UMary Allen
Uma ufuna ukuvimba inja yakho ekukhonkotheni ngokweqile, kufanele uqale uthole ukuthi yini ebangela lokho ukuziphatha yomngane wakho onemilenze emine. Uma isitholakele, sekuyisikhathi sokubhekana nenkinga ye-Bell, esihlanganise ngayo amathiphu lapha.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kungenxa yokuzala, isithukuthezi, noma ukwesaba, ukukhonkotha ngokweqile kungaba nezimbangela ezihlukahlukene.
Uma Ukukhonkotha Okuqhubekayo Kuhlobene Nokuzalanisa: Nansi Indlela Yokumisa
Izinhlobo ezithile zezinja zivele zikhonkothe kaningi kunezinye futhi zijabulela ukwenza kanjalo - zivumele kodwa ngokulingene. Esimeni esihle kakhulu, uvulele ukuthula kusithandwa sakho esidinga ukuxhumana imiyalo njengokukhonkotha.
Uma inja yakho ithanda ukukhonkotha lapho kukhala insimbi yomnyango, ungazama lokhu okulandelayo: ukukhonkotha kathathu kulungile, bese uthi “Valiwe!” noma omunye umyalo owusebenzisa ngokungaguquki lapho ufuna ukumyekisa ukukhonkotha engafunwa.
Lapho ethule, mdumise kakhulu, kodwa ngomoya ophansi ukuze angakujabuleli ukubhodla futhi. Uma eqala ukukhonkotha futhi, dlala umdlalo ofanayo futhi: udumo ngokushesha nje lapho ethi "Vala!" yezwa. Izoqonda maduze. Kubalulekile ukuthi ubekezele ungasithethisi isithandwa sakho uma sibhodla. Khona-ke akuqondi ukuthi umthukuthelele futhi hhayi ukuthi kungani. Kunalokho, ibona izwi lakho elikhulu njengokukhonkotha okuvela kuwe futhi ingase izizwe iqinisekisiwe.
Lapho Inja Ikhonkotha Isuka Iqaphile Noma Isithukuthezi
Inja engasebenzi futhi engasebenzi isithukuthezi idinga ukuhlukahluka kwekhanda layo kanye nokuzivocavoca okuningi. Mthathe uhambo olude ngaphambi kokuthi uye emsebenzini bese umshiye yedwa. Uma enesifiso esinamandla sokunyakaza, kufanele umvocavoce ngebhayisikili futhi ushintshe nxazonke.
Izinja ezemidlalo ezifana ukufaneleka futhi qinisekisa ukuthi umngane wakho onemilenze emine ukhetha ukuthatha isihlwathi esikhundleni sokukhonkotha ngenxa yesithukuthezi lapho esekhaya yedwa amahora ambalwa. Nokho, lo mdlalo osheshayo awufanele zonke izinja. Uma umngane wakho onemilenze emine ethambekele ekubeni asebenze ngokweqile futhi ekhetha ukushukunyiswa ukushesha kunokukhathala, izindlela zokuqeqesha ezipholile zimfanele kangcono, ezidinga ukugxilisa ingqondo yakhe nokuthinta izinzwa zakhe ezinhle, isibonelo, ukufaneleka, ukulalela, ukukhohlisa, ukudansa kwezinja, or umsebenzi wekhala. Ngisho noma inja yakho ivinjelwe ngokomzimba noma kufanele iphumule amalunga ayo ngenxa yobukhulu bayo, intelligence imidlalo kanye nezivivinyo zokugxilisa ingqondo zilungele ukubaleka isithukuthezi.
Inja ekhonkotha wonke umsindo ezitebhisini ngenxa yokuqaphile akufanele ivunyelwe ukuba igade ngqo phambi komnyango ongaphambili uma kungenzeka - uma iphasishi lakho livalwa ngomnyango oxhumayo, livale bese ushiya inja yakho ngaphakathi. indawo yokuhlala lapho engakwazi khona ukwenza okuthile ngaphandle kokuqaphela okwenzeka ngaphandle. Ungakwazi nokushiya umsakazo uvuliwe uma ufuna ukumenza ayeke ukukhonkotha, njengoba lokhu kuzomthulisa futhi kuqinisekise ukuthi izigi ephaseji akuwona wodwa umsindo awuzwayo.
Ukukhonkotha Ngenxa Yokwesaba Nokungavikeleki
Uma inja ingaqiniseki futhi ikhala i-alamu uma nje umuntu ogijimayo edlula kuwe, kufanele uqinisekise yena. Mgcine ngentambo, mvumele ahambe eduze kwakho, futhi ungamnaki ukuziphatha kwakhe. Ngaphandle kwalokho, uzosebenzisa ngokungaqondile ukuqinisa okuhle futhi "ivuze" inja yakho ngokuziphatha kwayo okwesabekayo. Lokhu futhi kwenzeka lapho wena - ngenxa yozwelo futhi unezinjongo ezinhle kakhulu - ufuna ukududuza othandekayo wakho futhi ukhulume naye ngokupholile. Khona-ke ucabanga ukuthi unazo zonke izizathu zokwesaba lapho ngisho nenhliziyo yakhe indoda “nomholi wepaki” ebona isizathu sokudambisa isimo. Ngokubuyisela, uma uziphatha njengokungathi akukho okwenzekayo, inja yakho izoqonda ukuthi asikho isizathu sokucasuka futhi izokwehlisa umoya.
Ukukhonkotha Okuqhubekayo: Ludingeka Nini Usizo Lochwepheshe?
Akukona nje kuphela ukuthi imidlalo yezinja ingakwazi ukugcina umngane wakho onemilenze emine ukuthi angabi nesithukuthezi, kodwa futhi ingaqinisa isibopho phakathi kwakho nenja yakho futhi ubenze bazizwe bephephile nawe. Kungcono ukuthola umqeqeshi wezinja ukuze asize isilwane sakho esifuywayo esikhathazekile, esinesithukuthezi, noma esiqaphe ngokweqile ukuthi singakhonkothi. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi uma ungazi ukuthi kungani inja yakho ikhonkotha kangaka.
Uma umngane wakho onemilenze emine ekade ebanga umsindo owedlulele isikhathi esifushane, nakuba ngokuvamile wayengowohlobo oluthulile, ukuvakashela udokotela wezilwane ngeke kulimaze. Inja yakho ingase igule futhi ifune ukukwazisa ngokukhonkotha. Uma udokotela wezilwane engakwazi ukuthola izimpawu zomzimba, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo yezilwane ingakusiza ngaphezu komqeqeshi wezinja. Ijwayele kakhulu ukuziphatha kwenja futhi, ekukhulumeni nawe futhi usebenzelana nesithandwa sakho, ingase ikwazi ukuthola izizathu zokuziphatha kwayo okuphezulu ngendlela engathandeki ezihlale zifihliwe kuwe kuze kube manje.