UMary Allen
Ingabe inja yakho iyibhokisi lokuxoxa langempela? Uma enokuningi "okungakusho" kunawe, amathiphu ethu azosiza.
Inja inezwi futhi kufanele ilisebenzise. Ukwenqabela inja ukuthi ikhonkothe kungaba okungalungile, hhayi ukulungele izilwane, kanye nombhedo ophelele. Nokho, uma inja ikhonkotha ngenxa yesithukuthezi noma ngisho nokucindezeleka, ingakhula ibe ukukhonkotha njalo.
Akubuzwa ukuthi izinja zikhonkotha njalo akujabulisi. Akuwona nje wena ochayeka kukho, kodwa nomakhelwane nabadlulayo. Futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke, ibuye icindezele inja ngokwayo.
Ukukhonkotha njalo kwenzeka ikakhulukazi lapho umngane onemilenze emine esekhaya. Kunezizathu ezahlukene zalokhu. Futhi lapho uqaphela kakhulu izizathu, kuzoba lula ukuphula umkhuba wesilwane wokukhonkotha. Okokuqala, udinga ukushintsha ukuziphatha kwakho.
Dlulisa ukuphepha
Ngokufanelekile, izinja zibona umnikazi wazo njengomholi wephakethe futhi ziyamlalela. Umholi weqembu kufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi abonakale ezolile, ezethemba, futhi ezethemba. Uma kungenjalo futhi kuvela ukungaqiniseki, isilwane sinomuzwa wokuthi kufanele sizivikele. Kulokhu, ukukhonkotha okuqhubekayo kwenzeka ngenxa yokwesaba nokungavikeleki.
Gcina umngane wakho onemilenze emine ematasa
Inja yakho inselele ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba. Inja ekhishwe kahle isitimu izokhonkotha kaningi noma cha ngoba ikhathele kakhulu ngayo. Ngisho noma umngane onemilenze emine ebhodla isithukuthezi, lokhu kukhombisa nje ukuthi akakhuthazwa noma akaphonselwa inselelo ngokwanele.
Thatha isinyathelo ngokushesha
Uma ufuna ukwenza umngane wakho onemilenze emine ayeke ukukhonkotha, kufanele usheshe. Kufanele aqaphele ngokushesha lapho kuvela isimo lapho isilwane sivame ukukhonkotha. Bese uyibiza inja futhi uyigcine imatasa ngaphambi kokuba ikhonkothe. Gwema ukujeziswa nokuthethiswa. Imivuzo ibaluleke kakhulu. Ukuqeqeshwa kahle kwezinja nakho kungenziwa ngokuphelele ngaphandle kwezinhlawulo.
Ungakunaki ukukhonkotha
Ezinye izinja nazo ziyakhonkotha ukuze zithole ukunaka kwakho. Ngakho-ke, uma ungakufuni lokhu kuziphatha, akufanele unake isilwane. Futhi lokho kuhlanganisa nokusola. Kunalokho, ungakunaki ukukhonkotha ngokuphelele. Uma inja ima, umvuzo osheshayo ubalulekile.
Hlala uzolile
Uzoqaphela ngokushesha ukuthi umngane wakho onemilenze emine akabonisi ukuziphatha okufunayo inqobo nje uma umthethisa noma umemeza kakhulu “ucisha” kuye. Kunalokho, uzobona lokhu njengesikhuthazo sokuqhubeka nokukhonkotha futhi acabange ukuthi uhambisana nakho.
Mfundise ukuthi athule uma eyala
Ukusebenzisa umyalo ukuze wenze inja yakho iyeke ukukhonkotha kulula uma uqala ngokufundisa inja yakho umyalo wokukhonkotha. Ngakho-ke nikeza umyalo, isibonelo, “Shaya!” noma “Khuluma!”. Uma inja ingakhonkothi, yikhuthaze ukuba yenze kanjalo. Uma inja yakho isikhonkothe izikhathi ezimbalwa, yivuze ngokuyiphatha kahle.
Ngemva kokuba inja isiwuphethe kahle umyalo wokukhonkotha, ungadlulela emyalweni wokuthi uthule. Ngakho makakhonkothe bese ekhipha umyalo wokuba athule, njengokuthi “Vala!”, “Thula!” noma “Thula!”. Lapho nje inja iyeka ukukhonkotha, mnike umvuzo ngokushesha. Isithandwa sakho sizokukhumbula lokhu futhi, ngemuva kokuzijwayeza okuthile, sizoxhumanisa umyalo nomvuzo.