UMary Allen
Ikati elilodwa, ipheya lamakati, noma amakati angaphezu kwamabili: inhlolovo ibonisa lokho abanikazi abaningi bamakati abakubheka njengokufanelekile. Ungafunda futhi ukuthi yini okufanele uyicabangele lapho uthenga amakati amaningana.
Ukuze ikati akufanele libe lodwa futhi likwazi ukuxhumana namanye amakati, abathandi abaningi bekati banquma ukugcina amakati amabili. Ucwaningo lwabanikazi bamakati lubonisa ukuthi ukugcinwa kwamakati amabili kuthandwa kakhulu.
Imibukiso yenhlolovo: Ipheya lamakati lilungile
Ngokwemiphumela yocwaningo, abanikazi bamakati amabili baneliseke ngokuphelele ngesimo sabo futhi abafuni ukushintsha lutho ngakho esikhathini esizayo. Amaphesenti angu-1.2 abona amakati amabili njengenani elifanele lamakati, kanti amaphesenti angu-XNUMX amancane angathanda ukuba nekati elilodwa futhi. Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi abanikazi abaningi bamakati amathathu noma ngaphezulu bangathanda ukubuyela ezindlini ezimbili.
Ngoba ngaphambili kobunikazi bekati isifiso sokuxhumana ngothando nezilwane kubo bonke abaphendulayo. Uma kunamakati amaningi, khona-ke azohlanganyela ngokuqhubekayo futhi ashiye umnikazi yedwa - umnikazi wekati akafuni lokho noma.
Ingabe Kufanele Wamukele Amakati Amabili Kanye?
Ucwaningo luphinde lwabuza ukuthi ngabe abanikazi bamakati bathatha ngamabomu amakati amabili ngesikhathi esisodwa noma ngabe iphakethe likhula ngenhlanhla? Imiphumela ibonisa ukuthi ikati ngalinye lesibili lamukelwa ngamabomu umgcini njengenhlanganisela yabantu ababili.
Emaphesentini angu-20 kuphela amacala okwakhethwa umbhangqwana othile ngokusekelwe ezicelweni ezikhethekile. Ubulili bamakati buvela lapha njengesici esifiselekayo esibaluleke kakhulu. Kwakusele ngamaphesenti angu-70 kuphela ukuba kwenzeke. Lokhu kusho ukuthi abanye abangani bamakati afuywayo nabo banqume ngamabomu abesilisa noma abesifazane abavela kudoti wangasese noma endaweni yokukhosela izilwane.
Ingabe Ngezinye izikhathi Amakati Athatha Indawo Yezingane?
Ngokwemiphumela yocwaningo, imibhangqwana yamakati ihlala kakhulu, okungamaphesenti angu-80, emikhayeni engenabantwana. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngisho namaphesenti angama-87 abanikazi bamakati ababambe iqhaza abazi noma bayazithanda izingane. Kulabo abahlala nezingane, amakati angama-32 (amaphesenti angu-5.5) athanda ukugona izingane, kanti amanye amaphesenti angu-3.8 athanda okungenani ikati elilodwa.
Izinkinga Emndenini Onamakati Amabili
Abanikazi bamakati amabili bazizwa benezinkinga eziningi (amaphesenti angu-22) ngezilwane zabo kunabanikazi bamakati abaningi (amaphesenti angu-5.8). Lo mehluko ungenxa yokuthi abanikazi bekati abavamile babecabanga ngokuyinhloko ngezinkinga ezivela empilweni yeqembu futhi abazange bakhulume ngezici zezempilo, isibonelo.
Abanikazi bamakati amabili, ngakolunye uhlangothi, babala yonke into, ngokuningiliziwe lokhu bekuyi:
- Ukumaka
- shy
- imikhuba emibi yokudla
- ukhuluphele
- Izifo
- umhawu
- ukuphumula
- Ukulola uzipho kufenisha
Kodwa-ke, imvamisa isiyonke yalezi zinkinga iphansi kakhulu, phakathi kwekati elilodwa nezine ku-100.
Thola Amakati Angaphezu Kwamabili?
Nakuba cishe amaphesenti angu-94 emindeni engu-155 eyahlolwa ihlala namakati angaphezu kwamabili ngaphandle kwezinkinga, engu-15 yayo (cishe amaphesenti ayishumi) ikhetha ukuba namakati ambalwa. Ikati elilodwa kuphela - kodwa akekho kuleli qembu ofuna lokho. Iningi lalaba banzi (amaphesenti angu-30) libona amakati amabili njengenombolo efanelekile, bese kuthi amathathu (15.5%) namakati amane (amaphesenti angu-10.3) asalungile. Inani elimangalisayo labanikazi bamakati (amaphesenti angu-8.4) lithi: “Into eyinhloko inombolo elinganayo!”.
Izizathu Zesinqumo: Ikati Nje?
Kungani abanikazi bekati abangabodwa bengatholi isilwane sesibili? Izizathu ezinikezwe abafuyi bekati abangabodwa abahlolwa yilezi:
- Cishe amakati ayengeke azwane.
- Uzakwethu (noma omunye umuntu) akakufuni.
- Izinkinga nomnikazi wendawo ezindlini eziqashiwe
- izindleko eziphezulu kakhulu
- indawo encane kakhulu
- isikhathi esincane kakhulu
- Beselivele linekati lesibili, kepha lelidala alizwani nelisha.
- Lona okhona unamahloni futhi ujabule yedwa.
Ithini Inani Eliphelele Lamakati?
Kunemithetho emibili emidala yesithupha mayelana nenani elingase lithathwe lamakati:
Umthetho Wegumbi: Ungalokothi ugcine amakati amaningi kunezindawo zokuhlala.
Umthetho Wezandla: Thatha kuphela amakati amaningi njengoba kunabantu ongabagona noma izandla ozowafuya.
Inhlanganisela yale mithetho emibili ilungile ngokuya ngesipiliyoni sabanikazi bamakati abavamile:
- Inani eliphakeme lamakati amane liyafaneleka kubantu ababili efulethini elinamagumbi amane.
- Umuntu oyedwa osebenzayo uzoba matasa ngokugcwele namakati amabili efulethini elilodwa. Kuye, “umthetho wesandla” uyasebenza, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uhlalaphi.
Umuntu ongashadile onesikhathi esiningi nendawo yokuhlala kanye nengadi ebiyelwe uhambisana nomthetho wegumbi futhi angakwazi nokubala amagumbi angaphansi uma efuna.
Kodwa: Ayikho imithetho ngaphandle kokuhlukile. Umndeni wamalungu ayisithupha efulethini elinamagumbi amane ungabeka uphawu “luvaliwe ngenxa yokuminyana” namakati amane. Ngisho nekati elilodwa lanele kubo, ngoba kuhlale kukhona umuntu ozofuya futhi adlale naye.
Ngaphambi kokuthenga ikati elilodwa noma ngaphezulu, kufanele ucabange ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuthi uzimisele ngempela yini ukuthwala isilwane, ukuthi sikhona yini isikhala esanele, ukuthi unaso yini isikhathi esanele sokunakekela ikati, nokuthi unolwazi olwanele mayelana nempilo, ukudla okunomsoco. futhi ukufuywa kwekati okufanelekile kuyatholakala futhi yiluphi uhlobo lokufuywa kwekati nekati olufanelekela wena kanye nesimo sokuphila.