UMary Allen
Ukugxuma kuvame ukusho inja njengosawubona oshisekayo. Kodwa ngokuvamile omunye umuntu akakujabuleli ukubingelelwa ngezidladla ezinodaka. Ngakho-ke kungcono ukususa umngane wakho onemilenze emine kulokhu kuziphatha ngokushesha.
Uma inja yakho ingomunye walabo bangane abanemilenze emine abathanda ukushwiba izidladla zabo emoyeni, into eyodwa ngaphezu kwakho konke iyasebenza: Ungakuvumeli lokhu kube umkhuba. Ngoba lapho inja yakho ivame ukubungaza ukwamukela kwayo okunomsindo, kuzoba nzima kakhulu ukugqashula umkhuba walolu hlobo lokubingelela. Ngakho masinyane menze azi ukuthi eyakhe ukuziphatha ayifunwa - phela umngane onemilenze emine akakwazi ukuyihogela.
Abanikazi Bezinja Ngokuvamile Ngokungazi Nomvuzo Ukugxuma
Kulula ukukusho kunokukwenza. Abanikazi bezinja bavame ukwenza iphutha elibalulekile elenza kube nzima ukugqashula kulo mkhuba: Bavuza ukuziphatha komngane wabo onemilenze emine, nakuba bengazi. Mhlawumbe lesi simo esilandelayo sizwakala usijwayele: Ngemva kosuku olude emsebenzini, ubheke ngabomvu kumngane wakho onoboya ojabulayo, ozokubingelela ngendlela evamile enomsindo. Empeleni awukuvumeli ukuziphatha, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo ukugxuma okunothando kuyakuhlekisa futhi uphendule ngokuthi mbambatha. Ukusabela kwakho okuhle ngeke kuqashelwe inja yakho. Esikhathini esizayo, ngeke ashintshe lutho mayelana nokubingelela kwakhe. Ukungaguquguquki kubalulekile ukuze wenze umngane wakho onemilenze emine ayeke ukugxuma. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi muhle kangakanani umlingani wakho onezidladla ezine, mnikeze ihlombe elibandayo. Yile ndlela kuphela ongamkhipha ngayo ekuziphatheni kwakhe esikhathini eside.
Kanjani Lumula? Ungamnaki
Isebenza kanjani? Kulula kakhulu: lapho inja yakho iqala ukugxuma, kufanele ujike. Hlala kule ndawo kuze kube yilapho inja yakho isibeke eyakhe amaphuzu emuva emhlabathini. Futhi kuphela ke uphendukele kuye futhi umvuzo kuye. Mtshengise ukuthi wenze okufanele. Ngokuqinisekile ngeke kuthathe isikhathi eside ngaphambi kokuba aqonde futhi ungakwazi ukugqashula umkhuba wokumqala.