UMary Allen
Abanikazi bavame ukuphatheka kabi lapho izinja zikhonkotha izihlobo zabo. Ngenhlanhla, kunezindlela zokuqeqesha ukuziphatha.
Kungokwemvelo ukuthi izinja zikhonkothe noma zibhonge ezinye izinja lapho ziyoshaywa umoya. Ezimweni eziningi, lokhu kumane kuwukubingelela kobungane kwabanye bohlobo olufanayo. Nokho, ukukhonkotha ngezinye izikhathi kungaba nolaka. Khona-ke kubalulekile ukuthola izizathu futhi ungavumeli inja ikhonkothe.
Ukukhonkotha ukuxhumana okuvame ukusetshenziswa izinja ukuze zithole lokho ezikubona njengokuhle noma ukuvimbela lokho ezikubona njengokungekuhle. Uma inja yazi ukuthi empeleni ithola ukwelapha lapho ikhonkotha, isuke ikwazi ukuthi ukuziphatha kahle lokhu.
Kungani Inja Ikhonkotha Kwezinye Izinja?
Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ngaso sonke isikhathi esigabeni sokuqala ukuthola isizathu sokukhonkotha. Ezinye izinja zijabulela kakhulu ukubingelela ezinye izinja noma abantu, kanti ezinye zingase zizizwe zisongelwa. Uma ukhathazekile, isibonelo, ukuthi inja yakho ikhonkotha ngokuphindaphindiwe futhi isikhathi eside ngokweqile, kufanele uthintane nodokotela wakho wezilwane. Ngoba, uma kunesidingo, kungase kube nembangela yezokwelapha ngemva kwayo, njengobuhlungu.
Uma izizathu zezokwelapha zikhishwa, ungabheka ezinye izimo zokukhonkotha. Kunini futhi kuziphi izimo lapho umngane wakho onemilenze emine ekhonkotha amaqabane akhe? Futhi yini ongayenza ukuze lokhu kungenzeki?
Isibonelo, kubalulekile ukugcina inja yakho imatasa futhi inamandla. Uma umngane wakho onemilenze emine ethola ukuqeqeshwa okwanele nsuku zonke, udlala naye futhi uyakwazi ukunyakaza ngokwanele, cishe uzokhathala ukukhonkotha kalula. Futhi izinja ezinesithukuthezi zikhonkotha ozakwabo kaningi kunabangane abalinganiselayo abanemilenze emine.
Zama Umzila Ohlukile Ngenja
Mhlawumbe inja yakho ikhonkotha kakhulu lapho uhamba ngoba imatasa kakhulu emzileni wakho ovamile. Ngakho ngesikhathi esilandelayo lapho uyoshaywa umoya endleleni ethule nangezikhathi ezithule, kungenza umehluko omkhulu. Khona-ke amathuba okuhlangana nezinye izinja eziningi ekuhambeni ayancipha.
Ziqeqeshe nenja Yakho - futhi Ubone Uchwepheshe
Uma inja yakho yazi ukuthi ezinye izinja zilungile, izoyeka ukuzikhonkotha. Ungenza umsebenzi omuhle kulolu hlobo lokususa imizwa ngokufaka ukuqinisa ngendlela yokuphatha. Kulokhu, kuhle, isibonelo, ukufaka ukusekelwa komngane onenja.
Umuntu kufanele ame kude kakhulu nenye inja kangangokuthi inja yakho ayikakhonkothi enye. Inja nomnikazi bangase basondele kancane ngenkathi uphatha umngane wakho onemilenze emine. Ngokushesha nje lapho “abahlaseli” bengasabonwa futhi, ukudla kuyama.
Konke lokhu kudinga ukuphindaphindiwe izikhathi eziningana - isikhathi ngasinye umuntu onenja ehlukile angasondela kancane. Nokho, khumbula ukuthi le nqubo yokuhlala ithatha isikhathi futhi inja yakho izothuthuka kancane kancane. Kubalulekile ukuthi ungayithethisi inja yakho uma iphinda ikhonkotha. Ngoba kumngane wakho onemilenze emine, kuzwakala sengathi ukhonkotha naye. Kunalokho, ukujima kufanele kuhlale kukuhle.
Futhi kunjalo: uma ungakwazi ukuqhubekela phambili ngokwakho, kungase kusize ukuxhumana nomqeqeshi oqeqeshiwe.