnikazi wenja ucabanga ukuthi “akudingekile” uma izinja cishe zingaphinde zihlangane. Umnikazi umane acabange ukuthi inja isinabantu ebaziyo. Ukuhlangana kwezinja njalo kusho ukushuba okuthile, izinja kufanele zihlole zodwa, futhi uma unebhadi, umhlangano ngeke ube mnandi njengoba ubucabanga. Uma izinja nazo zihlangana nge-leash, i-leash ingavimbela indlela yazo yokuxhumana ngokwemvelo nomunye nomunye noma kubangele bona noma abanikazi bazo ukuba bangene. Bese kuba nengozi yokuthi bazizwe beminyene futhi baqhubeke nokuzivikela. Ngakho-ke, abanikazi bezinja abaningi abafuni ukuthatha ingozi.
Kungani kungenjalo
Ezinye izizathu zokuthi kungani ungafuni ukuthi inja ibe nempilo kungaba ukuthi uyiqeqeshela lokho nje, hhayi ukugijimela kubantu noma ezinye izinja ehlangana nazo. Inja ingase futhi iyagula, isanda kuhlinzwa, noma ngenye indlela iphansi, mhlawumbe iyasebenza noma umnikazi umane akekho esimweni sakhe somphakathi.
Kulabo abanenja engena kalula ekucindezelekeni, ethuke, noma enze ukuqhuma, kungase kube nzima ukuxoxa ngokuthi kungani izinja kungafanele zihlangane. Ukuthi enye inja "inomusa" noma "iyinja ngakho-ke ihamba kahle" akuzona izingxabano umnikazi wenja okufanele aziphendule, kodwa kufanele nje ngenhlonipho ugcine ibanga lakho.
Okungcono Kakhulu Ukuhlangana Nokukhululeka
Yiqiniso, kukhona abanikazi bezinja abangathanda ukuthi izinja zihlangane, futhi kumdlwane omncane, kuhle uma uthola ukuhlangana nezinja eziningi ezahlukene, ngiyacela. Indlela elula yokuhlola isimo iwukubheka umnikazi wamehlo kude futhi ubuze kuyilapho izinja ziqhelelene. Cishe njalo kungcono kakhulu ukuthi izinja zingahlangana zikhululekile. Uma lokhu kungenakwenzeka, qiniseka ukuthi izintambo zixega futhi izinja zizolile lapho zihlangana.